Stay in shape and exude charm. John Deleki once said: "Beauty can stimulate people's emotions, and love purifies people's soul." It is true that beauty is extremely desirable to everyone. Just like the popular joke nowadays: In ancient times, if a man saved a woman, if you were good-looking, the woman would say: "The young man is so kind and virtuous, and the young woman has nothing to repay, but to give her life." On the contrary, if you are not good-looking, , then the woman will say: "Young Master is so kind and kind, and the little girl will definitely repay it in her next life as a cow or a horse." Although this joke sounds a bit harsh, it also reflects some realities from the side: Whether you are a woman or a man, you must remember to stay in shape. You know, no one wants their partner to be bloated. Everyone has a heart that loves beauty and eyes that appreciate beauty. You can criticize this status quo, but you can't change the reality. Therefore, if you want to make the relationship between two people last longer, you can exude charm through physical attraction and gain "physical attraction" to maintain the relationship. Give each other warmth in your words and deeds. Life is bitter. It would be so unbearable if the sweetness of love is no longer available. Therefore, after two people get together, they should also remember to give each other enough warmth during the days they get along. "A kind word warms a person for three winters, but a bad word hurts a person for six months." A warm word is worth thousands of insignificant actions. Naturally, you should also consider the other person's feelings in your behavior, care for him, and warm him. Being able to be treated tenderly and feel warm by another person will make people's hearts become hot. Whether it is psychologically or physically, people are willing to stay with this person. In fact, words and deeds are the most common ways of expression. How one person feels about another person can most likely be known from his words and deeds. It is precisely because of this that if your words or actions make him feel resentful and uncomfortable. Then, even if you are still devoted, he will mistakenly think that you have changed your mind and feel impatient with him. Therefore, if you want to make the relationship between two people last longer, you must pay attention to your words and deeds, and try to make your words and deeds warm to him. In this way, you will get along more harmoniously. Give him a hug. No one is perfect, just like the Tang Monk in "Journey to the West". Even though he is kind at heart and has character traits such as gentleness, honesty, integrity and selflessness, he is also too stubborn and blindly kind. . Voltaire said: "Appearance beauty can only please people's eyes, but inner beauty can infect people's soul." A person who is good at tolerating others will win the respect of others, and tolerance in love will also appears particularly important. Even teeth and tongues sometimes "fight", let alone two real people existing alone. When men and women get along, if the friction is not handled properly, the relationship will often fall to a freezing point. Therefore, when a conflict arises, instead of being unreasonable and unforgiving, it is better to give him a hug. Hugging is an intimate act that can make the other person feel happy. In the process of two people getting along, giving him a hug frequently will shorten the distance between them and "physically attract" him. As Wilde said: "Even love is purely a physiological problem and has nothing to do with our personal will." So you have to understand that love is often not controlled by our will. On the contrary, it is affected by physiology. . Just like Gina and Lang Lang in the variety show "Happiness Trio", Gina's deep love for Lang Lang began with talent but ended with mutual attraction. It can be seen that the two of them get along with each other, but there is no lack of warm interactions in their daily life. Love is always beautiful at the beginning, and happiness is like honey. But as the two people get to know each other more deeply and have daily friction, the taste of love will also change. Although it is difficult to extricate yourself after falling in love, this is only limited to the initial relationship. Subsequent relationships are often based on "physical attraction" to each other. So don’t ignore it. When men and women get along, they also need to pay attention to skills. If you can "physically attract" each other, then even if the road ahead is bumpy, you can still be in love as before. Maintaining physical attraction will make a relationship last longer 2 What do you like about me? When faced with such a problem, everyone is always reluctant to tell the truth, and then those duplicitous "big loves" come out. It seems that telling the truth will make my love seem not pure enough, or I feel that telling the truth will make my love for you not noble enough, and that there are some other, realistic, and profit-seeking colors behind it. In the end, it is all to convey a message to the other party, that I am attracted to you by my soul. Then it not only satisfied each other's vanity, but also satisfied each other's fantasy of love, so everyone reached a tacit understanding unanimously, raising the truth of physical attraction to the issue of soul and spiritual attraction. In order to cover up this truth, all kinds of flags, love words and lies came into being. In fact, part of love comes from physical attraction, and love even begins and comes from physical attraction. Wilde said this: "Even love is purely a physiological problem and has nothing to do with our personal will." If we put it another way, if love can be explained clearly, then it originally originated from biology. Attraction, and then gradually accumulated through the process of getting along with each other comfortably, and in the process of sharing the same fate, and gradually cultivated kindness, loyalty, tacit understanding, habits and dependence.

At the same time, because we have been together for a long time, there are too many interests involved, or the interests are directly tied together, and then there is the persistence and mutual support because of "love". In short, there is no way to deny the importance of physical attraction. Even if the relationship later rises to another level, don't forget why the relationship started and regard it as one of the foundations of the relationship. It is said that it starts with appearance, talent and loyalty to character. Indeed, no one will appreciate your beautiful soul through your sloppy appearance. Many people are aware of this, but many people also ignore it. Take the relationship between husband and wife as an example. When it enters the second stage and the partner gets caught up in their talents and forgets to maintain their appearance, or feels that the relationship has entered the second stage, then the attraction of the first stage will be lost. It is no longer important, and by analogy, when entering the third stage, the attraction of the first two stages is also ignored. Although the order is this, everything complements each other at any stage. Of course, if someone likes you for having fair skin, a good-looking smile, and big eyes and double eyelids, you don’t have to feel upset or deny the purity of your feelings. After all, this is also part of your own charm. Therefore, even in the relationship between husband and wife, there is still the problem of physical attraction. This is a problem of human instinct and will not be affected by relationship or familiarity. People need spiritual attraction and physical attraction. In fact, there is no conflict, just like people need to eat and drink water. Give the simplest example. A couple's relationship has been relatively stable from the time they fell in love to the five years they were married. It is the result of business and the wife's slightly chubby figure that has always attracted the husband. It is an indescribable and inexplicable attraction. When I see it, I want to hug it, and it looks cute when it raises its hands and feet. Even looking at it from a distance is a very enjoyable thing. Suddenly one day my wife started to lose weight and felt that a woman should lose weight and look good, no matter what physical attraction she had to her husband. As a result, after losing weight, my husband could not appreciate this kind of beauty anyway. Even if he forced himself to accept it, his body would instinctively resist, and his feelings for her changed over time, at least he lost the previous sense of comfort and pleasure. . To know the feelings and likes, these cannot be forced. As a result, the relationship between the two people soon developed problems. There was no physical attraction, and the husband's attitude towards his wife became increasingly cold. However, the husband never tells his true thoughts, or the husband doesn’t know what the problem is. Then because there is no physical attraction, the husband's patience and resilience are not as good as before, and many trivial things often turn into big conflicts. It was not until the wife gradually returned to her former figure that the relationship between husband and wife improved. Really, if you want a long-term and harmonious relationship between husband and wife, there is one thing that cannot be ignored: physical attraction. In order to run their marriage well and live a warm and happy life, many couples are looking for various ways and means, but they don't know that if there is a problem with the attraction between the sexes, no matter how practical and easy-to-use methods are, they will be in vain. Those so-called practical business methods are based on the premise that they are attractive enough. In the final analysis, attraction is the core bond of the relationship between the sexes. It must be able to ensure that there will be no problems with the attraction, whether it is physical attraction, mental attraction, or inner charm. If there is a problem with attraction, love will actually gradually disappear, and no matter how deep the emotional foundation is, it will be shaken. As a result, your partner will love you less and less. Even the relationship between husband and wife cannot change the fact that it is essentially a relationship between the sexes. Favorability in appearance and personality arouses a strong psychological desire to be emotionally close to each other, which is the beginning of love and the beginning and maintenance of the relationship between the sexes. A person's appearance and posture are not the only factor that determines whether attraction is strong or weak, but it is one of the most critical factors. Physical attraction will affect mental attraction, or in other words, mental attraction will be amplified and reduced due to physical attraction. Of course, the reverse is also true. I just hope you don’t ignore this. . So, if your partner likes you with white skin, big eyes, good figure, etc., you should maintain these attractions. Don't hold an indifferent attitude because you are too familiar, thinking that you have already been married anyway. Once you're married, there's no need to work so hard to maintain those characteristics. Relationships are not permanent. If you want a stable relationship, you must maintain the attraction. The most important thing is often the most inconspicuous, and the most inconspicuous often directly determines the final result. Maintaining physical attraction will make a relationship last longer 3 What is physical attraction? The so-called "physical attraction" means that two people have desire for each other's bodies. In marriage, only the desire for each other's bodies between husband and wife can prove the deep relationship between two people. Otherwise, they are just a superficial couple, supporting the so-called relationship. Just a marriage relationship. Marriage is inherently secular. If it cannot be implemented into dressing, eating and sleeping, then it will become meaningless. It can be seen that the intimate contact between husband and wife is the preservative of marriage, and research shows that when couples are "physically attracted" in the process of getting along, their relationship will last longer. Pay attention to body management and maintain visual appeal. After watching the variety show "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", we couldn't help but sigh, it turns out that there are really people in this world whose bodies will not be destroyed by time.

At that time, Yi Nengjing was already over 30 years old when she participated in the show, but there was not a trace of fat on her body. Instead, she had a tight and streamlined figure, exuding a vitality that was no less than that of young people. In Yi Nengjing's marriage, even after many years, her emotional state was like honey mixed with oil. They teased each other from time to time and occasionally blushed, but they never thought of leaving each other's hearts. In real life, many people give up on self-management after entering marriage. Women become bloated and men become pot-bellied. To use a very cruel word, I have no desire to look at such a figure, let alone others. The famous designer Heimaia has a famous saying to explain why people should pay attention to body management: "If people lack gratitude for their own lives, they will definitely make themselves very bad. Only those who fully accept themselves will never Be grateful in your heart. A person who cannot discover the beauty of others cannot discover his own beauty. A person who is jealous or imitates the beauty of others cannot achieve his own beauty. "The meaning of marriage is to constantly explore the freshness in it. , instead of letting it remain unchanged, only by maintaining visual appeal can the sweetness of the marriage be guaranteed. You can sleep in separate beds appropriately to cool down your marriage. Sometimes, as a marriage develops for a long time, it will be in a state where the temperature is too high. Just like a computer, if the operating temperature is too high, it will affect the speed of its operation. Therefore, in order to keep the marriage in its best state, what we need to do is to cool down the marriage, such as sleeping in separate beds occasionally. After metal components are treated at high temperatures and then immersed in coolant, their performance will remain in a better and stronger state. The same is true for marriages. Properly sleeping in separate beds can allow couples to pay more attention to the sweetness of each other's time together through a short separation, so that the two people's desire for each other's bodies can always be kept in a half-full state, and there will be no satiety and boredom. . Regarding marriage, Teacher Hu Jianyun once said something like this, which makes us think that the best marriage should be like this - "I think the best marriage state is: at home, there are fireworks in the kitchen; outside, there are cares and greetings. In spirit, there is communication and understanding; in life, there is respect and tolerance. The meaning of marriage is to experience the best happiness and sweetness in the world with each other, so cooling down is conducive to its long-lasting happiness. Intimate physical contact from time to time. The most effective way to enhance emotional intimacy between people is actually intimate physical contact. In this regard, the book "The Five Love Languages" uses this sentence to explain the meaning of intimacy. The Importance of Physical Touch - “Physical touch can make or break a relationship, it can convey hate or love. For people whose primary love language is physical touch, physical touch speaks louder than words like 'I hate you' or 'I love you'. "Sometimes, a simple kiss or a simple hug can let each other understand each other's thoughts through physical contact, allowing each other to intuitively feel what strong love is like. Just like the TV series " Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan in "Know or Not", after they got married, they would kiss or hug each other from time to time. On weekdays, Gu Tingye would also hold Sheng Minglan's hand for a walk, without feeling any embarrassment at all. We can see that their emotional state is always exuding sweet pink bubbles. The closest relatives are husband and wife, but it is not a sad thing for two people in a marriage to be unable to have close physical contact. Therefore, kissing or hugging from time to time can strengthen each other's determination to be together. The biggest secret to a happy couple is to manage the marriage and let it develop in a good direction, rather than ignoring it once and for all, which will make the marriage a mess in the end. , experiencing happiness is a luxury thing. Therefore, only by avoiding unhappiness factors can we get closer and closer to happiness.