As the saying goes: "Sing what songs you go to on any mountain; what words you say to whomever you meet." Sun Wu has a famous saying: "Know yourself and the enemy, and you can fight a hundred battles without danger." All can be used as examples. Our guiding principles for interpersonal conversation. Talking without looking at the person you are talking to will not only fail to achieve the purpose of the conversation, but will often hurt the other person.

On the contrary, if you understand the other party's situation, even if you make some bold remarks, it will not cause harm to the other party and achieve your own

purpose.

1. When a dispute arises, do not push the other party to a dead end

When you are about to fall into a conflicting vortex, the best way is to let it go and not argue. Tit-for-tat and aggressive arguments can only convince people but not people. People who are forced to say nothing by your eloquence will often be filled with complaints and complaints. Don't expect to change the other party's existing thoughts and prejudices just by having a verbal argument. If you are aggressive and insist on arguing to the last sentence, although you can get the self-satisfaction of winning the performance, it is not likely to make the other party like you, so in the conversation

In this regard, we must adhere to the principle of "seeking common ground while reserving differences" and do not impose our own views on others.

2. Don’t show off yourself too much

Those who boast, talk big, and “boast” are often the ones who do it, and their purpose is just to attract everyone

Pay attention to him to satisfy your own vanity. The most important thing about getting along with friends and colleagues is trustworthiness. If you brag about things that you can't do yourself, you will have a flashy impression. If you show off yourself and show that you are talented and knowledgeable, the other party will be embarrassed

by comparison, which is not conducive to communication.

3. Don’t complain endlessly and tell others about your misfortunes

If you have troubles, resentments, pain, and grievances in your heart, you need to find someone to talk to, but you can’t just talk to others casually. Confide in front of familiar people.

First, the other party may not have much interest; second, they do not understand your actual situation, and it is difficult to have sympathy; third, they may misunderstand you.

You have faults and shortcomings, so That's why there's so much trouble. In this way, your venting will easily cause the other party to get bored. Therefore, you must remain mentally calm, control yourself, and strive to have practical meaning in your conversations with anyone.

4. Don’t talk about your proud things when your friends are in pain and helplessness

“On your proud days, don’t forget your frustrated moments.” If your friend reveals his loss and pain to you The original intention of confiding your innermost feelings is to gain sympathy and comfort. If you unintentionally compare your complacency with your friend's misfortune and frustration, it will inadvertently stimulate the other person's self-esteem.

< p> Dear, he may think that you are laughing at his sex. It is difficult to eliminate misunderstandings, so be careful when speaking.

5. Don’t use a scolding tone to criticize others

The relationship between friends and colleagues is equal. They cannot be self-righteous, condescending, or self-centered. Domineering scolding will hurt the other person's self-esteem. This habit will make you a loner. Human beings have a sexual nature: no one likes to accept orders and reprimands from others. Never be self-righteous, let others have their own face.

6. Don’t touch privacy at will

Everyone has privacy deep in his heart and a territory that he does not want to be invaded. Modern people attach great importance to the right to privacy.

It is your honor for a friend or colleague to tell you their innermost secrets out of trust. But if you can't keep a secret. It will make them sad and even resentful. Privacy is the most sensitive, irritating, and stinging corner of the human heart. Such topics should be avoided whether in person

or behind the scenes.

7. Don’t make impolite actions when talking

In order to respect the other party’s conversation, the first thing to do is to maintain a dignified conversation posture. Shaking your legs, picking your nose, and yawning are all impolite behaviors.

In particular, don't stare at other people's eyes all the time, otherwise the other person will feel embarrassed and uneasy; don't look down from a high place, otherwise it will give people a feeling of superiority; don't look around and look around. , otherwise the other party will feel that you are absent-minded or have other agendas.

8. Don’t just pay attention to one person and neglect others

When talking to multiple people, don’t just pay attention to one person and neglect others. It is best to use a topic to arouse everyone's interest

Let everyone express their opinions.

9. Don’t interrupt other people’s conversations casually

When others are speaking, the topic is suddenly interrupted, which will make the other party feel dissatisfied or suspicious. They think that you are ignorant of current affairs and have low level of knowledge.

They think that you are disgusting and disgusted with such topics; or they think that you are disrespectful and uncultivated.

10. Don’t talk about topics the other person doesn’t understand

If the other person doesn’t understand and is not interested, please don’t talk. If you introduce things eloquently and unconsciously, the other party will think that you are pedantic and showing off.