The woman I'm talking about here mainly refers to a man's wife, or a woman whom a man is happy with and about to have flesh and blood with. Exclude mistresses, mistresses and other women. When it comes to marriage and relationships, I can be considered a restless man who has gone through ups and downs. However, I am still troubled and confused about how to listen to women. This is the biggest incurable disease in a man's life. People in Shanghai take pride in listening to women; people in the north regard not listening to women as being strong. What is right and wrong? Who is right and who is wrong? It seems that men and women all over the world are arguing endlessly to find the "Goldbach's conjecture" of life. The popular saying nowadays is: listen to your wife and go with the Communist Party! This is probably the hardest thing to do today. How to listen to women is really an art. It requires both great wisdom and little skills. When I was young, I fell in love with a book. After decades of experience in officialdom, shopping malls, love affairs, and traveling around the world, this book has always been kept with me and I often take it out to read. The name of the book is "The Golden Rose", and the author is Russian writer Bautovsky. He has a famous saying that he gave to men: "When you are undecided about something you must do and are unsure, please ask your wife and then do the opposite of what she wants. You will definitely succeed. "Before I was forty years old, I didn't take this remark seriously. I just thought it was a humorous and ridiculing remark, and I just smiled lightly. As I grow older, especially as the world's fashions change, I truly realize that this is a philosophically profound and meaningful statement. The Russians probably thought about "" earlier than we did? Pushkin warned people in his fairy tale "The Goldfish and the Fisherman": Once a woman becomes greedy, she will always turn the best thing into the worst thing. My understanding is that when I say these things, I do not mean to be chauvinistic or discriminatory against women. Not at all, and besides, I don’t dare—I’m from Shanghai. My thoughts are this: Men and women have absolutely different ways of thinking. An old Chinese saying goes: A woman’s hair is long but her knowledge is short. In fact, it does not mean that women lack wisdom, but that women cannot bear the responsibility of thinking in the face of certain things. There is a certain reason why throughout the history of thousands of years, the dictionaries of philosophers at home and abroad all have men's names, but not women's names. When something happens, your woman will first subconsciously think of: your safety, your situation, your danger, your responsibility, and rarely help you analyze the factors of the matter rationally - because she Love you. Faced with the same thing, your wife and the female colleagues in your unit will have completely opposite attitudes. This is the secret of Bautowski asking men not to ask their girlfriends, but to ask their wives when something happens. My feeling is: women’s wisdom and ideas are very delicate, exquisite, practical and unrestrained. Women are more obsessed with the same hobby, such as mahjong or stocks, than men. Also, they are more persistent and attentive in their pursuit of material and emotional matters, and therefore, less judgmental. If the wife in "The Goldfish and the Fisherman" could meet one requirement, their life would be wonderful, but she couldn't satisfy three requirements. It's not that she lacks anything, but that a woman's unique way of thinking is at work, even irrepressibly. Many corrupt officials feel bitter in their hearts in prison, unable to speak out what their wives have said - so-called: for this family! If they could read Bautovsky's words and practice them, the results would be completely different. For a man who is established and determined, it is particularly important to limit listening to women at home and outside the home. What is very difficult to deal with now is that the mother-in-law often talks more than the woman. This is another subject. Be obedient and listen to contradictory words. This principle is true. If a man listens to the party, he will obey the party's instructions, so why can't he use some "technical processing" of what a woman says - listen but not do anything. When a woman is humble and calm, men must know how to respect her and understand her - there are not many such women anymore, like giant pandas on the verge of extinction; when a woman is gesticulating and arrogant.

A man must dare to despise her and be good at cooling her down - at that time, she herself did not know what she was talking about - such women are like freshly baked hamburgers, popping up every day. You can edit a book of celebrity quotes, but you cannot edit a book of wife quotes. Why? Because her words change every day. In fact, my life experience tells me that in today's society, women are more reliable, more loyal, and more trustworthy than men. However, men must really understand women's way of thinking and not always blame women afterwards. Women should also be clear about their own thinking scope, and never want to be like the female Zhuge Liang in everything. This is the purpose of my writing this article. One additional sentence: As for women's concern for men's basic necessities, they must especially cherish it; for men's advice on the temptations of eating, drinking, whoring, and gambling, they must sincerely listen to them - and never listen to sarcastic words. I agree with listening to irony when it comes to work and career. Women will definitely scold me after reading the short article. I beg you to scold me softly and gently. I am from Shanghai!