Many people think that with money and time, it is guaranteed to educate their children. Actually, it is not. Rich parents are even more confused in educating their children, especially in personality cultivation, desire education and frustration education. The following is the confusing information I shared with parents about educating their children. I hope you like it!

? Confusion of parents' education of children

■ Confusion of parents' education of children and cultivation of personality

★ Confusion of parents' education of children:

Ms. Zhou's daughter is two and a half years old and must wear her favorite clothes every morning. Kindergarten is required to wear garden clothes, but she just doesn't want to wear them. Every time, all the members of the family come to persuade her, and she reluctantly wears garden clothes to go to kindergarten. Parents are very confused about this. How to face a young child's dress requirements?

★ Experts' analysis of parents' confusion in educating their children:

Children's aesthetic development is a very important part of their understanding of the world. Children have shown a preference for a certain color and style when they can hardly speak. Adults should first admit their children's aesthetic freedom and be happy with their sense of self-reliance in making decisions independently. At this stage, children's imagination is extremely developed. They feel like princesses when they wear princess dresses, and they think they are superman when they wear superman clothes, regardless of objective reasons such as occasions or weather.

★ Parents educate their children's confusion and suggest three things:

Parents educate their children's confusion. 1. Respect children's opinions on color and style when buying clothes, provided that the price and occasion are suitable for the family. You don't have to impose your own aesthetics on children. Sometimes children want to wear skirts in cold weather, so it's okay to put a skirt over their pants.

Parents' confusion in educating their children. Second, put the old clothes at home, such as dad's shirts, hats, mom's long skirts, scarves, etc., in a cosmetic basket for children to imitate and dress up at any time. This will not only satisfy the characteristics of children's love of imitation, but also gradually let children know that different occasions need to wear different clothes.

parents' confused suggestions on educating their children 3. When the children's demands are too high and unreasonable, resolutely refuse. When reasoning doesn't work, we can ignore it, but we should have a remedial discussion on this issue in the future. Don't take the method of beating and cursing.

As for kindergarten uniforms, this practice is not appropriate. Because children in this period just began to sprout self-awareness, they often don't know who they are. It takes a long time for them to identify the appearance characteristics of dozens of children around them. If there is no personalized clothing, it will increase the difficulty for children to live in groups.

■ Confusion and desire education of parents in educating their children

★ Confusion case of parents in educating their children:

Ms. Zheng has a headache for her children's endless demands. Every time I lead my children to the streets or to public occasions, my children always keep buying this and that. This kind of problem has not appeared once or twice. Recalling her childhood, she said: When I was a child, I only had one? Doll? But I cherish it in every way, and now my son has a bunch of toy train models, racing models and motorboat models, but none of them seem to satisfy him. He likes all car models, and he has to buy cars of the same style in different colors and sizes, and he will keep clamoring for toys when he meets other children, but after buying them back, he throws them aside in a few days.

In fact, Ms. Zheng is not the only one who is puzzled by parents' education. Faced with such waste and endless desire, mothers don't know what to do. Although I have the financial ability to buy him all kinds of things, will I be used to being a child in the long run? You have to get what you want. The problem? Will there be any bad consequences when he grows up and enters the society?

★ The confusion of parents educating their children, experts' analysis:

This kind of education will certainly cause many bad consequences. But in the final analysis, the problem still lies with parents, because it is beyond reproach for children to express their wishes, and the right to satisfy their wishes is in the hands of parents. Perhaps many parents think this is money education, but in fact it is a kind of desire education with profound and extensive connotation. Children of different ages will have different desires, and early childhood is actually to lay the basic attitude of children towards desires, which is a very important stage of desire identification, which determines whether children can correctly face various temptations in the future, including emotional, material and many negative addictive things, such as cigarettes, alcohol, drugs and so on.

Actually, there is nothing wrong with desire itself, but satisfying desire is limited by time, place and quantity. And this is the difficulty of educating young children. If parents spoil or indulge their children and all their desires are satisfied, it will give him a misunderstanding that he can get what he wants, thus creating obstacles for his growth. When the child discovers that this is not the case, his inner pain is far stronger than when he was a child.

★ Confused suggestions for parents to educate their children:

Confused suggestions for parents to educate their children 1. When children only pay attention to their own desires, they will disclose the desires of other family members. After several desires are put together, they will discuss the priorities of various desires with their children and finally ask for their solutions.

parents' confusion in educating their children. 2. Before going to the streets, make a promise first. For example, what not to buy, so that children have a certain degree of mental preparation. The advantage of this is that the child will try to follow the agreement, and once he breaks his word, he will not pursue his parents. If a child's desire changes in the middle, it should be provided with a flexible solution, such as giving up the original desire, or reducing a beloved activity, etc. In short, it is better to be flexible without losing principle.

Parents' confused suggestions on educating their children. Third, it is best to buy things for children for a reasonable reason, such as celebrating a birthday and rewarding a good behavior. Many adults like to do whatever they want, which often leaves their children scratching their heads.

parents' confused suggestions on educating their children 4. Children's emotions are blocked because their desires are not satisfied, and sometimes there are fierce words or behaviors. Parents try to stay calm and let their children vent, and don't be angered by their children's angry words and fight. Talk until the child is calm.

■ Confusion and frustration education of parents' education of children

★ Confusion case of parents' education of children:

Ms. Han is 36 years old. She used to work in a foreign company and her husband has her own advertising company. You've been doing it at home since you had a baby? A stay-at-home wife? My son is 6 years old this year. They live in a 28-square-meter townhouse on the edge of Xishan, and their son, who grew up in a well-fed environment, is about to go to primary school this year. However, the mother gradually found that her son could not face failure. For example, if he fell behind in a race with other children, or lost two sets of checkers with his mother, he would cry and even make radical moves. Mom is very worried about this, and her children will face a lot of competition and failure when they go to primary school or enter the society in the future. What should we do?

★ Experts' analysis of parents' confusion in educating their children:

Most children can accept certain failures and setbacks if they are physically and psychologically normal. Some children's endurance is worse or childish than their peers, and it should not be considered a problem, because the growth rate is always fast and slow, and the earlier the difference, the greater the difference.

★ Parents educate their children's confusion. I would like to suggest parents about setbacks:

First, don't show excessive sympathy or sadness in front of children, otherwise children will infinitely exaggerate their behavior.

second, describe his pain instead of punishing his behavior with violence, so that the child feels that someone feels the same way.

Third, praise the children realistically, and judge the people and things happening around them objectively (from the perspective of society rather than family). Only in this way can it help to cultivate children's true confidence rather than false confidence.

Fourth, don't force children to change behaviors that they don't realize immediately, such as no crying, no losing their temper, and so on. Parents' methods of educating their children correctly

1. Combination of soft and hard

Some parents pursue appreciation education and give their children as much encouragement as possible. It is not advisable to just let their children listen to the truth. The truth can be divided into big truth and small truth, and no matter which truth, the effect is not ideal. Therefore, in ancient China,

Chinese people were good at family rules and clan rules to restrain their children, and Chinese abroad also had some family rules to punish their children. In the eastern thought, parents can't be equal friends with their children, but there is still some dignified atmosphere for parents and children, and the combination of soft and hard is the most feasible. Otherwise, you will enter the strange circle of godchildren.

Xiao Gang's mother is like this. She combines hard and soft to reason with her children and has rules and regulations. For the child's violation of discipline, he will be punished and the child will be punished.

2, the combination of Chinese and Western

Modern social education needs the combination of Chinese and Western education ideas, that is, the combination of eastern education ideas and western education ideas, learn from each other's strengths and give full play to their respective advantages. Oriental education is just rote learning, and its creativity is not strong; However, there are not many rules in western education, which completely emphasize freedom, innovation and doing experiments. In China's educational environment, getting good grades is the first priority, which is a reality that any parent needs to face. After all, parents should consider their children entering a good university. However, parents should properly cultivate their children's abilities, otherwise it will be difficult to adapt to the future society.

Children's test scores should be at the top of the class. Children attend English remedial classes on Saturday and send them to popular science schools on Sunday to learn robot making and application. Children's creativity is stronger than other children's.

3. Combining gains and losses

Educate children that there are possibilities of success and failure, and they should be considered. Don't just look at success, and you can't just focus on how much you get. If you combine gains and losses, you will have a normal mind and treat all this normally. 45 family education sayings that parents must know

1 Good personality is better than excellent intelligence

2 Baby's mood is a reflection of knowing the world

3 Talent is like natural flowers and trees, which should be pruned

4 For children, life is a school, and every grass and tree can be the object of research and exploration. It is not limited to reading, writing, arithmetic and all kinds of skills. 6 Education is too hasty and slow, which will destroy children's normal psychological development.

7 In any industry, the first step to success is to be interested in it, especially in children's learning.

8 Education must start from exploring children's interests and habits psychologically.

9 While parents are educating their children, Self-education

1 Parents are natural teachers, and they have the greatest influence on children, especially children

11 Stimulating children's desire for knowledge and learning is far more meaningful than teaching children limited knowledge

12 Parents should gradually cultivate their children's habit of thinking and solving problems independently, and thus build their confidence

13 Main skills for teaching children, It is to turn what children should do into a game.

14 A person's success =1%IQ (intelligence quotient) +99%EQ (emotional quotient)

15 Motherly love is the most sacred feeling in the world, and it should be because this kind of feeling is the least profitable.

16 Children have unlimited possibilities in their infancy. Parents need to dig and guide

17 Only when teachers and parents are in harmony can they form a joint force of education

18 Parents can't accompany their children all their lives, so they must cultivate their children's social consciousness and independent consciousness from an early age

19 Before reaching a rational age, children can't accept ideas, but can only accept the process of image

2 Parents educating their children. It is also a process of self-continuous perception and learning.

21 The art of education lies not in imparting skills, but in trying to awaken and inspire < P > the secret that old historical photos can't tell. The late Ming Dynasty and the early Qing Dynasty, the late Qing Dynasty,

22, enabled a person to give full play to his ability. It is to appreciate and encourage

23 parents are the earliest teachers of all the words and deeds of their children in life.

24 Children's rationality is constantly growing. Don't feed them, but guide them.

25 As long as parents are good at using them, every detail in life can be used to educate children.

26 Learning in life is the most effective learning method for children.

27 Character building begins in infancy. Going out to sea through the storm?

29 The distinction between imagination and display makes it easy for children to integrate into the story scene and get education from it

3 It is a wonderful way to keep their minds active by guiding children to tell stories in time

31 Combining the fairy tale meaning, guide children to think and explore. Deeper than simple reasoning

32 Simple and concise fairy tales often contain rich knowledge and profound truth

33 Rich imagination is more important than book knowledge

34 In children's world, everything is thoughtful and emotional just like people

35 Sports are expensive and constant. Diet is expensive and frugal

36 Children make small toys by themselves, which are rough, but far happier than ready-made exquisite toys

37 shows no consideration and trust. There is no friendship

38 All education begins with our understanding of children's nature

39 Parents are the first school for children to know the world and acquire knowledge

4 Educate children not only to be patient, but also to pay attention to methods and skills

41 Children's humor is the most natural and frank human language. Parents need to be careful to discover and understand

42 There are hardships and joys in parenting

43 No friend can match health, and no enemy can match disease

44 Only by taking the right medicine can the disease be cured

45 The task of family education is to educate and study parents first.