One dream in the world of mortals can tell the truth and falsehood, and the flowers in the mirror are empty. Oil, salt, and vinegar make hair gray, and make people worry about birth, old age, illness, and death.

Trouble - the bitter tea that must be tasted in life, originates from thinking and begins with worry. If you treat the world with tolerance and treat things with elegance, it will be indifferent.

Eight ways to deal with troubles

Take the heart inward

The first point is to keep the heart inward: Many of my troubles are caused by letting the heart go out, so Master Meng said : "There is no other way to read, just to be at ease!" He also said: "There are chickens and dogs that know how to seek, and there are people who are willing to let go but don't know what to ask for. What a pity!" Everyone, we all put our minds aside, and the purpose of reading is Take your heart back, so the more you let your heart out, the more pitiful you are. Lao Tzu also said: "When one is frightened by the spirit, one is attached to all things. Once one is attached to all things, one becomes greedy. When one is greedy, one becomes troubled, bothered and delusional, and distressed both physically and mentally. Then he suffers turmoil and humiliation, wanders around in life and death, and often sinks into the sea of ??suffering. Yonghuazhen said, "Everyone, why are you troubled? If you are open-minded and open-minded, you may like the things you see, but they are not yours, and troubles will arise. For example, if you often visit department stores, I guarantee that you will have a lot of troubles. These things are very cute when you see them. What should you do? ? Therefore, the more your mind is outward, the more troubles you will have. The more your mind is drawn in, the less troubles you will have. Therefore, always ask "You can, why can't I?" Don't ask, "I can, why can't you?" You ask If you say "I can, why can't you?" there is only hatred. If you ask the other way around, "You can, why can't I?" there is only regret. There is no harm in regret, but there is no use in hating. God will not kill those who repent, and even heinous sins cannot be worth a single "regret". "In other words, even if you put down the butcher knife, you can become a Buddha immediately, so regretting has nothing to do with it. For example, there are ninety-five faculty members in my school. If a rule is given, ninety-three people will do it, and one or two people will not be able to do it. what to do? I thought about it, it must be that my ability to express myself was too poor and they couldn't understand my good intentions. Secondly, maybe I wasn't well-educated enough. He regarded me as his superior, and I couldn't convince him. When I think that the fault is mine and not his, I feel at ease. So whenever you think of yourself, don’t think of others. Staring at others is very painful. Thinking about yourself will make you free and easy, so introspection is very important. Confucius's "loyalty and forgiveness" means that loyalty means starting from oneself in everything, and forgiveness means thinking more about others in everything. Confucius's way of loyalty and forgiveness is so simple. Loyalty means doing one's best and starting from oneself in everything. Just like the anti-crime and anti-pornography campaign, everything starts from oneself. It is enough to think about others in everything. If we Chinese can do these two words, then the world will be different, and we can really reach the world. Datong. So the first point is to draw your heart inward. When you have troubles, you have to think about it. Your heart has been released. You have to reflect quickly. The more your heart is drawn inward, the less troubles you have. The more your mind is released outward, The more troubles there are.

Awakening to the right view

The second point, to have the right view: Many troubles are caused by your wrong thoughts. When you have troubles, you have to think about this thought. Maybe it's wrong, so there is a saying in the Sixth Patriarch's Tan Sutra: "When evil comes and troubles come, when good troubles come, they are eliminated. Neither evil nor good will be used, and there will be no trace of purity left." So when I have troubles, I keep thinking about this. Probably not right. Let me tell you an example. I used to be in Normal University. When I was a senior, they elected me to be the class representative. The class representative in my senior year was very busy, so I didn’t have the chance to go back to my hometown in Hsinchu. Later, when I graduated, I On the eve of the eve, someone suggested that we should organize an outing. I very much agreed with it, but I became selfish. I really wanted to use this opportunity to go back to my hometown in Hsinchu, so I asked everyone in private to choose Qingcao Lake when the vote is taken. . This is selfishness! When the vote comes later, if it is Qingcao Lake, you will be very grateful to him. If not, your hatred will come, right? So if you have troubles, they are probably caused by selfishness. At the moment of breakthrough, trouble is Bodhi, and trouble is enlightenment. So the second right view is that when you have troubles, you have to think carefully. Your idea may not be right.

Treat it as cause and effect

The third point, regard it as cause and effect: When I hear something I shouldn’t hear, I immediately think of a person I must have spoken to before. In other words, the "cause" before and now the "result" are safely settled! Isn't it? I feel much better when I think about it this way, so when you hear something you shouldn't hear, you must immediately think that you must have said something you shouldn't have said before. In the past, it was "the cause", but now it is the "result". Sometimes when we say things that break other people's hearts, we don't even feel it ourselves. Is this a phenomenon? Yes, right? The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, the speaker is contemptuous, and the listener is sincere. Therefore, there are inevitable consequences. The two most unfair things in the world are "getting something for nothing" and "getting something for nothing", right? There is nothing to gain from hard work, there is a cause but no result; there is nothing to gain without work, there is a result but no cause. Let me give you an example: Suppose the exam is coming soon and there are two students. One student knows that if he doesn’t study before the exam, he will be unimaginable after the exam, so he will work harder and stay awake. Another student, who cares, he had fun in the big test, and played in the small test, even if he didn’t take the test, he still had fun. During the test, he used two methods, one is called the "observation method" and the other is called the "gathering method". After using this method, his results exceeded that of the other one. What did the other one think? He will lament where is the justice? I work for nothing and he gets nothing, so this is very unfair.

Cause and effect is a natural law, just like one plus one equals two. It seems that the greater the action force, the greater the reaction force. If you drink three glasses of wine here, you will first run to another place. , right? There is a cause here and a result there. The cause and effect is a natural law. It is very natural that there is a cause and an inevitable result. Let's take a look again. Many idioms are about cause and effect. You see: you will reap melons if you sow melons, you will reap beans if you sow beans, you must kill to pay for your life, you must pay for your debts, you must suffer for yourself, you must suffer for your own misfortune... and there are so many more! Those who respect others will always respect them, and those who love others will always love them. These are all causes and effects. I once made a list of them, and there are a lot of them! Daring to take action is also cause and effect. The problem is that you create the cause, and you must have the courage to accept the retribution. I have not dared to complain for ten years. It's not that I don't dare, but I don't have the courage to accept the retribution. Everyone, it’s too easy to complain and poke holes! The problem is that it’s not easy to mend. It’s like digging a hole in your suit with scissors. It’s so easy! How do you fix it? If you want to patch it, the first piece of cloth you use must be larger than the hole, otherwise you can't patch it, right? It takes too much effort to make amends afterwards. No matter how good your skills are, are there any cracks? have. So I don’t even dare to complain. I don’t dare to complain when I think about it. Because digging a hole is easy! But it’s not easy to fix! So I don’t have much chance of complaining, because as soon as you create a cause, there will be a result, so many man-made causes will have consequences. Cause and effect is a natural law. Everyone, when I hear something I shouldn’t hear, I immediately think of it. When I have said something I shouldn't have said before, you are very free and easy. I think it's very important that cause and effect is a natural law.

Criticizing others means having a bad stoma

The fourth point is that criticizing others means having a bad stoma. Being criticized is a way to eliminate sinful karma. On the surface, it seems that you are taking advantage of others by criticizing others. In fact, you are wrong. You are committing sins, and you don't even know that you have a stoma. On the surface, when someone is criticized by you, it seems like he has suffered a loss, but in fact he is wrong and you are helping him to clear up his guilt. Therefore, it is difficult to say whether you are taking a loss or taking advantage. From that perspective, things in the world are very strange! There are gains and losses. If you go abroad to get a doctorate, frankly speaking, you have lost your youth! Right? If there are gains, there must be losses. If you don't serve as an official, you will be idle, right? Gains and losses are all the same. Where there are gains, there are losses. Gains are losses and losses are gains. Therefore, when a person reaches the highest state, he should have no gains and no losses. But people are very pitiful. They all worry about gains and losses, whether they have gained before they have been gained or lost after they have gained. Our hearts are like a pendulum, with gains and losses, gains and losses, swinging like this, which is very painful. At the highest level, there should be no gains and no losses, because a loss is a gain and a gain is a loss. A blessing in disguise is a blessing or a disaster. Therefore, I always feel that between gains and losses, don’t take it too seriously.

Improve yourself and don’t have the same knowledge as him

The fifth point is to improve yourself and don’t have the same knowledge as him.

Everyone, do you want to become famous? Some people say that it is very easy to become famous. Just find some famous people to scold, and if they scold you in return, you will be as famous as them. People will say that you two are of average taste! Almost! There used to be a person who scolded everyone. Once he scolded Professor Xu Fuguan of Tunghai University. Professor Xu asked Dr. Zhao Yabo, a professor when I was a graduate student, "Should I scold back?" Professor Zhao said: "Don't scold him back. When you scold him back, on the surface you are belittling him, but in fact you are lifting him up. People will say that you two have average knowledge." There is a latest teaching method in teaching methods, called the question-and-think teaching method. , when people ask questions, you have to think about it and ask back immediately after a while. In fact, I think two people scolding each other is the best way to teach questions. When someone scolds you, you must pay full attention, lest you miss a word, right? Because I want to refute it right away! If we do anything with as much concentration as when someone scolds us, everything will be successful! So I think we should improve ourselves. I often think so. As a scholar, I should learn from the saints, Dharma and sages. I should not compete with the common people, but should compete with the saints. I should not compete for a moment, but for the future. I think I use this to encourage myself. If the other person is unreasonable, you can belittle the other person. For example, you can treat the other person as a barking dog. For example, if you are passing by a place and a dog barks at you, it is difficult for you to bark it back. No need to do that! However, it is best to keep this idea in your heart and not say it out loud. If you say it out loud, you will commit sin.

Know the true and the false

The sixth point, know the true and the false: in this world, that is true, that is false, everything is false, there is only one It is true, it is the three virtues: establishing virtue, establishing merit, and establishing reputation. I often use one to encourage myself. "The value of life does not lie in the quality of his knowledge, the level of his fame, or the amount of wealth, but in the size of his contribution." If you have these and don't know how to dedicate them, you may not succeed or fail. There is more than enough. Everything in the world is a tool, just like a stone. If you use it well, it is like a "stepping stone". If you don't use it well, it is a "stumbling block", right? Look at this mouth! It is what preaches morality and benevolence and righteousness, and it is also what stirs up dissension and sows discord. Look at these hands, they are the ones that help people, and they are the ones that push people; look at these feet, they are the ones that run around doing things for people, and they are the ones that go to places they shouldn't go. I see everything in the world as a tool, and it only depends on whether you can use it. If you can use it, it is a stepping stone. If you can't use it, it is a stumbling block. But if you want to make it a stepping stone or a stumbling block, the sovereignty is mine. , so everything is fake, no need to fight anymore!

Once upon a time, a man went to visit his friend. He was very poor, and his friend was very rich, so he gave him a lot of gold and silver. When the man came out, he was so tired that he gave him a lot of money. The friend couldn't put his gold and silver treasures on him, so he fell asleep like this. When his friend came out and saw it, he was startled and woke him up and said, "You are so poor, I will give you this much gold." Silver treasure, why did you fall asleep with it next to you? What if it was robbed or stolen?" After he was woken up by his friend, he said something very reasonable. He said: "We humans, when our eyes are open, everything is yours. When our eyes are closed, which thing is yours?" Sometimes even your wife may not be yours! So, everyone, what are you fighting for? Tomorrow may not even be ours! Some people say: "Dead people have no today, and living people have no tomorrow." The present we live in is today, right? There used to be a joke about a child who was a sixth grader in primary school. One day he came home and had to do a lot of homework. His mother coaxed the child to go to bed first. When it was midnight, the mother woke up and saw that the child was still there. She couldn't bear to catch up on her homework, so she said to him: "Xiao Mao! No need to write, just write tomorrow!" At this time, the younger son beside her also woke up and asked: "Mom, what does tomorrow mean?" His mother He was very surprised, so he said to the child: "Close your eyes now, and then open them again at dawn, then it will be tomorrow." Later, when the child got up the next day, he kept shouting, "It is tomorrow now! It is tomorrow now." ! "Actually, it's still today.

So, folks, what’s tomorrow? Tomorrow is just a hope, just a hope. No one dares to say that I can live until tomorrow. All you live for is today, and you can't even guarantee tomorrow. What are you fighting for? Life is like a dream, why should we take it seriously? If someone scolds me, I just treat him as a dream. Did anyone dream last night that someone scolded you? When you wake up today, you still say, I am really unwilling and reluctant. No need, right? ? Life is like a dream, why should we take it seriously? Everyone, this is indeed the case, so if you look at many things a little bit, look at them, understand them thoroughly, let them go, you will be free and easy. I think if you do this, you will be very comfortable.

Don’t get involved with yourself and it will only increase your troubles

The seventh point is, don’t get involved with yourself and it will only increase your troubles; Buddhism has the Four Noble Truths... ...suffering, collection, cessation, path. Why is there suffering, collection, cessation, and path? Everyone, there are many things involved with yourself, and the pain comes. I can give you an example. I used to attend Hsinchu Provincial Middle School. When I was in the third grade of junior high school, there was a class meeting. Because I am very short, I always sit in the first row. Once the instructor came in and said this: "Stop working so hard and put away all your homework! We are going to have a class meeting." Because I Sit in the front row. I don’t know how many people behind me are working on their homework, but I hated it when I heard the instructor’s words! I wondered why the instructor said such things, which made me feel very uncomfortable, so I made up my mind to put my weekly diary to good use that week, so I went back to find all the dictionaries, collected all the bad words, and wrote them down. Three pictures, scolding the tutor as worthless, and finally added: "I have been studying for nine years, and I have never met such a tutor!" One day, on a Saturday afternoon, it was drizzling. , the tutor invited me there, and the tutor said: "If you don't write, I will forget it. That day, there are so many people rushing to do their homework, can the teacher not talk about it? If the tutor doesn't talk about it, how will the class meeting be held?" The tutor is because Things happen, not people. I didn't expect that I scolded him so badly! He was very sad, and finally the teacher added: "I have been teaching for thirty-nine years, and I have never encountered such a student!" I think it is fair, everyone, this is all because of the class! It's not just about me. Why do I have to get involved with myself, which only adds to the pain.

Let me give you another example. Suppose there is a meeting today and a hundred people should be there. If one or two of them are not present, the chairman will not notice and will not speak, right? If there are less than one-third of the people, I would like to ask if the chairman should speak. If the chairman does not speak, I think there will be less than half tomorrow. Some people will say that if there are less than one-third of the people today, the chairman will not speak. Talk, it’s okay if we don’t go tomorrow, what should we do? So the chairman should speak. The chairman's speech is heard every day, but today's meeting is the only one that cannot be heard by that person. How does he feel? He must be very emotional. He will think that it is rare that I am not here today. The chairman said such words to me. This is also suffering because of the gathering. If I force myself to be involved, the pain will come. I have a friend who is an official at the central level. It’s not easy! I found that he was very free and easy. Once, he was sitting here, and someone was right next to him, calling his name and scolding him miserably! This friend of mine is very rare. He talks and laughs freely and doesn't care at all. Unless you point at his nose and call him by his name, he will say: "Ah! You are talking about me." I think this person is very free and easy. . So, we humans! It is very painful to have everything related to me. For example, if someone writes the three characters "Zheng" together and puts three crosses next to them after writing, I will feel sad. In fact, these three characters "I", They are also three of the tens of millions of Chinese characters. This is not unusual, but I have been using it for more than 40 years and feel very familiar with it! Right? In fact, it is not my patent, others can still use it, so this is also painful because of the collection. Everyone, even if things are connected to oneself, pain will come. This is very important.

Don’t expect others to be like you in everything

The eighth point is, don’t expect others to be like you in everything: People are different and each has their own face, so the world will be colorful. Colorful.

"Just because I have a lot of incompetencies, God has put all this on me. This is God's mercy. I have to thank God for his compassionate mind.

In short, I use it in my life. These dozen or so methods make myself very happy, so I often cultivate a mainstream of happiness. The stronger the mainstream, no worries will be able to enter my scope and will be washed away as soon as they come. So I ask you to try your best to cultivate a mainstream of happiness. The mainstream of happiness. If this method doesn't work, use the second method. If the second method doesn't work, use the third method. I have never been worried in the past ten years because I always feel that nothing will bother me. , I can break through any problem, so today I take this opportunity to provide you with my experience and ask for your advice!

Finally, I ask you a question: "How do we want to live our lives?" Woolen cloth? "Weeping and crying also last a lifetime, and laughing and joking also lasts a lifetime. Why can't we just laugh and laugh!