Family Fate

We came here to be reborn to find this parent. It's all fate. Why did you find this couple as parents? Why don't you find someone else? The Buddha explained to us in the scripture that parents and children are predestined friends. If there is no predestined relationship, they can't see or find it face to face. What fate?

Buddha told us that there are four kinds of karma. The first one is to repay kindness. You were predestined friends with him in your past life, and these parents were kind to you. You came to repay kindness when you met with malicious joy. The child who comes to repay his kindness is good, hard and worry-free, and his filial son and grandson are so smart, so good and so obedient. If you understand this truth, we should make a good relationship with people, and we should make a lot of favors, and there are many people who repay them.

if you complain in the second way, you were bitter rivals in your past life. He came to your house to complain and take revenge. This is a big trouble. This child will be the black sheep of your family in the future, and it will ruin your family and come to complain. So in this society, there are fewer good children and more bad children. What are the reasons? Are your parents kind to others, or are they selfish and want to take advantage of others? That's the reason.

The third type is debt collection. You owe him money, but if you don't owe him life, he won't kill you. You have to pay him back the money you earned, debt collector. Those who owed less died at the age of three or four. Why? You spent so much money, that's all. He begged and left. He has no feelings for you. No matter how much you like him, he has no feelings for you. If he owes a lot, he may have to beg for a 2-year-old to graduate from college and leave with a doctorate, which is much more difficult.

the fourth is to pay off debts. He owes his parents, so he will take good care of their material life. It also depends on how much you owe. If you owe more, he will pay more and take good care of his parents. If you owe less, you can barely feed your parents' life, and you won't be given extra money or a hard life. We all saw this with our own eyes. What do we take our parents for? Servants are almost the same. When they get older, they have a servant to take care of them, but they look like servants, and their monthly living expenses are tightly deducted. I don't know if I didn't learn Buddhism. As soon as I learned Buddhism, I knew that my parents didn't owe him much in the past, so he paid him back a little.

Buddha said that without these four kinds of karma, one would not come to the same family. How should parents treat their children's divorce?

Children and grandchildren have their own blessings. Parents should not be too involved in their children's marriage. Appropriate suggestions are essential, but it is best not to be too involved in their children's divorce. How should parents be treated?

Well, we do a lot, but the most important thing is to make parents feel at ease, happy, and feel that you have grown up. Parents don't want you to do much for them. As long as we are children, we can live a safe and secure life, live a happy life, work hard, get married independently, and support ourselves. This is what parents want most. Another, in life, we should also help our parents do some housework as much as we can. Another important thing is that we often chat with them when we have time, because our parents have some unpleasant things, and no one can talk about them. Only we as children can untie this knot, and it is very important to help them relax, help them do something and let them have a good rest when we have time. Sometimes, it is important to bring a glass of water. Finally, don't quarrel with your parents, listen to their teachings, and don't contradict them if they are wrong. Only by communicating with them slowly can we solve the problem and have a better relationship! I wish you and your parents happiness! How should parents treat their children?

The purpose of everything is to bring up their adults, so you can encourage and criticize them, but you can't coddle or abuse them. How to deal with parents' excessive care

Try to communicate with parents and let them know that they have grown up. Some things can be solved by themselves

How to deal with children's marriage

Men should be married and women should be married. In China, the marriage of children is a major event for parents, and the old people are duty-bound. However, children often have their own ideas, and there will often be inconsistencies between the two generations. Parents' worries will not be recognized by their children, and even fierce conflicts will occur. We can only play a guiding and advising role in persuading parents all over the world to let their children decide their marriage. Because they have to have the same language, they know a lot, and they can form a family and be happy. If it is the old man, it may not be happy. How does Capricorn treat its children < P > Capricorn, so do I. Let the children grow freely. How should we treat our parents? (turn)

My article "Who is to blame when children say that parents are evil?" After the publication, it was originally intended to be scolded, but it was praised and supported by the vast majority of netizens. Some netizens also expressed their reservations when expressing their approval. I would like to express my heartfelt thanks here! When I was happy, my worries followed. Among the netizens who supported and praised me in the comments, many were young people and thought that they were also harmed by their parents. This is undoubtedly an awakening, but how to treat the harm of their parents? How to treat parents? This is undoubtedly a very important issue. The era we live in is developing too fast, and all the material civilization that people enjoy now comes from this, and at the same time, the mental pain that people experience also comes from this. Generally speaking, when people get older, their ability to learn and accept is relatively poor, and their thoughts can easily lag behind the development of the times, especially for parents who are engaged in manual labor. Parents in their fifties are miserable if their careers are successful, but they are miserable if they are mediocre. They have experienced too many social changes and turbulence, and their social ideas have also undergone earth-shaking changes. What used to be black is now white, what used to be dirty is now clean, and vice versa. Especially in social status, all the dreams and hopes of these parents are pinned on their children, which is also caused by the traditional culture of China. In ancient times, when a child was young, he looked at his father and respected his son. If his father was an official, people would call his son a young master, saying that when he grew up, he would be promising. When they met his daughter, they all called her Big Miss and praised her for her beauty. When the son grew up and became an official, he began to look at his son and respect his father. People saw his parents as happy as the East China Sea and lived longer than Nanshan. In fact, what respect, all for curry favor with the use. Under such a big cultural background, parents who have reached the age of knowing their destiny put all their future hopes, dignity and security on their children's fragile shoulders, especially now that most of them are only children, the pressure on parents and children can be imagined. Parents are getting older and older, desperately grasping the children they can rely on, eager for their children to become talents quickly and make a fortune early. Overwhelmed children can't bear it, and finally they cry out that their parents are evil. After shouting, you can release the pressure, but you must face the serious problem of how to get along with your parents. I'm not a social expert, and I haven't done any special investigation and research. I just want to talk about some opinions and suggestions by intuition for parents and children's reference. First, parents are evil, which is the angry words that children have been suppressed for a long time after they have been greatly hurt. It has a powerful role in alerting parents. Calm down and scrutinize carefully, and you will find that this sentence cannot fully and objectively express the facts. One of them is not strict, and all parents are described as evil. I have met many open-minded parents, who respect their children and never force them, but guide and help them. They don't ask their children to achieve unrealistic goals, but pay attention to their growth process and happiness in getting along with them. In addition, parents who harm their children are mostly unconsciously harming their children in education, but they care, help and love their children in life. Because parents are not good on the one hand, they deny all their goodness and are unfair. Second, people must know how to love others if they want to live happily. My life experience is relatively rich, and I have accumulated more than 5 years' experience and come to a conclusion that love is the source of happiness. A person who doesn't know how to love and can't love, no matter how high his official position and wealth are, will never have real and lasting happiness. Parent-child love is closely related to flesh and blood. If a person doesn't even love his parents who gave birth to him, will he still love others sincerely? Why should others believe it? Children should not only love their parents, but also know how to love them, their spouses and family members. There is a lot of knowledge in this. Third, treat parents with tolerance. The root cause of parents' lack in educating their children is not their parents, but traditional culture and social conservative system. Parents themselves are victims, and the degree of suffering is many times more than that of children today. Tolerance is a virtue. No matter how many shortcomings, mistakes and even sins parents have, they should be understood and tolerated. Only when parents have shortcomings and mistakes can children who are sensible reflect the virtue of tolerance. What do excellent parents need their children to tolerate? They are often tolerant of children. Fourth, be considerate of parents' worries and pains. Parents in their fifties are a sad and pitiful group. When they were young, the society was turbulent and there was no good learning environment. Now they are confronted with the explosion of knowledge and the wave of money worship. They are confused, disoriented and insecure, and they have no choice but to count on their children's development. They have no dignity in society. Some of them are like those who were mothers-in-law thirty or forty years ago. When they were daughters-in-law, they were angry with their mothers-in-law. When they finally became mothers-in-law, the times became an era when daughters-in-law had the final say. Even sons listened to their daughters-in-law, and tears could only flow into their stomachs. Nowadays, money is paramount in society, and elderly parents who have no money can only be discriminated against by society. They love children so much that children should be more considerate and concerned about them. Fifth, reach out to help parents. Most parents have become abandoned children of the times. Children should take them in, accept them and help them practically. Children can ignore their parents' instruction and refuse their control, but let them eat the only delicious food first, let them use the only heating device, try their best to share their difficulties and give them spiritual comfort. Children should take care of their elderly and frail parents as they were taken care of by their parents when they were young, and alleviate their numerous pains. They are dying. In this cold and miserable society, they can feel the warmth in the world from their children. Some netizens posted about my daughter, and I revealed a little personal privacy by the way. Before I went abroad, I worked in a department in the province of * * *. I came to the United States for two purposes. First, I was very curious about the United States. It was only more than 2 years since the founding of the People's Republic of China, and it has become the most developed country in the world. What's the secret? I want to experience American life personally and try to see if I have any opportunities for development. The second is to pave the way for her daughter's development. As soon as I arrived in the United States, I had a dream of letting my daughter go to a famous American university. As soon as she arrived in the United States, I took her to visit Stanford University. Through that beautiful and quiet campus, I wanted her to have the same dream as me. However, contrary to expectations, she does not cherish such good learning conditions and has a rebellious attitude towards learning. I tried to force her to study hard, but I failed again and again, and our relationship was once tense. Later, I realized my mistake and the root of the problem. She studied very hard in primary school. Every day, a lot of homework was written late, and cocoons were ground where her tender little finger held the pen. She suddenly went to a free environment, and because of the English barrier, she didn't like studying, but liked playing, and wanted to make up for all the happiness she lost as a child. Since then, I have changed my methods. For example, I don't go into the water to teach a child how to swim. Instead, I let her play freely. I hold a swimming ring by the pool to watch over her. Only when she asks me, can I exchange guidance with her like a friend, or help her out when she is in danger. Our relationship soon became harmonious. After playing enough, she gradually realized the importance of studying and went back to college to study. My important experience as a father is that love for children is not a means, but an end, and there is nothing else to ask for. Allowing children to take detours and make mistakes is exercise for them. Many abilities of children are cultivated from detours and setbacks. Just like the ability of children to learn to walk and prevent wrestling, they are learned from wrestling. Children who have never fallen may fall to their death at once. As a famous college student who took the wrong bus as a beggar, he never missed the bus. He was always held and led by his parents. Suddenly he made a mistake and he was at a loss. The famous saying that failure is the mother of success also illustrates this truth. A really good education is an education that fully develops everyone's nature. How should parents and children communicate?

If you encounter problems that are inconsistent with your parents, listen to them patiently first, and don't contradict them. After all, they are elders, and then slowly reason with them if there is something wrong. But they've been there before. Most of what they say should be listened to. How to treat children's filial piety?

Well, don't worry too much about money.

Only people who spend money can make money ...

Children are filial to you ... and you accept it happily ... regardless of the price ...

Only with your upbringing ... can they earn so much money ...

No amount of money spent in children's hearts can compare with the love you give them. ..