Almost all parents in the program hope that their children will find a marriage partner as soon as possible. It doesn't matter if you get married and then divorce. Anyway, there is only one purpose: marriage.
The most typical example is Mabel Yuan's mother. Her mother just wants her to find someone to marry quickly, even if she gets married and divorced. This can not help but cause many netizens to question and think: even if you divorce, it doesn't matter if you get married. Is this marriage still meaningful? Just to get married?
What her mother said was really thoughtless. As parents, after their children reach marriageable age or even become older unmarried men and women, they all hope that their children can find someone to marry as soon as possible.
However, they did not consider whether their children wanted to get married or not, and whether they would be happy after marriage.
So you can see that in the program, both parents hope that their children can find a boyfriend and get married soon. It seems that a person's life is incomplete without marriage and children.
The parents in the program actually represent many parents in real life. Even in real life, parents' forced marriage to their children may be much more horrible than in the program.
Especially on holidays, the forced marriage from parents and seven aunts and eight aunts makes the children of the younger generation extremely miserable.
I have such an example around me.
I have a high school classmate who was only 26 years old in 1993 and graduated two years ago. After graduation, she has been working in other places. Every time she goes home, her mother and her family take turns to force her to get married, urging her to find a boyfriend. But since I met her, I have never heard of her talking about her boyfriend.
It's not because she's ugly or anything. In fact, she is a very good girl, sweet-looking, tall 160+, neither fat nor thin, easy-going, easy-going, self-disciplined and independent. But even such a good girl has never been in love.
Two months ago, because another classmate got married, we didn't get together again until six years after graduating from high school. I asked her why she didn't fall in love. She said that because she felt that among the boys who pursued her, everyone said they liked her very much, but she didn't feel or felt that love was really like it.
So, she has been alone for so many years. Talking about her views on marriage, she thinks that if she can't find the right person, she can live a good life alone.
You may think this is a girl with high emotional requirements, but I think there is no problem with high emotional requirements. It is better to live alone than to start a relationship.
At that time, after listening to her words, I felt very appreciative and agreed with her ideas.
But yesterday I suddenly heard the news that she was getting engaged at the end of this year. At that time, I was shocked and thought I heard wrong. Why did someone who was single two months ago suddenly get engaged? So I sent a message asking her if it was true or not.
Then I got the following information: First, because my parents urged me too hard, I really need to take it home for my parents to see during the Chinese New Year, and my parents will get married if they think they can; Second, two people have no feelings, just to cope with their parents' forced marriage; Third, after marriage, two people will not live together, so if they meet their favorite divorce in the future, they will get married again. What?
After what she said, we girls have been urging her in the group, don't indulge yourself for your parents. You don't marry for your parents, but for yourself. You can't ignore yourself just because your mother urges you. This kind of marriage is absolutely impossible, marriage is no joke, and so on.
I really don't believe that such words came from her mouth, and I don't believe that such things can only be done by her being so cautious about her feelings, but it is true.
In fact, for a 26-year-old girl, she is really young now. I really don't understand why her parents urged her to make such an irresponsible decision.
How many people in life get married because they can't stand the pressure of their parents and have to give in?
Now, this kind of thing is also happening around us.
We often hear a saying: "there is no age to get married, only the feelings of getting married."
Maybe twenty or thirty years old is the right age for parents to get married, but for children, no matter how old, it is not the right age to get married when you don't meet someone who really wants to get married.
Most parents don't really think from their children's point of view. They don't know that most of the time, it's not that they don't want to find it, but that they can't find the right person who can make you want to be together for a lifetime.
In the eyes of parents, children should go to school step by step, get married and have children. But many times they don't know what kind of life their children really want.
As Qian Feng's mother said in the program, she didn't want her children to fall in love in her twenties, but after her thirties, she began to regret not letting her children fall in love earlier.
Parents often say "for your own good". For this sentence "for your own good", parents can do many things that we never expected.
Maybe it's good for you to urge you to get married and have children from your parents' point of view, but they don't consider whether children need marriage or not, and whether marriage can bring happiness to children.
Just like what happened to my classmate, if she really does what she says, then 99% of her marriage will be unhappy and even ruin her later life.
However, if her parents knew that their actions had made their children make such careless and irresponsible decisions, would they still force their children to get married? I don't think so.
Therefore, in the face of parents' forced marriage, we should not blindly obey, but should follow our own hearts. Don't just marry someone because you are old, and don't just marry someone because your parents urge you.
Parents' "for your own good" may be a stumbling block to ruin your life.
I hope that classmate will wake up as soon as possible and that her parents will come to their senses.