What is the standard of poor support

What is the standard of poor support? There is an old saying in China that poor support children and rich support daughters. Boys emphasize "ambition" while girls focus on "temperament". So do you know what the so-called poor standard is? Let's take a look with me! What is the standard of the so-called poor support? 1

The so-called "poor support" is not a deliberate pursuit of "working hard and starving the body and skin", but a material restriction on children, so that children can know how to cherish and struggle; It is necessary to cultivate children's ability to stand on their own feet and be frustrated from an early age, so that children can understand that everything can only be obtained through hard work. In addition, to cultivate children's correct mentality, accept the social reality and the material wealth owned by others, instead of blindly comparing themselves, the key is to create these wealth with their own knowledge and ability.

What is the so-called "poor support" standard?

There is a famous saying in Japanese education for children: Except sunshine and air are the gifts of nature, everything else must be obtained through labor.

Many Japanese students go out to work to earn money in their spare time. Work-study programs are very common among college students, even the children of rich families are no exception. They earn their tuition by serving dishes and washing dishes in restaurants, selling goods in shops, taking care of the elderly in nursing homes and being tutors. When children are very young, their parents instill in them an idea: "Don't cause trouble to others". When the whole family goes out to travel, no matter how young the children are, they must carry a small backpack on their backs without exception. When others asked why, their parents said, "They should carry their own things."

Wang Yongqing, a rich man in Taiwan Province, educates his children on frugality.

Wang Yongqing, a rich man in Taiwan Province, starts his education on frugality. He provides children with accurate tuition and living expenses, just like managing his own enterprises, and always gives them "just right" so as not to give them a chance to enjoy luxury. In addition, contact with children is to write letters and never call, because I think it is too expensive to make long-distance calls. Wang Xuehong, Wang Yongqing's daughter, said: My father particularly emphasized the need to "get to the bottom of everything", and most of his letters were written about his work experience, telling her what happened in the company, how he got to the bottom of it and how to deal with it, so that she learned a lot of ways to deal with things.

Nowadays, many families are "only children". In addition, women are more and more involved in social activities and need to shoulder social obligations and responsibilities like men. Therefore, both men and women should be "poor". "Raising the poor" should first teach children to do two things well:

Boys should cultivate ambition, while girls should cultivate temperament

Boys emphasize "ambition", which mainly cultivates the qualities of overcoming difficulties, being hard-working, working hard, being tenacious and tenacious, such as taking him to climb mountains, playing football and swimming to exercise toughness; Girls focus on cultivating "temperament", emphasizing the investment in cultural accomplishment and the cultivation of temperament. If conditions permit, girls can learn to play piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. At home, give her more care, make her feel spiritually rich, secure and proud, and deliberately create an environment for children to learn to care for others and help others, which is more feminine.

Parents should be "lazy" appropriately

Many parents always complain about their children's poor self-care ability. In fact, it is often because parents are too "diligent". When children reach the age of learning to eat by themselves, parents can't hide the mess of the table, and finally they can't help feeding; Children pick up a toy for a long time, looking at a messy place, parents can't help but tidy up neatly.

To "support the poor" children, first of all, is to let the children do their own things. Such a simple sentence is hard for quite a few parents to insist on. Therefore, parents should be "lazy" in the process of raising their children, and must learn to tolerate their children's imperfections and wait for them to do things better.

In addition, nowadays, only children are generally self-centered and overbearing, and parents should learn to be reserved about their children's life details. Children should be "ten points", and parents should give them a "six or seven points", not exceeding "eight points", and talk to their children about the conditions when necessary. For example, if you take food to the supermarket, don't buy everything with your children, and don't eat it all at once when you get home. You should teach your children to exercise restraint, be frugal and consume in moderation. What is the standard of the so-called poor support? 2

There is an old saying in China that poor support children and rich support daughters, and many parents do the same in their daily lives. However, poor children should also pay attention to the standards of poor children. If we overdo it, it will have some influence on children's personality, which will directly affect children's three views. Parents raise their children in poverty in order to cultivate their children's firm character, but if their actions are deviated, the influence on children will be very bad, so parents must master the standards when raising their children in poverty.

Cultivate the spirit of cherishing struggle

Raising children in poverty does not mean really starving their bodies or straining their bones and muscles, but limiting children materially. Don't let children develop the phenomenon of spending money lavishly, let children develop a spirit of struggle, and at the same time cultivate the spirit that children know how to cherish. And this way of training will cultivate children's frustration ability, in addition, it can also cultivate children into a special self-reliant personality.

Teach children not to squander resources

Let children know that everything they get in their lives is earned through labor, so children will develop a very good character from an early age and will not casually squander the resources they have. Let children develop correct three views, and at the same time let them accept the reality from society. Let children know how to really enjoy their lives, not to compare with people around them.

Teach children to create their own wealth

Teach children to use their own abilities to create their own wealth, and cultivate their industrious and concise character. This is the purpose of raising children in poverty, and raising children in poverty does not mean putting children in a particularly difficult place, but only limiting their spending money. In a word, the so-called poor child-rearing is not to be harsh on children when they are very young. Such actions will only develop children into an unsound character. Therefore, parents must pay special attention to these when educating their children. Only by achieving such standards can children be cultivated into very perfect personalities.