After thousands of years of history, many excellent cultures have been handed down in China. The reason why these cultures have not been eliminated in the long history, but have survived, shows that it has its value and significance.

In addition to many famous sayings, poems and songs, there are also many proverbs circulating among the people, and these proverbs are easy to understand, and they are sentences made by the working people after substantial summary, so that everyone can understand the social situation at that time and appreciate people's thoughts at that time.

Although these proverbs are simple, they have left historical value for future generations to learn from. Therefore, there is a saying that "the daughter went to the grave and there was no one at home." What phenomenon and problem does this show?

As we all know, China is a country that attaches great importance to etiquette culture, and children will be instilled with some etiquette, morality and shame at an early age. Among these manners, filial piety is the most important in people's minds.

The ancients defined filial piety comprehensively. Filial piety is the foundation of human beings and the condition for their survival. If a person is not filial, no matter how excellent and capable he is, he will be spurned by the world wherever he goes, thinking that he is a person who is not worthy of communication and trust.

Parents are old before they die, so children should care about their parents and try their best to meet their needs. After the death of parents, children should pay homage to their parents' graves and pay homage from time to time to show their filial piety and gratitude to their parents.

Moreover, when going to the grave every year, we should also bring the prepared sacrifices to our parents' graves to pay our respects. This is also based on the concept that the ancients thought there was a grave. Children hope to make their parents live more comfortably there through their own offerings, which is also a manifestation of filial piety.

But under the ancient concept that men are superior to women, parents died at home. Whenever parents die or have to go to the grave, the family is full of men and seldom see women. Out of filial piety, it is natural for men to go to their parents' graves.

At home, the wife or daughter is also in the kitchen or preparing offerings to help arrange and will not show her face. At this time, if the daughter goes to the grave for her parents, there are some other sayings. From the literal meaning of the saying, "A girl goes to the grave, and there is no one at home", this sentence means that if a girl goes to the grave for her parents at home, then her family means there is no successor.

It's hard to avoid making people feel sad. However, the low social status of ancient women is a reality. Women in that period had no room to realize their self-worth and were doomed to be treated unfairly from birth.

Maybe from the moment her parents saw her, she was rejected by her family and thought they were losing money. Whether it is growth or education, parents will be relatively harsh on them and leave better opportunities to men at home.

This is also a good manifestation that women can't receive a good education and their thoughts are bound. Their childhood thoughts were branded with obedience. No matter what you do, you will be obedient at home and listen to your parents and brother. They have no ego, only obedience. The daughter went to her parents' grave, indicating that there was no one at home. In a sense, it is true. In ancient times, women would get married at a very young age. Most of them will obey their parents' orders at the age of thirteen or fourteen and marry a man who may have never been masked.

And after marriage, I still have no position in my husband's family. Listen to your husband and in-laws at home, and there is no chance to refute anything.

With luck, my husband will understand himself and have a son. Maybe your position in your husband's family will rise slightly, your attention will increase and you will have some special rights. But if you are unlucky and meet unreasonable families, you will be more harsh on women.

One more thing, if the woman's husband dies suddenly, she will continue to obey her mother-in-law's orders at her husband's house. In a word, she has no choice.

Therefore, after a woman gets married, the contact with her family will become very subtle. Except for the day when she went back to her mother's house, she almost always revolved around her husband's family, that is, a woman lived for her husband's family all her life.

If a woman visits her parents' grave at this time, it is undeniable that this is a sign of filial piety. But it can also be said that there are no men in her parents' house, and only one daughter is left after her parents' death, so that her daughter can sweep her parents' graves.

The daughter's home has also reached the point where the incense is interrupted. In the era when the ancients valued the continuation of incense, such a family can be said to be more sad. Another point is that some women in ancient times were very far away from their parents' home when they got married. Despite the talk of getting married and starting a family, in ancient times, it was difficult for women to go back to their parents' homes because of the long distance, even if the traffic was extremely inconvenient.

If natural and man-made disasters are added, the married daughter is likely to lose contact with her family because she needs refuge and other reasons.

Moreover, the ancient people were superstitious and didn't have such a clear mind to judge the quality of some things. If they often go to their parents' home, they will think that it will bring them disaster, which is very unfavorable to their parents' home.

Therefore, many important sacrificial activities will not involve women, let alone married daughters. Therefore, the married daughter will basically not return to her parents' graves, just to ensure the smooth and safe parents.

At this time, the daughter went to the grave for her parents. Obviously, because there are no children at home, there is no need to be afraid of these unfavorable reasons. In fact, there are many words like this, but in the eyes of modern people, these words are very feudal, because the present society advocates equality between men and women, and women are no less capable than men, and women are no longer oppressed by old ideas.

In particular, modern families are eager to have a daughter. Even if they have a son, they will love their daughter more and let her receive the best culture and education. It's customary to go back to your mother's house after marriage.

What's more, it is possible to attend a sacrifice for her daughter at her mother's house just to thank her ancestors for their kindness. Through these, it can also be explained that with the development of today's society, many previous bad habits have been eliminated, and everyone has achieved equality and a happier life.

Perhaps in the past, many feudal sayings were just for everyone to listen and understand the meaning at that time, instead of learning and practicing.