1. What we love is often not a man, but love itself. That night, the moonlight is your true lover. —— Maupassant "Moonlight"

Sometimes, we calm down and think about it, it is really so. What we love is really not that person, but someone who can accompany us to see the moonlight. The moonlight is our real lover, and what we love is love itself, someone who can accompany us to do what we like. Do and be happy and feel romantic.

Just like many women, what they love is the feeling of being loved, but they don’t know how to love a man. During the holidays, she always sits and waits for men to give her gifts, but she never knows that she also prepares a carefully prepared gift for a man. No wonder Zhang Ailing sighed: "For most women, the meaning of love is to be loved."

Well, in our opinion, many people are like this. She wants to get love and be loved, but not Give love, let alone love others. When she has money, she buys good food, drinks, and clothes. She spends all the money on herself, even if she gets married. She never considers her life after marriage with that man. How will she raise her children?

How to save money to raise children and pay off the mortgage seems to have nothing to do with her. She has a family and still lives a life where one person has enough to eat and the whole family is not hungry, as if she earns money and spends it by herself. , then why do you want love and a family? Oh, it turns out that as Maupassant said, what you love is love itself. You hope that someone will love you, coax you, accompany you romantically, and receive red envelopes and gifts during festivals. Isn't that too selfish?

2. This is a strange phenomenon. Once we hope to get a woman, we will sincerely believe that we will never be without her in this life. We clearly know that this kind of thing has happened to us, we clearly know that possession is always followed by boredom, and we clearly know that in order to be able to spend our life with another person, what we need is not extinguished quickly. , rough sensuality, but a harmony of soul, temperament, and character. When a person is tempted, he should be good at distinguishing whether the temptation comes from the physical appearance, from a sensual intoxication, or from the deep charm of the spirit. —— Maupassant's "Necklace"

This is how most people go from love, to love to not love, to love to hate, to love to separation, to love to no contact. how so? After possessing it, over time, you will get tired of it.

Why do many people say that marriage is the tomb of love? Because marriage means completely possessing the other person. Einstein once said, "Marriage is indeed slavery cloaked in civilization." Many people have completed the marriage. After marriage, I want to completely possess the other person and control her. She is not allowed to do this, she is not allowed to do that, and she is not allowed to meet or interact with anyone.

On the surface, it is because of love and love for her, but this kind of love is too tight and will make people feel tired and out of breath, not to mention that most people have no relationship with each other after marriage. Life is too sweet, too boring, entangled with each other every day, which is also the process that leads to each other's love to disgust.

Han Han said: "To like is to indulge, to love is to be restrained." When we like someone, that is when we are in love. When we are in love, we can indulge and do anything for the other person. That way It will impress and move the other person.

But after getting married and being together, love must be restrained and restrained, and love cannot be overflowing, because when it is full, it will overflow, and when the moon is waxing, it will lose. Yang Jiang also said: "When the moon is waxing, love will fall." If the water is full, it will overflow. Our love can only end here, I don't want it to overflow.

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3. 'What do you expect? Love? You will be exhausted after kissing a few more times.' 'What do you expect? Money? What do you need money for? To support a woman? What a blessing. Not shallow! He became a big fat man because of his rheumatism and screamed all night long. What else are you pursuing? Glory is of no use if it cannot be obtained in the form of love. What's next after glory? Isn't it just death in the end? - Maupassant's "Beautiful Friend"

This is the best proof of why many people love to the point of disgust, because they love too often. Kissing too often, doing things about love too often is like overindulging in love, which can lead to rejection of love, or physical and mental exhaustion.

People, whether it’s love or career. , you must know how to restrain yourself. Salinger said: "Love is about wanting to touch but then withdrawing your hand. "If we know how to restrain ourselves in anything we do, and want to have something but restrain ourselves, then we will continue to want to have this desire.

Once you get it, once you are satisfied If your own desires lose their goals and direction, they will stagnate, and you will not want to make progress. The same is true for love, and the same is true for career.

In love, we can only place ourselves in love. On the road, you can't let love come to an end, just let love flow slowly. I love her very much and want to give her all my love in one day, but I restrain myself and give it little by little, so that the other person will not feel it all at once. You love everything and become indifferent.

What happens to many people’s careers once they reach the peak and climax of their lives? Many people start too high when they are young. It will be difficult to make breakthroughs and make progress for the rest of your life. People, it is not necessarily good to mature early, and it is not necessarily bad to mature late.

4. Men think that love is like a disease, which can attack the same person more than once. , if there are any obstacles on the road of love, they can even kill them; women believe that true love, great love, can only come to a living being once in a lifetime; this love is like a thunderbolt, once it is allowed to If you hit it, it will be hollowed out, destroyed, and burned. No other love, no matter how strong it is, will be able to sprout again. —— Maupassant's "The Woman Repairing the Upholstered Chair" # Maupassant's Quotations #

Why do some people lament that after meeting this person, other people will become a makeshift for the rest of their lives? If you love someone very much and you don't get him or lose him, you will understand this truth. Once some people appear, , others cannot replace her, and her position in her heart has long been ingrained.

I remember a very interesting dialogue in Jin Yong's novel: "Azi asked her brother-in-law, "What is good about her, and how am I not as good as her?" When you fall in love with her, you always think about her and can't forget her?" The brother-in-law replied calmly: You are good at everything and better than her in everything. You only have one shortcoming, you are not her. ”

Yes, it’s enough to say you are not her. Why do you ask so many questions? Everyone is unique in the world, and who can truly replace whom? I love him , you are not him, no matter how good you are, I don’t love you, they are two different things and cannot be compared. Love is not about loving someone who is excellent, but there are also people who love someone who is decadent and degenerate, and are willing to accompany him in his wanderings!

If the kiss is not shy, if the kiss is not shy. Heartbeat, if the kiss has no feeling, it is really not as exciting and happy as a stolen kiss. What is the kiss like when we first fall in love? Especially the first kiss in life, it feels so hot and sweet on the lips. But after kissing for a long time, it feels like tattered cotton wool. If you kiss again, you will feel sick.

Yes, two people who are obviously in love will feel sick after kissing for a long time. If you do it too much, you will lose interest and become numb, just like when we listen to a piece of music over and over again, no matter how good it sounds, even if we listen to it for ten days or a month, we no longer want to listen to it. I don’t want to hear any more.

But after many years, we heard it again and had the same feeling as before, wow, the sound of nature. And the same goes for my lover. I haven't kissed her for several years, and when I meet again, that hot and sweet kiss that fills my heart with happiness sprouts up again and comes back. It can be seen that love really means restraint.

6. The most beautiful women in the world are often born into a family of clerks, as if due to a mistake of fate; this is exactly the case with the one we are going to talk about now. She had no dowry assets, no hope, and no way to make a man with both money and status know her, understand her, love her, and marry her; in the end, she would have to make do with a junior clerk in the Ministry of Education. Got married. —— Maupassant's "Necklace" # Maupassant Quotes #

How did Pan Jinlian marry Wu Dalang? That's it. She was born in poverty and had no chance to meet rich and famous people. Pan Jinlian married Wu Dalang, Naturally, I felt unwilling to do so. Although in that era when you married a chicken, you married a dog, if you really married someone who was completely different from yourself, how could you feel balanced in your heart?

If Wu Dalang looked as handsome as Wu Song, would Pan Jinlian still be interested in Ximen Qing? No way? As long as your heart is balanced, you will have the opportunity to stick to the way of womanhood. It was precisely because Wu Dalang couldn't give her what she wanted that she jumped over the wall. This is not the case for all modern women. Once the man she loves deeply cannot give her the life she wants and makes little money, she will feel unbalanced and unwilling to accept it. She wants to find a new life and new happiness.

But as long as this woman has no chance to meet better people and richer people, she will just live her life as a very ordinary person, just like what Maupassant said in this quotation. . In this world, are there few people living a makeshift life? Many, many, many people did not find the person they were looking for when they were in their thirties, so they just married a very ordinary person.

7. "No...the most embarrassing thing in the world is to look poor among many rich women." "The Necklace" - Maupassant# Maupassant Quotes#

Men love face, that's it. If this woman is rich, powerful, and well-dressed, he is even more unwilling to show her poor appearance in front of this woman. He will hide all his bad sides and pursue this woman.

Why are so many women in this world deceived in the end when they fall in love? The reason is that women dress themselves up too rich and classy, ??so many men have to pretend to be richer and classier than women in order to fall in love with her. Even if it is exposed in the end and the woman no longer loves her, the man will also pretend to be richer and classier than the woman. I feel it's worth it, I don't care if it lasts forever, I only care about what I once had.

8. Sometimes, what we fall in love with is not the other person, but our own love. —— Maupassant# Maupassant Quotes#

The more a person pays for love and the harder he loves, the more he loves his love, he will feel sorry for himself, and he will even feel that his love is great. , like a fairy tale, love is beautiful and worthy of praise.

But he doesn’t know that he loves the wrong person. Love is mutual. Once the love is not reciprocated and the other person is indifferent, it must mean that the other person does not love you, so you have to hurry up. Find a love again where love can be reciprocated. Love is support from both parties, not one-sided.