Victor Gu Chian Peow said, "I am glad to see such a self-motivated person.". Rujing choked up and asked him, "You brought me to know the ambition and let me taste the sweetness, but where is the end of the ambition?" I don't know! "
The Story of Qipa went all the way to the fourth season. Rujing got stuck in the final in the first season and won the second place. In the second season, Jiang Sida came and won the third place. All the way to the fourth season, she said that she had worked hard, but she was still stuck. Maybe she still couldn't get the wonderful king until no one named the program. She wants to say to Biao and her fans who have been pushing her to make progress: "There is nothing wrong with not being motivated. It is for people like us who are very, very motivated!" Looking at Rujing sobbing and saying all the words, I believe everyone will see themselves in her more or less.
For most of us who are exhausted, we force ourselves to keep working hard. Sometimes we want to say to ourselves, almost, don't be hard on ourselves. You don't have to be the best. Not everyone wants to be a general.
Ode to Joy 2 is being watched more or less, and Fan Shengmei is becoming more and more distressing. In the first season, I was distressed that she was under great family pressure. In the second season, I was distressed that she had pinned all her hopes on Wang Baichuan and had gradually lost herself. She is too self-motivated. She wants to compare with Andy, Qu Xiaoyu and buy a house in Shanghai, because only by buying a house can she take root in this city. She forced Wang Baichuan to keep making progress, which caused great psychological pressure on Wang Baichuan. Finally, the company went bankrupt, so she had to make a living as a driver and had to take the initiative to break up with Fan Shengmei.
Only then did Fan Shengmei realize that he was too harsh, but it was too late.
Many people scold Fan Shengmei, thinking that her vanity killed her and Wang Baichuan. But no one found that Fan Shengmei was right. She was an ordinary person, talking about ordinary love, hoping her boyfriend would make progress and buy a car and a house. Is that wrong? Fan Shengmei is self-motivated, but she used it in the wrong place and in the wrong way.
My saddest scene is that after Fan Shengmei helped a client choose a gift for his daughter, he silently put on the crown hairband and said to himself: Who doesn't want to be a princess?
Yes, Fan Shengmei doesn't want to work hard in bad karma if she can. She also wants to go on holiday like Andy, fall in love like a ditty, be heartless like Xiao Qiu and pursue love like Xiao Guan. However, in reality, she must constantly remind herself of her current situation with her busy and self-motivated efforts, and constantly put pressure on Wang Baichuan to let her know that she is still trying to live a better life.
It's like she was in tears and hoped that Wang Baichuan would tell her personally: You deserve the best.
Sometimes it's not that we are too hard on ourselves, but that we have no choice but to face life.
sometimes it's not that I don't want to stop and live a comfortable life, but I'm too afraid to miss it.
some time ago, I chatted with my friends. Since he started his own youth tour, he has been so busy that he has no time for leisure and entertainment. Sometimes going to work becomes a sideline, and his mind is full of business and he is exhausted after work. WeChat official account has no energy to update. He once loved photography very much, but he hasn't touched the camera for a long time. A person's life is busy. Every time he chats, what he regrets most is that I don't know where my time has gone.
the last time we met, he asked me if I was too self-motivated and too aloof.
He is full of talent, especially humorous, and has management experience. However, he is unwilling to sign up for both management recruitment and lecturer recruitment. He said that he just wanted to do his simple work in an ordinary way and do something he liked in the rest of the time.
I know that he is very hard and tired, but I still shared Cai Kangyong's words with him: no ambition, nothing wrong, but you will miss it.
I shared my life experience with him.
I once chose a host for the company's annual meeting, but I didn't dare to register because I was timid. Later, I found that I could host it better than the people on the stage.
When I was in primary school, I knew a speech by heart, but I was afraid to go on stage. After many years, I have been worried about this matter.
Life is short. When you are old and sitting in a rocking chair, when you look back on the lost time, it is never what you have done to lose face, but what you wanted to do but missed because you didn't have the courage.
I'm still proud that I can bravely stand on the stage and finish a song in the optional course of college music, even though I don't have five tones.
In the course of body art, the teacher praised the action standard and took the stage to make a demonstration;
There is also a raise of hands in ancient literature class; Presentation in a new media class.
Cai Kangyong said that lack of self-motivation is a kind of miss. Ma Dong made a surprise attack: If you do one thing with your heart, you will miss another. Life is about choosing and missing. The only thing we can do is to recognize and straighten ourselves and be better.
Self-motivated will make you more courageous.
In fact, many times, we don't have to make many things so ceremonial. It is enough to love what I love and do what I do without regret.
A friend once told me that it is good to do one thing at a time.
However, I am a self-motivated person. Last year, I got a fitness card, learned swimming, got a driver's license, bought a bunch of books, traveled everywhere, listened to lectures everywhere, and wanted to write articles and play the pipa when I was free.
I often make myself exhausted, but in the dead of night, I calm down and don't know what I really want.
Self-motivation really doesn't necessarily mean being the best, doing everything well, but the life that live high wants, doing what he wants, don't miss it, don't regret it.
Some time ago, the news of Daniel Wu's renovation of ancient town buildings was on the hot search, and many people knew for the first time that Daniel Wu was the architect himself. Daniel Wu's father is an architect. He studied architecture in those days to inherit his father's business.
In the first three years of Daniel Wu's arrival in Hong Kong, his father once hoped that he would go back to California and find a job as an architect. However, Daniel Wu thinks that creativity is only allowed in the learning stage of architecture. In an interview, he publicly said:
"Many of my classmates have no enthusiasm for architecture after going to work. If you are in a company, you may not be creating. It will take more than ten years to climb to the position where you can create. I have a friend who works in a construction company and has been painting the windows of a building for two years. He was an excellent student when he was studying. I think it's a pity. Why did it become like this? At that time, I told myself, I don't want to be like this, don't become a robot at work. "
Daniel Wu knew what he wanted, so when he clearly realized the current situation of the construction industry at that time, he made another choice.
Coincidentally, Eason Chan also graduated from architecture at Kingston University in England and later became a singer. Professor Julius Weinberg, vice president of Kingston University, said: "The world may have lost an architect, but it has gained a musical talent."
There was a line in the Korean drama healer: Dad often said that the second favorite is a career, and the first favorite is a hobby. So dad's main business is criminal litigation defense lawyer, and his sideline is coffee shop owner.
I am deeply touched by this sentence, so when looking for a job, I try to avoid finding a job related to travel even though I love traveling so much. Keep that hobby and fun and don't let it become a burden. At least, when I am very tired from work, I can be a team leader and show everyone around the city, or I can pack my backpack and go to distant places alone. This is my ambition to travel!
When I was in college, LuJian, a famous host of CCTV, once gave a lecture at my alma mater. Finally, he said, maybe you won't be engaged in journalism in the future, but studying journalism means that you can still have the sense of touch and perspective of a journalist when facing a news event in the future.
Everyone's life is full of infinite possibilities, and everyone's future is full of infinite possibilities. You can be an architect, designer, painter, new media person, game anchor, actor, singer, online celebrity ... No matter what career you make for a living, your past experience will affect your future life.
So, when you feel that your life is very tired and exhausted, try to stop and ask yourself what I really want. Don't be afraid to face all the problems and bravely accept any of your thoughts: Am I not self-motivated? Am I sorry for myself and my parents for not doing anything like this?
You can do nothing in the afternoon and just brush a Japanese drama.
You can pick up a guitar without forcing yourself to recite English words.
You can travel aimlessly alone;
You can even KTV
You can even sleep with your head covered;
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It's not that you are not self-motivated, you are looking for another possibility of life.
Da Qing, a girl who loves to travel, shared her experience when she first came to Qipa. Her resume can be seen because she rushed directly to Mi Wei's office and was rejected by two directors. It was not until the third director was willing to give her a chance to chat with her, and then she accidentally came to the present. Taking Ma Weiwei as an example, she hopes to be like Ma Weiwei in the future. Da Qing said that her self-motivated mind is willing to take another step forward.
Ma Weiwei admits that when she was young, she worked hard and dared to fight for everything. However, at a certain age, she began to try to let herself go, not to be the strongest, not to be invincible, and her heart became softer and softer. This is a little relaxed gesture. Because only when you are relaxed, you will focus all your attention on yourself, see your bottlenecks and limitations, and you will find that your efforts are not for progress, but for happiness. Ma Weiwei gave up the victory over Huang Zhizhong, but enjoyed arguing with him. In the end, she will even give up winning this thing, this person or some kind of life.
As Buddhists say, everything is the best arrangement, when to put it down and when to get it. Stop, enjoy the matter itself, face life with a pluralistic mentality, and find the happiness of unexpected goals.
Ma Weiwei didn't lose her ambition, but began to enjoy it. Being ambitious should be a happy thing.
If you love watching Japanese dramas, you will become a master of Japanese dramas, and you can write an article on the structure, lifestyle and concept of Japanese dramas.
If you love music, you will have a hobby that will accompany you all your life, at least it will accompany you to be happy when you are depressed;
Love traveling, you can share your travel strategy with everyone;
Love singing, you can sing a song confidently at the annual meeting;
After a beauty sleep, my skin is better and I feel more confident
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Nothing in this world is useless and nothing is wrong.
Cai Kangyong said that mistakes can be corrected, but once they are missed and lost, they will never come back. Nothing is taken for granted. You envy the dazzling figures of international superstars on the red carpet, but you don't know how many hardships they have experienced when making a movie. You envy those fashion bloggers. You just need to wear the clothes of sponsors to attend various shows in Milan and Paris easily, but you don't know that they have been trying their best to make mistakes and take various street shots since middle school.
So, as Cai Kangyong said, when the self-motivation gets stuck, it's not an interruption, but a turn. In a different direction, you can always find something worthy of your interest and enjoyment at any corner of your life.
As Yan Rujing mentioned what Huang Zhizhong said to her, there is no difference between people, only left and right.
Don't say that you are not self-motivated. You just chose another path in life and walked out of your own different life on this path.
Don't be afraid to be lazy and don't want to struggle. Be casual and comfortable. When God closes a door for you, he will definitely open a window for you.
whenever and wherever, just tell yourself not to miss it.