Lin Yutang, a master of Chinese studies, once said:

“A person with a clean heart, clear thinking, and no unnecessary emotions and delusions will give people a sense of security.

Because he does not hurt others, nor does he hurt himself.

He does not cause trouble, nor does he cause trouble to others. To a certain extent, this is a kind of discipline.

But it is too difficult to be such a sober and rational person, especially for women, who are born with emotionality and softness;

Let us often lose our minds when facing relationships, life and even career. .

Therese Houston, a famous American doctor of cognitive psychology, said in the book "Rational Choice":

"Many people habitually believe that when facing pressure, Sometimes, women lose their minds and become fragile and emotional. ”

"Rational Decision" is a decision-making guide specially written for women.

This book was also called a must-read for Wall Street elites by the New York Times.

Today, if you have a book, let’s read this classic with everyone!

Be sensible when dealing with feelings

For modern women, the greatest sense of security comes from a job.

A person must have his own career after all, so that he can be independent in relationships, maintain his own personality, and not be afraid of the rain, snow, wind and frost of life.

Sometimes, we can be more willful in love and friendship, but the cruel workplace environment cannot be solved with "emotions".

Many people question women’s ability to work because many people tend to be “emotional” or “emotional” when working.

It is also a policy that "employees can no longer work completely from home";

When Hubert Jolly, CEO of the retail company Best Buy, announced it, most people thought it was a policy This is a normal company policy change;

However, after Marissa Mayer, the female head of Yahoo, made this decision, it caused a lot of criticism from the media, and the news made it to the social news many times. Headlines.

Such a social environment that we are not aware of but actually exists has more stringent requirements for women.

Faced with such pressure, women in the workplace need to be more rational and calm.

In the face of work, once you have a little emotion, you will be criticized as a woman's "ignorance" and "it is true that women have too many things to do."

Therefore, if you have a job, please try to avoid "feminine" behavior;

For example, when being criticized by the leader, you try to cry and beg for forgiveness, or you may not be able to withstand the criticism. Don't criticize and treat work perfunctorily.

How can a person survive in a cruel workplace environment if he cannot control his emotions at work?

In "Du Lala's Promotion", Du Lala went from being a rookie in the workplace to a white-skinned professional in the workplace, and she also practiced little by little;

After breaking away from the office romance, she met She knows how to tolerate grievances and can hold back tears. She is not impetuous and has high execution ability.

Stills of "Du Lala's Promotion"

For the rest of your life, please be a sensible woman in your career, do not give up your career casually, do not perfunctory your work, and do not treat your work as a failure. Emotions are incorporated into work.

Even if you don’t get a promotion and a salary increase and become Bai Fumei, please have a job and retain your confidence.

Pope said: "We sail on the ocean of life, with reason as the compass and emotion as the wind.

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In the workplace, I hope you can use reason to guide your work, and don’t let your emotions influence your promotion and salary increase.

Be rational about your career

Recently, Zhang Liangying participated in a variety show called "Life Multiple Choice"

The purpose of the show is to allow guests to face difficult situations in parallel lives and make their own choices.

At the beginning of the program, the host Hua Shao asked Zhang Liangying:

"When was the last time you were helpless? "

Jane Zhang said with a little sadness:

"The last time I cried, it was quite sad... I gave myself three minutes to cry, and I also set the alarm clock. ”

When I saw this, I felt a little sorry for Zhang Jingying, who had to restrain herself even to vent her emotions.

In the next program, Hua Shao asked Zhang Jingying to choose her parallel life. 9 tabs with the characteristics of a beautiful life.

The audience did not expect that Zhang Liangying chose self-discipline, self-esteem, honesty, optimism, humor, honesty, health, curiosity, etc., but she had no choice. ——

Family, friendship, and love.

People who know and understand Zhang Liangying’s past relationship experience take it for granted.

During the 15 years of entanglement with Feng Ke, Jane Zhang fell in love and lost her dignity.

Jane Zhang proposed to Feng Ke at the concert in front of the national audience;

But the man's perfunctory and cowardly attitude was seen by everyone, but only Jane Zhang, who was in love, could not see it.

This relationship was not blessed by the public, not even Jane Zhang's mother and family. They all objected strongly, but she still rushed in like a moth to a flame.

Such irrational feelings did not bring about consummation in the end. Instead, they brought a mess of feathers, which deeply hurt Zhang Liangying.

When you encounter love, you can give seriously and love sincerely, but you cannot lose yourself.

No relationship is worth a person giving up himself to agree with the other person.

After Zhang Ailing met Hu Lancheng, she had such a relationship:

“When she saw him, she became very low, as low as dust, but she was happy in her heart. , flowers bloom from the dust. "

Because of love, Zhang Ailing was completely lost in Hu Lancheng's sweet words.

She knew that this man had a family, was romantic, and even had a completely different political stance;

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But he still keeps lowering his attitude, just hoping to get a wholehearted love.

But when he meets a scumbag, even if the love is overwhelming, it is still difficult. Tie the man's heart.

After the two got married, Hu Lancheng cheated on her many times. When faced with changes in life, she only wanted to escape and abandoned Zhang Ailing. You are more sentimental than men. To avoid being hurt in love, you must remain rational and sober.

“Women do not make decisions based on intuition or sixth sense.

In fact, women are more analytical than men when making decisions because they are more cautious. ”

I hope every woman can apply this caution to love, and be more rational and less emotional when facing feelings.

Sometimes, in love Only by not losing yourself and maintaining an independent personality and personality can a woman be more charming.

In love, be more clear-headed so that you can give everything you have when you are deeply in love; when you are lost, you can leave decisively.

For the rest of your life, love more rationally and soberly. Don’t pin all your feelings and life on one relationship. Learning to respect yourself and love yourself is more important than anything else.

Be rational in your approach to life

A rational woman can persist in thinking, have an independent personality, and be restrained and diligent in life planning.

My friend Lulu is a "calm" devil in the eyes of others, and is occasionally called "The Exterminator" by us.

Of course, this is not because she is cold-blooded or ruthless, but because she is self-disciplined and strict with herself.

When we stay at home on weekends, sleep in, and watch TV series online;

She is participating in various training courses. She studied PPT in the first half of last year and is taking management courses in the second half of the year. .

As the Spring Festival approaches, she has started learning flower arranging again. She said she hopes to bring a more ritualistic atmosphere to her home.

She devotes her spare time to self-improvement and continuous learning. She seems to be a loner, but she is making plans for her future life bit by bit.

She rarely attends boring and inefficient social gatherings, nor wastes time on TikTok, but spends her energy on dinner parties with family and friends;

She I also use the Internet, but only to learn and communicate better.

She stipulates the time she spends on social networking every day and focuses more on self-improvement.

In the eyes of many people, her life is too rational. She makes plans every day and makes reading summaries every week;

She also makes monthly summaries every month to plan her life. Gotta be organized like a job.

But it is these regular lives that make Lulu's future bright and clear. Even if she occasionally loses control, she will get back on track early.

The book "Rational Choice" mentioned that in our society, men do show more self-confidence than women.

Men are always overconfident, while women are always underconfident.

But moderate self-confidence is precisely the advantage that women have in decision-making, which can greatly reduce the probability of making mistakes.

The best way for a woman to improve her self-confidence is undoubtedly to continuously improve her own abilities. When your own abilities exceed those of those around you, your self-confidence will arise spontaneously.

Therefore, when facing life, I hope you will be more rational and more positive;

Stay away from those "fat house and happy" lives, let alone "sang" and "Buddha" "System" fills your life.

Sane women know what they want and know how to let it go.

Do less things that are not beneficial to life, and do not do things that are harmful to life.

Thomas Hobbes once said:

"Every time people violate reason, they will be punished by reason.

A life that loses reason will be a disaster. Like a wild horse running wild, it is out of control no matter what.”

The more rational a woman is, the higher her life will be.

Only a woman who keeps a clear mind and rationality can stop the loss of feelings in time;

Only then can she think rationally and be responsible for her career when working;

Only then will you think twice before you act when facing life, and prevent your life from being ruined by out-of-control emotions.

Life is inseparable from feelings, but when we make choices, don’t forget to be rational.

I hope you will restrain your emotions, amplify your rationality, and make yourself stronger when working;

I hope you will have more courage and self-esteem when facing love. The awareness of protection means you will be less hurt in love.

I hope you will read more, gossip less, and spend your time improving yourself so that your life will be more exciting.

I hope you can manage your emotions well and be more positive and optimistic;

I hope you stay away from negative information and spend more time with positive people;

I hope you can have confidence in yourself and believe that you will get better.

I hope that you will be more confident and be a rational woman for the rest of your life, not hurting yourself or others, and making your life more advanced.