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& lt& lt Wei Linggong XV: "Zi Gong asked: Who can walk all his life in one sentence? Confucius said: it is tolerance. Don't do to others what you don't want. "
In the last article about Gongye Chang, we saw Zi Gong say, "I don't want others to add me, I want to add others." Confucius said, "Giving is beyond your power."
Let me solve this contradiction:
To quote Mr. nan huaijin, this book is not a scholar's point of view, but full of insights. You can refer to it
Think of others more.
Zi Gong asked: Who has a word that can last a lifetime? Confucius said: I forgive you! Do what you don't want to do,
Don't do this to others.
Zi Gong asked Confucius, can the truth of life cultivation be summarized in one sentence? Don't talk so much about how to be a man. As long as there is a focus, you can do it all your life. Confucius said this forgiveness. When referring to the teaching spirit of Confucius, later generations often talk about the Confucian way of loyalty and forgiveness. Later generations study its content, and forgiveness means putting yourself in others' shoes. Now, it is important to be objective about everything and think of what I want. Some people are often unhappy and dissatisfied with the handling of one thing. To tell the truth, if we handle it ourselves, we may not be better than each other. The problem lies in our human psychology, and there is a natural requirement that others can be perfect; Ask friends, subordinates, and officers. I hope he has no shortcomings and everything is fine. But don't forget that the other person is also a person. Since he is a person, he has shortcomings. From a psychological point of view, it is absolutely selfish to expect others to be good, because the perfection of the other party is based on their own views and needs. I think the other person's mistake is actually just because it violates my opinion and is based on his own needs or behavior. Society demands so much of others, especially in religious circles, and politics is no exception. Christians, Catholics or Buddhists are very strict with priests, priests or wizards. Because religious people forget that * * * is also a human being and think that priests and priests are gods. Is this kind of psychology good? All right. But asking others is too high. As can be seen from this example, it is very difficult to forgive Tao. Later generations' interpretation of forgiveness can be divided into "Ru" and "Heart". Even if it suits my heart, what my heart wants, others want it; What I want to take, others want to take. We give others a little benefit, that is, forgive; If you think others are wrong, forgive a little, that is, forgive. Forgiveness is especially important for Zigong. Zi Gong, a disciple of Confucius, is not only outstanding in business, but also a giant in industry and commerce because of his high talent. He is also an outstanding talent in diplomacy and politics. People with high talent can easily make mistakes that they don't forgive others, and it's hard to tolerate others' mistakes. Therefore, it is more meaningful for Confucius to say this sentence to Zigong. He replied to Zigong that there is a saying that can benefit for life, but it is difficult to do, and that is "forgiveness." "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." This is the annotation of forgiveness.
Here comes the problem again. In the last article about Gongye Chang, we saw Zi Gong say, "I don't want others to add me, I want to add others." Confucius said, "Giving is beyond your power." Zi Gong also offered his forgiveness to others. He said: "I don't want others to give it to me; Similarly, I don't want to pass it on to others. "It can be seen that he has been practicing forgiveness. But here Confucius said, Zigong! This is not something you can do. Now Confucius teaches Zi Gong instead, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. "What's the difference between this and the preface to Zigong? Is it true that Confucius always puts on authority, and only he is right, and what students say is right or wrong? Actually, it is not. On the surface, what Zi Gong proposed seems to have the same meaning but different words. In fact, the foothold is very different.
Zigong means that I don't want what others give me to be unreasonable, and I don't want to give it to others. This is self-centered, and it is only after being disturbed that I think of not playing tricks on others in the same way. Now Confucius says that as long as I find something I don't want, I won't give it to others. Fundamentally speaking, we are strictly demanding our own purification, and don't think of others by comparison. Pay special attention to this point.
Secondly, if these two paragraphs are connected and only explain each other, that is, "Zi Gong said: I don't want others to add me, but I also want to add others." Confucius said, "Giving is beyond your power." "Zi Gong asked: Is there anyone who can walk all his life with a word? Confucius said: I forgive you! Do as you would be done by. This is the edge of Confucius' teaching method, which is equivalent to a story in Zen Buddhism in later generations: Guan Xiu, a poet in the late Tang Dynasty, wrote two very proud poems: "The first sentence is Buddha, and no one knows this." He showed it to an old monk, who asked him, "What about this heart?" Guan Xiu couldn't answer. The old monk smiled and said, "Nobody knows this." This conversation between Confucius and Zigong is as meaningful and intriguing as this one, and it is worth pondering and reflection.
From the standpoint of a nerd who specializes in his own life, I don't think the word "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" can be done. We will make mistakes that violate these eight words anytime and anywhere. Especially in the group life of the younger generation, we can see many examples. The day before yesterday, a student who was in military service came back and said that all his three toothbrushes and six pairs of shorts had been "touched". In fact, I have these things at all, but I like to "touch" others, and I feel very happy when I "touch". Is this behavior called "stealing"? It wasn't that serious the day before yesterday. A curtain on our stairs was missing. The person in charge said it was stolen. I said forget it. Must have been "touched" by young people. That he stole it on purpose? He didn't mean it. Say he didn't steal it? Young people all have this kind of psychology. It feels fun and delicious, and they are also called heroes there. Things are "touched" and run away, and I will be unhappy, but I will "touch" others when I have the opportunity. In collective life, some people wash their hands. They should clean towels. Seeing one hanging next to it, I rubbed it on someone else's towel. Why do you have such thoughts and behaviors? This is a trivial matter. You can't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. For great things, it is great to do things that you don't want or want to bear, and not let others bear them. This man is not a man, but a saint. It's too difficult! However, this is what human beings deliberately cultivate in this direction. Whether it can be done or not is another matter.
It is difficult to cultivate these eight words, "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." At the same time, it also means "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." Later, Buddhism spread to China, which translated as "giving". Adding a word "cloth" to the word "Shi" is a universal meaning. Buddhist charity is the same as Confucian forgiveness. The so-called compassion-based, convenience-based, is the spirit of giving. There are two things in life that are the most difficult to give up, one is wealth and the other is life. As long as it is beneficial to the world, giving life and property is giving. This is too difficult, although it can't be done, but you must be determined.