Original source: The Analects of Confucius Wei Linggong: "A gentleman seeks for himself, and a villain seeks for others." Wen Zi Suntech: "It's better to complain than to complain." So this sentence can be understood as: "It is better to work hard than to ask others."
There is no denying that life will inevitably encounter all kinds of difficulties, and with the increasing socialization of production, many things can not be accomplished by our own efforts, so we are not opposed to using the power of "nobles" However, the problems of "asking for help" are also obvious, and so are all of us.
Let's just say that asking for help, losing face, losing dignity and even asking for help may not solve our problems. Help is uncertain and passive.
Most importantly, asking for help is a sign of dependence. Mr. Tao Xingzhi said: "It is not a hero to eat your own food and sweat your own sweat, and to rely on people and ancestors." The political book says: self-reliance is manifested in managing your own affairs, and the dependence caused by asking for help will make people lose their ability to think independently and their sense of responsibility for life. If they just want to get something for nothing, they will not be able to adapt to society well.
People often say that I know someone, but what's the use of knowing them? A person's real strength depends on how many people you can attract and influence. You don't have the strength yourself, and it's no use knowing awesome people. Now everyone just wants to know someone who is useful to them. Think about your self-confidence when introducing yourself in front of successful people. Others won't make you feel at ease.
In contrast, self-help is a better choice.
Seeking self can cultivate our spirit of self-reliance and self-improvement. The ancients said, "God helps those who stand on their own feet", which is a well-tried saying. Looking back on the long river of history, Liu Xuande is a generation of heroes, but his son Liu Chan, who has no brains since childhood, always takes things from others and enjoys it. Finally, his father's inheritance is destroyed. The success of many famous people in history can not be separated from their firm belief in self-pursuit, such as Fan Zhongyan, Shakespeare, Hugo, Goethe, Tagore and so on. Bill Gates, a contemporary tycoon, didn't give his children any property in order to let them know the importance of self-help. As a result, the children also made achievements.
Please remember this sentence, it is better to ask for help than to ask for help. Becoming an excellent person and a reliable person is the direction we should strive to grow up. At least, life experiences will have different tastes; In the value of life, there will be different meanings. The boss starts his own business, that is, building a dock. As the saying goes, as long as there is a dock, there is always a boat to rely on. No matter how big the ship is, it will always drift, and no matter how small the pier is, it is also practical.
Therefore, a little less trust in others, in God, and in certain things means less disappointment and less regret, so that we can rely on our own ability to do things well and temper our spirit and personality from the beginning. Only in this way can you "improve yourself and share others", bring yourself and others a wonderful experience and live up to this life!