Everyone is flawed, but perfectionists obviously don't think so. They always pursue perfection tirelessly. Thus, the greatest feature of perfectionists is to pursue "perfection"-something that does not exist. Everything is not perfect and everyone is not perfect, which gives perfectionists a huge space to pursue. With their innate impulse, they consciously and spontaneously correct the imperfections in their lives and make them adapt to their imagined appearance as much as possible, but they often backfire, because in the process of constantly pursuing perfection, they will find that imperfections emerge one after another, and they can't take care of so much at all, so the process of pursuing perfection is often unsuccessful.

Steve Jobs is such a perfectionist. His classic saying is: "If you want to achieve something, you have to love it very, very much, otherwise it will be meaningless." The perfectionist's speech is always lively but magnificent, warm and touching but humorous, which directly touches the softest chord in people's hearts, but it is just right. Everyone thinks that Jobs is improvising his speech talent. In fact, every time he gives a speech, Jobs needs to prepare for several weeks, and hundreds of people need to work together. It sounds incredible, but it's true. Jobs has a working group dedicated to speeches. They collect all the videos and images that Jobs may use, and choose the most satisfactory ones from tens of thousands of videos and images. Even so, Jobs will mercilessly cut off most of them. Jobs will rehearse his speech, and he always demands that the rehearsal be accurate. If the pictures and gestures don't achieve the best coordination, the participants will be reprimanded.

Jobs' almost cruel perfectionism is also reflected in the development of new Apple products. Under the measurement of Steve Jobs, a "technical benchmark", many people who participated in the research and development of Apple products finally made achievements beyond their own abilities. It is precisely because of this reason that many top technologists have left Apple forever, claiming that they can't tolerate Jobs' grumpiness and even picky. There is an exaggerated saying that no one can work with Jobs more than once. Jobs once asked a designer to design a new computer so that a screw could not be seen on the outside of the computer. Later, a screw was slightly exposed in the model designed by the designer, and Jobs fired him immediately.

Jobs is a typical perfectionist. He is sensitive, demanding perfection, paying attention to details and being critical ... It can be said that Jobs has all the personality characteristics of a perfectionist.

The mood fluctuates greatly

It can be said that every perfectionist wants things to develop according to his own imagination or plan, but because of the disconnection between reality and subjective consciousness, things often run counter to his ideas. At this time, perfectionists will be excited and even angry. Of course, the perfectionist will deeply realize that emotional fluctuations will also destroy his perfection, so he will try his best to suppress his ups and downs. They are used to transferring all their dissatisfaction with things and others to themselves, so perfectionists are the most likely to feel sorry for themselves.

Over-sensitivity

Perfectionists pursue perfection all their lives. They pursue certain and accurate "perfection" and hope that others will see themselves as perfect, even if it is only on the surface. Therefore, perfectionists are more willing to make their personality beyond reproach. It is precisely because of this that they are more rigorous in interpersonal relationships, even to the point of finding fault. They will never jump to conclusions easily, but they will devote themselves wholeheartedly when choosing a goal. They think they are completely different from others. At least on the surface, their lives are perfect. It is precisely because they think they are perfect that they simply can't accept the slightest criticism from others, which leads to the overly sensitive character of perfectionists.

stubbornness

In the eyes of normal people, perfectionists' behavior is somewhat exaggerated, so perfectionists can't become mainstream representatives. In fact, they have lost the recognition of the people around them. However, the disapproval of the people around them can't bring the perfectionists the slightest confusion. They still work hard towards their original goals as always. It can be said that perfectionists are extremely stubborn. Perfectionists' stubbornness affects their vision, and they tend to go to extremes in their view of problems. Once they have identified a fact or made up their mind, they will overreact to other opposing opinions. It is no exaggeration to use the words "stubborn" and "autocratic" to describe their state at this time.