In ancient times, there was a Taoist who was good at playing Go. Whenever he plays chess with others, he always lets them go first. Later, he wrote a poem: rotten ke (the old name of go) is really wonderful, and it has been played several times in one game. Out of the hole, you have to forgive others, forgive others. This is the origin of "be lenient with others, be lenient with others". Now this sentence has become a famous saying in dealing with interpersonal relationships, which means to leave room for doing things. Don't kill others with a stick when they make mistakes. Try to forgive where you can.

But in life, we often find that once some people are rational and take the lead in interpersonal communication, they will be aggressive, overbearing and cannibalistic, which is daunting.

I once heard of such a thing: when an old man who collected waste turned a corner on a tricycle, the wire on the car cut a hole in a young woman's jeans. The woman stubbornly insisted that the old man pay her 50 yuan money. The old man held an 8-yuan wool ticket in his hand and kept crying: "I really don't have that much money!" " Faced with the young woman's repeated demands, the helpless old man "plopped" and knelt down. He didn't want the other party to be unresponsive. The old man knelt down ten times in a row. Passers-by on the side have long been unable to hold back and have scolded the woman. "It's cruel of you to treat an old man like this!" The woman couldn't stand everyone's criticism and ran away despondently.

Students, how do you feel about this situation? Do you think that woman is unreasonable?

"Forgive others" is actually to leave a way out for yourself. It is human nature to make mistakes. In life, conflicts between people are inevitable. Once a dispute occurs, even if it is reasonable, we should avoid excessive criticism, accusation and even retaliation against the other party. We should know that "be lenient with others", and we should leave room and retreat for ourselves and others in everything, and we will make mistakes ourselves. Who doesn't want to be forgiven when we make mistakes?

"Be lenient with others, be lenient with others" is a more profound education. It is better to help others than to blame them. If you find fault with others' mistakes, this unreasonable and heartless behavior is not only offensive, but also may arouse the other party's strong rebellious psychology. "Forgiving others" can make the other party better understand the fault, which is actually equivalent to providing the other party with an opportunity to correct it. Why don't we take pleasure in this kind of "let things go smoothly" education?

"Be lenient with others, be lenient with others" is a kind of tolerance, a virtue of communication and a wisdom of life. There is a saying in Augmented Xianwen: "Forgiving people is not an idiot, and idiots will not forgive people." From this point of view, it is a kind of ignorance and lack of cultivation to be reasonable and overwhelm others. In life, everyone may be embarrassed, do something wrong and ask others for help. If you are on the right side at this time, please remember the principle of "be lenient with others", give more people more steps, let more people pass the customs, be kind to others, and don't care about the length of a day or the praise or disapproval of a word.

Today, we read a story, and Bernard Shaw left a deep impression on me. The general content of the story is as follows: once, Bernard Shaw was thinking about a problem in the street and was accidentally hit by a bicycle. Instead of blaming him, Bernard Shaw generously rounded up the scene with a humorous remark-fortunately, it was not difficult, otherwise you would go down in history for killing Bernard Shaw.

Hugo of France said: "The ocean is the vastest in the world, the sky is the vastest than the ocean, and the human mind is the vastest than the sky." Bernard Shaw has a broad mind, which is what we lack. For example, once, when I was practicing pen writing, my deskmate accidentally touched me, so I drew a "38th parallel" on my notebook and I kicked my deskmate. ...

If you are as paranoid as I am, then learn from Bernard Shaw together!

I think many people have heard the phrase "forgive others", but why is no one willing to do it?

On the way to the supermarket the other day, I saw a woman in her thirties riding a bicycle bump into a little girl of seven or eight years old, and then swore, "Whose child are you?" I don't want to be a child with low IQ. Why can't you even walk? " ..... "The latter words are very ugly. The little girl was probably frightened by her back and didn't say a word

It is also wrong to be a little girl, because little girls are retrograde, but let's put aside the problem of little girls for now. I think the woman who swore in public should also be a mother. How would it feel if one day her daughter was humiliated in public, and how would she feel as a mother? Besides, even if she is angry, she should think it's just a child. Instead of swearing in public, why not change the way? Why not tell the little girl that she should go to the right?

The onlookers began to blame the woman, even though it was not her fault at first. "Be lenient with others, be lenient with others", the girl did not commit any unforgivable crime. What's the use of being reasonable and forgiving? It will only appear that your quality is low!