Guiguzi said: "Be at peace and quiet, be open-minded and calm, and wait for losses."

When problems arise in life, you must adjust your mentality in time. Only by calming down can you turn the tide. fall.

Life is full of ups and downs, and there will always be times when you have to memorize words. At this time, there are always people who sadly strive for sympathy, but in the end they are ridiculed and bored.

You know, not everyone can feel the same way as you. What's more, everyone is busy with life now, so there is no time to listen to our nagging.

The best way for people to cope when they are at a trough is to find the three keys to breaking through in life.

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See yourself clearly and find a breakthrough

Lao Tzu said: "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. He who conquers others is powerful, and he who conquers himself is Strong. ”

Only those who have self-awareness and can see themselves clearly will become strong in life.

What would you do if you have a friend who is particularly critical? I'm afraid many people will kick him out of their circle of friends.

But Shen Yan of the Song Dynasty was different. He had a friend named Hou Wuwu, who was good at everything but loved to find fault. No matter what Shen Yan does, Hou Wuwei will give him a lot of advice without saving any face.

Friends couldn’t stand it and felt that Hou Wuwei was being picky and suggested that Shen Yan should stop interacting with Hou Wuwei, but Shen Yan said: “I can’t live without Hou Wuwei even for a day.”

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Someone asked him why, and he replied: "Hou Wu could not point out my faults, so that I can recognize myself and constantly improve myself."

Shen Yan Cong Hou Wu's Through criticism, I know my own shortcomings and correct them. After hard work, he finally founded the Guan School and became a famous thinker. Deeply respected by people.

I really like what Shen Juyun, a scholar from the Qing Dynasty, said: "If you are easy to say that you are strong, you will be short; if you know that you are short, you will be strong."

The more knowledgeable a person is, the more he will become rich. Know your own shortcomings so that you can learn from each other's strengths and make yourself more knowledgeable.

The more ignorant a person is, the more arrogant he is. The reason why Yelang is arrogant is because he does not have a clear understanding of himself.

People who cannot recognize themselves often look down upon themselves and others, and are blindly optimistic. The result is to become the laughing stock of others.

Excellent people have a clear understanding of themselves. They can often find a breakthrough when life is at a low point and start a glorious life.

02

Accept yourself without internal friction

Sanmao said: "There is a kind of power called accepting yourself, accepting and seeing your own shortcomings. Accept your own Ordinary, but also accept the imperfect self. ”

Only by accepting the imperfect self can you become more perfect.

Zhuangzi once told such a story in "The Great Master": Zisi and Ziyu were good friends. Once, Ziyu fell into a strange disease and became a hunchback. Zisi was very surprised when he saw it.

Zisi found it hard to accept that his good friend who used to be a good and charming person turned into an ugly person, but Ziyu didn't seem to care at all.

Zisi asked: "Don't you feel sad for yourself?"

Ziyu said: "No, why should I be sad? If my left hand becomes A chicken, I will use it to announce the dawn. If my right hand becomes a bow, I will use it to shoot birds and roast them.

If my spine becomes a wheel, my spine will become a wheel. The spirit has become a horse, and I can ride it around the world. When we can't change anything, the best way is to accept ourselves."

Although Ziyu became disabled, he did not. Giving up on himself, he accepted his own shortcomings calmly, without feeling inferior or internalized. He spent his time studying and eventually became a famous scholar.

Ba Jin said: "For every setback, every ups and downs, every failure, every bump in life, we must learn to face up to, adapt to, absorb and make use of it."

A person's life cannot always be smooth. Ups and downs are the normal course of life. There are some things that we cannot change. The best way is to accept the reality and accept yourself.

Accept your own good points as well as your own bad points. Only in this way can we avoid internal friction and gather strength to achieve a leap in life.

03

Motivate yourself and start again

Mao Dun once said: “People’s ambitions are usually directly proportional to their abilities.

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How high your ambition is, how high your achievements will be. Only by constantly motivating yourself can you become a winner in life.

During the Warring States Period, there was a young man named Su Qin. After studying under Gui Guzi, Su Qin went to Qin to apply for a job with full confidence, but was ruthlessly rejected by the King of Qin.

When he returned home, his parents shook their heads and sighed. There was no future. His wife ignored him and thought he was incompetent. She couldn't even cook for him, so he had to go to his brother's house to eat, but was ridiculed by his sister-in-law.

< p> However, Su Qin was not discouraged. He began to study the military books day and night. When he was tired from studying at night, he often stabbed his thigh with an awl. After studying hard, Su Qin finally figured out the strategy of "integration and verticalization", which was favored by the six countries. He was invited to become the prime minister of the six countries and became famous for a while.

Su Shi has a famous saying: "Great things happen in ancient times." Those who do not only have extraordinary talents, but also must have perseverance. ”

If you want to succeed, you must keep forging ahead with perseverance when your life is at a low point.

If you are sluggish and lose confidence, then you will never succeed. It is impossible to get ahead.

On the contrary, if you are unwilling to bow to fate, keep motivating yourself, and fight with perseverance, you will eventually stand out.

Written at the end.

When people are at a low point, they must be good at turning disadvantages into advantages. Only by constantly adjusting themselves and turning stumbling blocks into stepping stones can they move their lives to the next level.

Attitude determines everything. When there are problems in life, the most important thing is to solve them, rather than to rely on yourself.

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