What is truly high emotional intelligence? Jing, Ming, Ping, and Guo

1. Jing

True high emotional intelligence is never about smoothing the edges and corners. , but the shrewdness of angle learning.

You go to your girlfriend’s birthday party, and your girlfriend’s best friend is also present. He keeps taking selfies with your girlfriend arm in arm. You don’t want to make the atmosphere awkward, so you still talk and laugh with him.

Guess the friends present that day, do they think you are emotionally intelligent and considerate of the overall situation, or do they think you are a coward?

If old men encounter something like this that touches their core interests, they will never mince words. Instead, they will directly cover the guy's face with a smile.

After finishing the work, I will say one more sentence, brother, I am joking, won’t you be angry?

Human beings usually form many good relationships, and it’s not just when King Kong is angry, Does anyone have to give themselves three points of praise?

Behind the appearance of smoothness, people have already calculated the value of different choices, and then maximize their benefits. This is Emotional intelligence.

2. Ming

People with high emotional intelligence have clear goals and go straight to the topic. They usually don’t like to get angry, but they just don’t want to do unnecessary and meaningless things. thing.

For example, if you go to a convenience store to buy something, the purpose is to "get the thing", but if you subconsciously think that you also need to enjoy the service, then this thing will be bad.

For example, if you encounter a cashier with a poor service attitude, you will feel uncomfortable all over. You have to teach him a lesson, your mood will be bad, and your time will be wasted. What do you think is this? What?

3. Praise

Many people like to use some low-level methods to praise others, for example,

Being extremely diligent in front of the leader to get into the elevator You have to hold the door for the leader first, which will only make everyone look down on you. Show off in front of the goddess, and click and like every post of the goddess. This will only make everyone think you are a bitch. Is this called holding? No, this is called licking. In Game of Thrones, the villain Littlefinger has a famous saying: Everyone has desires, and if you understand their desires, you understand the other person and you can manipulate him.

When he found out that you were strong, he showed his strength; when he found out that you were weak, he lowered his posture in front of you; when he found out that you were deeply involved in the world, he took you to see the prosperity of the world. He found out that you My heart has gone through many changes, so I will take you to ride the merry-go-round.

People with high emotional intelligence have keenly observed this, so when they communicate with other people, they can always play a role that is close to the other person.

Before you know it, he gets what he wants. Find out what he wants, lower his profile, and gain value. This is true emotional intelligence.

4 Cowards

People with high emotional intelligence rarely strive to be the strong person on the surface. The strongest and most difficult art for them is to have no flaws. Pretending to be cowardly and acting stupid.

Even when facing the temptation of beauty, they take a bath slower than others. They look stupid and stunned, without any scheming, but in fact it is just a layer of protection for them.

The first is to conceal his own strength, and the second is also a manifestation of his super mentality.