Will those who wantonly trample on other people's self-esteem be trampled back by others in a similar way?
In the past I would have told you that it would be possible, but now I can only tell you that it is not necessarily the case.
The most common saying that everyone has heard: "It's never too late for a gentleman to take revenge." Ten years from now I won't even know where you are? I might as well do my own thing when I have this time. What is my own business is: whether others are angry with me or not, it is easy to make myself mad to death. But I don’t want to piss myself off!
When you wantonly trample on other people's self-esteem, there are usually two situations, but there are three results. Why? Please listen to my analysis.
Two situations: ① This person often does this kind of thing. As long as he thinks that he can make himself very happy after trampling on the self-esteem of others, then this kind of person is what we call: "It's okay." , something like this will happen to you one day.” ② This situation will happen when people are in a hurry or are very angry and do not know how to regulate their mood (referred to as people who are easily affected by bad moods). He would criticize others in various ways just to free himself, but after a while he would apologize and comfort the people he had criticized.
Why do I say there are three types? There is a sentence that is not pleasant but very reasonable: "If you were bitten by a dog, would you bite it back?" Then there will be two results. When your self-esteem is trampled on by others, how do you view this? Something?
The first type: When A, in a situation with many people, says that C is incompetent and can’t do anything, and makes C feel embarrassed by all kinds of self-esteem-breaking words, C will think that he must be strong, regardless of all the power. Or the result must be revenge on A, because A makes C feel that he is very shameless. Then one day his idea will come true, but he feels that he is not happy at all after saying hurtful words to the other party. He may Aggravating and hurting more people (because one day is already a long time later, during this period, many things will be magnified), is what many medicines call pathological psychology.
The second type: Take myself for example. In the past, I would yell back at someone when they scolded me, and I would even fight with them when I was in a hurry. Isn’t this the reason why many things in today’s schools are caused by this situation? But now, I don’t care, you can say whatever you want, because everyone will meet a kind of person. When they mess with you, they just want you to discover their existence. If you continue to struggle with them, they will be tired of it. You will be tired and annoyed, the best solution is: "It doesn't matter, let him say it, ignore it, when he says he is tired, he will stop talking." So I am the kind of person who tramples on me, just don't It doesn't matter if it involves family members, and I won't argue with you because it will be a waste of time.
The third type: It is the second situation that just happened, just because you are in a bad mood and hurt your friends around you, but you will be fine after a while and comfort the people around you, the people around you are very familiar. If you know that you have this kind of character, everything that needs to go will go away in the end, and you will know that you want to truly cherish the things that are left behind.