For Qian Zhongshu, when he is alone, he can keep his heart quiet and rich; When two people are together, they can help each other, warm and practical; A family of three can also help each other, simple and warm.
I think this is the best state of life.
Qian Zhongshu's personality is very special. He has been crazy and chaotic all his life, but he can keep a quiet and rich heart in chaos.
In primary school, he caught frogs and put them in his shoes, and went to school with them. When he was in middle school, he wore leather shoes regardless of his left and right feet. As an adult, he also has a childlike innocence: he painted a painted face on his daughter's face, was not afraid of helping cats fight in cold weather, and loved watching TV series The Journey to the West ...
Later, due to political reasons, Qian Zhongshu ended up cleaning toilets under the supervision of a female cleaner.
Let such a well-read man who is proficient in six foreign languages and educated by western civilization lose his academic freedom and turn to clean the toilet, which is cruel.
Mr. barren, who was locked up with Mr. Qian, once wrote a poem saying, "Poor sweeping the floor is all gentle", and Mr. Yang Jiang once lamented in Six Chapters of Cadre School, "The most worn thing is human flesh and blood!"
Only in solitude can a person's soul see its clearness and brightness, and enjoy the prosperity and abundance of life.
A rich heart is a seed with great vitality. It seems to be doing nothing, but the years go on for a long time under its ups and downs. It has no wings, but it can take you over all obstacles and mountains.
A famous foreign reporter wanted to see him after watching Fortress Besieged. He replied,
"If you eat an egg and think it's not bad, why should you know the hen that laid it?"
Regarding his own funeral, he wrote in his will: "As long as two or three relatives and friends send the remains, no ceremony will be held, and the flowers will be laid in wreaths, leaving no ashes."
"People call me crazy and don't know what I am."
this is Mr. Wang's self-evaluation. Those who are stubborn, those who are honest, are not willing to go along with it.
This spirit of self-purification has disappeared from many intellectuals, but Mr. Wei has stuck to it.
Mr. Qian once talked about the writer's mission. He said that a writer should be able to resist any temptation, have a pen that is good at expressing his thoughts, have iron shoulders and be able to carry heavy burdens. To sum up, it is three words: mind, pen and backbone.
Qian Zhongshu himself is an example of practicing these three words all his life.
Qian Zhongshu's letter
Sanmao has a poem called "I like you", which reads:
I like you
You told me to go east, and I gave you grass like a lamb
You told me to go west, and I reflected your rosy clouds like a sunset
You told me to go north, and I was a lily in your winter wind
You told me to. You are my tender lover
I miss the stars
I like you
You are the richness of my fruits
Missing in my blood
You are the warmth of holding hands in my dream
I like you
Modest, ecstatic, crying
I like you
A talented person and a beautiful woman.
Throughout history, it's probably an extravagant hope to be able to win a beautiful woman all the time.
A seemingly perfect marriage may contain sadness and fatigue that outsiders can't see, but Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, in the scouring of time and the crowd's onlookers, have become more and more envious.
Xia Zhiqing, a literary theorist, once praised their marriage in this way:
Throughout the 2th century, there were no couples in China literary circles who were as talented as Qian Yang and enjoyed a high reputation in their later years.
In 1935, Yang Jiang accompanied her husband to study in Oxford, England. When he first arrived in Oxford, Yang Jiang was not used to life in a foreign country, and he was homesick again and again.
In the morning, Yang Jiang was still asleep, and Qian Zhongshu was already busy in the kitchen. On weekdays, he was clumsy and clumsy. He cooked eggs, baked bread, warmed milk and made fragrant black tea.
Sleepy-eyed Yang Jiang was awakened by Qian Zhongshu. He put a small dining table on the bed and put a delicious breakfast on it, so that Yang Jiang could sit on the bed and enjoy it at will.
While eating the meal cooked by my husband, Yang Jiang said happily, "This is the most delicious breakfast I have ever had." When he heard his wife's satisfactory answer, Qian Zhongshu smiled with relief.
Because I understand your homesickness, your thoughts, and your tacit understanding and persistence, I have such a "best breakfast I have ever eaten".
Qian Zhongshu once summed up his love with Yang Jiang in one sentence: "A unique combination of three incompatible: wife, lover and friend."
two people together, practical and warm. "Harp, harp and chord, husband and wife and Ming" is about their life of knowing each other and carrying each other.
In 23, The Three of us was published by Yang Jiang. At the end of the article, she wrote:
"The three of us were separated. Lost so easily. Good things in the world are not firm, and colorful clouds are easy to scatter and glass is brittle. Now, I am the only one left. "
Later, Yang Jiang said in his centenary speech:
"I'm 1 years old and I'm on the verge of life. I can't know exactly how far I can go. My life span is involuntary, but I know very well that I'm going home soon. I have to wash away the filth that I have been contaminated for a hundred years and go home.
I don't have the feeling of "climbing Mount Tai and being small in the world". I just live a quiet life in my own land in Xiaotian.
When I think about it, my mind is as calm as water. I should greet every day peacefully, live every day well and get ready to go home. "
In 1997, my daughter yuan qian died of spinal cancer. In 1998, Qian Zhongshu also died of illness; At the age of 15, Yang Jiang crossed the edge of life and "went home".
since then, Qian Zhongshu, Yang Jiang, Qian Yuan, "the three of us" no longer have where will you go ...
This family of three has experienced a lot of pain, but even so, in their lives, warmth and love spread at will, quietly flowing in every day of a difficult life.
It takes a moment to know someone, like someone and fall in love with someone, but it may take a long time or even a lifetime to get to know someone.
The most tender feeling is just knowing you; Know you best, but only help each other; I love you the most, but I will accompany you for a lifetime.
The best living condition is nothing more than: when you are alone, you are quiet and rich; When two people are together, they are warm and practical; When three people are together, they love each other and are warm.
Lu Xun has a famous saying in the article "On the Power of Moro Poetry":
The most powerful person is the one who leaves behind the legacy of humanity.