Poverty means that when a person is poor, it is best not to visit relatives, and people will look down on you.
People are cold and warm, which is a cruel thing in this society When you have no money, everyone will see you like a plague, afraid that you will ask others for money. And when you are poor, you will visit relatives' homes and have no money to buy gifts. Everyone likes to reciprocate. If you visit your relatives empty-handed, they will look down on you.
Then your sudden visit is likely to be a trouble to others. In their eyes, your visit is nothing more than "nothing goes to the Three Treasures Hall".
This society is very realistic. People who have no money can give you little help in the snow, but there are many people who don't ask you, when you are down. This is also a reality that we have to admit. Everyone is money first. Although it is more cruel than cool thin, it is also an understandable reality.
If you don't go back to your hometown if you have money, it also means that people don't go back to their hometown if they have money. Relatives will think you are showing off, which is actually a weakness of human nature.
When people return to their hometown when they have money, there will be an endless stream of people coming to cling to and curry favor with them, and such people are generally snobs. You say whether you will help or not, so you'd better not go back to China if you have money, or you'll ask for trouble and add trouble.
Zhu Zhiwen, a grassroots singer, is a typical example. Before he became famous, the whole village hated him: he was lazy and stupid, only singing and doing nothing, and he could not do farm work.
But he became famous overnight and became rich overnight, and the attitude of the villagers changed immediately: because he became rich and had a lot of money, the villagers began to borrow money from him.
Therefore, the words of the ancestors are very reasonable and realistic. If a person is poor, even if you live in a big city, you have no interest. If you are a rich man, even if you are in a deep forest, someone will come to see you. The reality of human nature is really the most creepy and chilling.
Second, you are not deaf or blind, and you are not worthy of being in charge.
As the old saying goes, "It is difficult to be confused". If everything is too smart, it may not be a good thing for others.
Everyone has a small abacus in his heart. As long as it has nothing to do with principles, it is good for others and yourself to turn a blind eye. It is difficult for anyone to get along for a long time.
There is no fish in clear water, and there is no disciple when people look at it. When you are alive, it is most precious to learn to tolerate others. To tolerate others is to tolerate yourself, and to see through is the great wisdom of treating people.
Third, the sky is not self-sufficient and the earth is not self-sufficient.
This sentence means don't cry roast meat, say be modest and don't show off yourself.
Heaven and earth never speak, but it is daunting. And some people talk big and show off their cleverness all day, but they don't know that it is a joke in the eyes of others. The more ostentatious a person is, the more lacking he is. Showing off all day just shows that there is not much ink in his stomach.
Really smart people always cherish words like gold, but what they say is hit the floor. Talk less and do more, and prove your strength with practical actions, which is more convincing.
There is a saying in the Book of Rites, "A gentleman does not flatter himself, nor does he reward his labor with love." Said. It means that a gentleman does not exaggerate his own deeds or show off his achievements in order to conform to the truth. Moreover, it is necessary to "show the goodness and beauty of people in order to be a saint."
Only by showing the good deeds of others and praising their contributions can we treat the sages modestly. "So, although the gentleman feels inferior, the people respect him." Therefore, although a gentleman is humble, the people respect him.
Fourth, people can't be complete, and melons can't be round.
If a person likes something, you can devote time and energy to it, instead of doing it step by step, as if you need restraint from nine to five.
People are incomplete and melons are not round. Ten horses are incomplete, and ten fingers have length. Proper regret is the highest wisdom in life. Often the pursuit of perfection will lose the motivation and direction of progress.
We can't let the sun rise in the west and set in the east, and we can't turn back the clock. We can only meet the uncertain future. However, we can follow the rising sun in the west, follow the extension of time, and bravely and steadily move towards the future in a favorable environment.
The meaning of life is not to look back on the past, but to grasp the present. As a philosopher said, our past has passed and our future has passed, so we don't have to worry about the past and the future, we just need to live in the present seriously.
So is life. No one's life is perfect. You will never be happy if you always stare at your shortcomings. When you are alive, you should learn to tolerate yourself and reconcile with your past self, so that regrets can be alleviated.
These four classic quotations from our ancestors are well written. Read it carefully and take a lot of detours!