But the most important thing for us now is to face reality. The reality is in front of us, and it is difficult to surpass it without facing it. You must have worked for a long time, and nothing has improved. You might as well think about what kind of work you are most suitable for, think boldly, don't be limited by your current major, and then try your best to let yourself develop slowly in that direction, and do things honestly and honestly.
Why do we live in this world? Have you thought about this question in order to eat, drink and be merry? Maybe you will feel too vulgar after listening to it, but please savor what I said and think about the ultimate goal of everything you do.
We must have a correct outlook on life and values. The answer to this question varies from person to person, and you need to experience it slowly in your spare time.
You must set yourself a shortest goal, which can be three to five years.
Once set, leave 15 minutes every day. Have you thought about what you have gained today? How far is it from your shortest goal? . . Maybe when you find that your shortest goal has been achieved, you are fully prepared for the next goal.
Wow, so many feelings, it is the same sentence: the master leads the door, and the practice depends on the individual.
Finally, I will give you some precious gifts:
It is our wish to be a happy person. But there are often many unpleasantness in life, which makes many people unhappy. In fact, happiness is a living habit. If we form the habit of being happy, we will be happy and our life will be full of sunshine.
First, accept the unhappiness in life. Everyone has a lot of unhappiness, and unhappiness is around us like a shadow. They are part of us, happy twins. Because we are unhappy, we feel more and more precious about happiness, so we should be grateful for unhappiness and happiness. When you are unhappy, you are not annoyed, complaining or condemning, but you feel how unlucky you are, adding a lot of troubles to your unhappiness, or asking for trouble. Accepting troubles is like accepting happiness, so that we don't have to worry about ourselves and can feel at ease.
The second is to find happiness in time. Just like beauty, in fact, there is a lot of happiness in life, but we lack the eyes to find. In any case, we should pay attention to the positive side of things. When things happen, especially unpleasant things, think: what's good for me? What can I learn from it? What can I do to prevent it from happening again? You are happy when you pay attention to happiness. Look at a person, if you only see his shortcomings, you will hate him and be unhappy when you see him. If you can see his advantages, you will think he is also quite cute, and you will feel very happy to see him. Just like in the last issue of the school newspaper, a teacher commented on the shadows and lights in Night Boulevard. I was happy because I saw the lights, but unhappy because I paid attention to the shadows. With happiness, you have more motivation to succeed. I remember a business friend of mine said: there are many troubles in doing business. I don't care about it and have fun by myself, but things are easy. I think this is the power of happiness and the correct way to deal with troubles.
Third, learn to give up. In this world, everyone wants to do something for mankind and realize their own value. This is a positive attitude. But when conditions do not allow, we should learn to give up, give up unreasonable wishes and choose happiness. People who have a crush on themselves have no good feelings, so it is better to give up; I want to be a dancer, but I am a bowlegged. Persistence will only bring greater disappointment. Everything is a luxury, and it is not a luxury if it is not demanding.
In addition, learn to be grateful. Thank the sun and the night, thank your friends and enemies. We should thank our parents for their upbringing, our friends for their understanding, our teachers for their teaching, and our setbacks in life. With gratitude, there is happiness and happiness. Looking at a pile of dirty clothes and worrying, you think: I still have so many clothes and so much money. Lovelorn, you think: haha, there is another chance to choose. I failed in the exam, you think: I have more opportunities to study and learned the lessons of failure. Even if you accidentally fall down, you can think: yes, it means I have legs and can get up.
Finally, learn to create happiness. Actually, happiness can be created. Do a small favor for others when you are depressed, and others' thanks make you feel your value; Boring days, chatting with friends I haven't contacted for years. The listening of friends makes you feel the warmth of friendship, and the joys and sorrows of friends make you feel the joy of being trusted. When you are bored, buy yourself a flower and feel the happiness and satisfaction of having a life that lives for you; Play ball when you are angry and vent your troubles on the court; Someone stepped on you, and you said humorously: I'm sorry, I padded your foot; There is really no reason to be happy, so I said to myself: Oh, I'm still alive, it's good to be alive!
Finally, I wish everyone a happy person, happy for themselves and others.
Most of the definitions of happiness in general dictionaries are: feeling satisfied and happy. Kant, a German philosopher, said: "Happiness means that our needs are met". Indeed, happiness is a beautiful situation, that is, there is nothing bad or painful, and you feel that the individual and the world around you are quite good. How can I get it?
First, take the initiative to find and pursue with heart.
The pursuit of happiness has a major premise: that is to understand that happiness is hard to come by. It is neither a gift nor a right; You have to take the initiative to find it, and you have to work hard to get it. When you realize that you can't just sit there and wait for happiness, you have taken a big step on the road to happiness. How's it going? I don't feel bad, but I'm not happy. When you have completed the other nine steps, you can achieve a truly happy state.
Second, expand the field of life and try new things.
When you are willing to try new activities and accept new challenges, you will be surprised to find new dimensions of life.
Learning new technologies and exploring new ways can give people new satisfaction. Unfortunately, many people often ignore this point and lose the opportunity to develop their potential and get happiness for no reason.
Many people think that they should wait for an appropriate opportunity to explore their future in a stable way. This idea is quite conservative, because the right time may never come. No one's life is a well-designed error-free computer program, so you should have the courage to meet the challenge.
Third, there is not only one answer to everything in the world.
There are many ways to pursue happiness, not just the one you are determined to pursue. Most people tend to think that they can only succeed and play a role in one job in this life, and even think that if they can't get or do this, they will never be happy. This idea is too narrow. It is painful to fail to reach your goal, but it doesn't mean that you are insulated from happiness from now on, unless you think so yourself.
Take a flexible attitude towards things, don't be stubborn, and remember that there is not necessarily only one best thing. Of course, this is not to ask you to give up realistic dream goals, but to encourage you to go all out to realize your dreams.
Fourth, dare to pursue dreams and hopes.
Bernard Shaw famously said, "Why do ordinary people only see what happened?" ? I dreamed of something I never had, and asked myself why not? "Young people in particular should have dreams and hopes, because the process of struggle, like achieving goals, can make people extremely happy. You should have the courage to dream of becoming a famous doctor, star, outstanding scientist or writer. You should go all out to realize your dream.
Of course, your dream should be reasonable, concrete and feasible. Don't aim too high and dream of reaching for the stars. For example, you are born with a crow's voice, "Don't dream of becoming a thrush! Also, you should remember that even if you can't achieve this goal, it's not the end of the world. Browning once said, "Ah! If everything that mortals dream of is within reach; Then why is there heaven? ! "
Five, only compare with yourself, not compare with others.
From the beginning of being sensible, we feel the pressure of "achievement", which is getting stronger and stronger with age. Therefore, young people want to behave well everywhere, thinking that if they want to be perfect, others will accept and like themselves. Once you find that you are inferior to others everywhere, you begin to feel sad and inferior, and the result is of course no happiness.
So you should take yourself as the standard and think about where you are wrong. Is there any progress now? If you have really tried your best, I believe today will be better than yesterday and tomorrow will be better than today.
Six, care about people and things around you.
If you care about some people, things and things, your view of life will definitely change greatly. If you live only for yourself, I believe that your life will become very narrow and limited everywhere. Self-centered people may make continuous progress, but they will never be satisfied easily.
So what should you care about? Who do you care about? Open your eyes and think about it. Although we are ordinary, we can at least help school children go to and from school, help patients read books, do odd jobs in nursing homes, and even clean the surrounding environment. Only by giving a little will you be happier. Psychologist Ellison once said: "People who only care about themselves will eventually become their slaves!" However, people who care about others can not only contribute to society, but also avoid living a boring life by focusing on themselves.
Seven, don't be too confident, and you can't be without confidence.
Overoptimistic people always think that they can achieve all their goals, because they ignore the dangers along the way. People who are extremely pessimistic always think that the hope of success is slim and dare not move forward. Both kinds of people have lost many opportunities.
When choosing a goal, we should be objective in attitude and realistic in judgment, and we should not be too sure and take it lightly, let alone lack confidence and be timid.
Eight, when the pace is too urgent, we should slow down a little.
You may run around like a clock from morning till night. But when you stop to think for a while, do you feel uncomfortable and dissatisfied? Many people fill their time with trivial things because they are afraid of facing emptiness. As a result, the pace of life is too tight, but they can't get real happiness.
Make a list of all the things you have done and see what can be deleted, so that you can make some free time and relax. Leisure is also like a luxury, which can make you feel satisfied.
Nine, you can be thicker.
According to experts' investigation and study, one of the characteristics that makes people feel satisfied is that they don't care too much about other people's criticism, in other words, they are thick-skinned. Don't give in to foreign countercurrent. Don't be sad and angry because others are indifferent, thinking that you have been greatly hurt. But you should reflect calmly. If other people's criticism is correct, you should improve it. If the criticism is unfair, why not laugh it off? ! Maybe you can't master the countermeasures to deal with criticism at first, because you may be very sensitive and will inevitably have emotional reactions, but you should practice self-control, which will be useful to life.
The taste of happiness is like drinking water, which varies from person to person. What can make others happy may not make you happy. Only you know how to pursue happiness. But remember: don't wait and see! Happiness is a sly rabbit, you can only get it if you pursue it with your heart!
+,happiness is not without troubles.
Everyone has troubles, but not everyone is unhappy. Happiness does not depend on cherishing. Some people are just as happy even without money. Some people are rich, but they don't always laugh. Can a person maintain a happy life all his life?
In his new book "Happy Attitude", Dr. Schuler of America unveiled the secret of eternal happiness.
If everyone knows the following eight secrets, they will naturally have a happy life.
1. No one is perfect. You must admit your weakness and be willing to accept suggestions, help and advice from others. As long as you dare to admit that you need help, success is inevitable.
2. Learn from setbacks. In the face of failure or frustration, the attitude should be to learn from it and continue to work hard.
Life must be honest and full of justice in order to attract good friends to help you. Badas, a famous psychologist, was once asked: "What is the most basic and deepest psychological need of human beings today?" She replied, "Humans need love." But this is not limited to the love between men and women. From the point of view of psychologists, good people are always happy.
4. Be flexible. Whether in good times or bad times, our attitude towards life should be calm. If you make a mistake, correct it immediately.
5. Be enthusiastic about helping others. If you want real happiness and respect, you should help others and get along well with others.
6. To be nice to you, be nice to others first. When you are treated unfairly, you must forgive and sympathize with others.
7. Stick to your beliefs. In everything you do, you must stick to your personal beliefs.
8. Happiness lasts forever. As long as you always keep a happy mood, happiness is hard to give up on you.