Guide children to learn to survive
1. The basic connotation of "learning to survive"
"Survival" is the concept corresponding to "death", that is, "organism" The continuation of life activities and metabolism", which is what people often call "living".
"Learning to survive" is the United Nations' confirmation of the purpose of education. The book "Learning to Survive" published by China Youth Publishing House says in the preface: "The existence of life is beautiful, and the world will be full of vitality and infinite grace because of the existence of life. Teenagers are the future of the world, and learning to survive is particularly important." ”
“Learn to survive” should have at least the following three meanings: first, learn to protect yourself in order to maintain a normal state of survival; second, learn to work, learn to compete, and learn to adapt to changes in order to enhance your ability to survive. ; Third, learn aesthetics to improve the quality of life. This is because the pursuit of life is not only to "live", but also to "live well".
Learning to protect yourself is the most superficial, minimum and basic requirement. The core is a safety issue.
From the perspective of the living state of the human body's material carrier, it can be divided into normal state (including the best state) and abnormal state (including the "0 survival" state, that is, death). The abnormal state mentioned here includes various sequelae of injuries caused by various reasons, up to death. Many painful lessons have shown that if people (especially children and adolescents) have enhanced their self-protection awareness and ability, many things that should not happen can be avoided.
Learning to work, learn to compete, and learn to adapt are requirements for enhancing survival ability at different levels.
Labor is everyone’s basic qualification for survival. As the eternal teachings of the Jewish nation have been advocating and helping young people to be self-reliant for two thousand years: "Train your child and let him follow a path that suits him, so that he will have no regrets throughout his life." "If a father does not teach his son how to make a living, It is equivalent to teaching him to become a thief. "Working is not only a means of making a living, but also an excellent way for children to become adults. Some sociologists, behavioral scientists and child education experts from Harvard University in the United States conducted a follow-up survey of 456 children in the Boston area and found that children who have loved working since childhood have a happier and more fulfilling life than children who do not love working. The rates, crime rates, divorce rates and rates of various mental illnesses are all much lower than those of children who don’t like to work. This clearly shows that if a child does not have a certain degree of will training since childhood, it will be difficult for him to live calmly in a rapidly changing social environment, and many psychological disorders will easily occur. The most important and direct significance of labor to the growth of teenagers is that it can cultivate children's self-reliance. In today's era of relatively abundant material resources and the increasingly prominent role of children in the family, it is extremely important to emphasize the spirit of self-reliance and cultivate the self-reliance and ability of the young generation through labor.
Competition has long existed not only in human society, but also in the entire nature. It is more intense today and will be inevitable in the future. Therefore, learning to compete is even more necessary for survival.
Resilience is also a basic requirement for survivability. The book "Who Moved My Cheese" written by the king of American stories, Spencer Johnson, illustrates this profound truth through a simple story. The general idea of ??the story is this: two little mice and two dwarves are enjoying the same cheese in the maze. One day, the cheese suddenly disappeared. The two little mice named "Xiu Xiu" and "Hurry" were not surprised. They took off the running shoes hanging around their necks without hesitation and quickly ran into the depths of the maze. For them, the problem is as simple as changing as the situation changes. But the two dwarfs named "Heng Heng" and "Chirp" did not. They shouted angrily, "Who touched my cheese?" They did not believe that there was no more cheese. They thought it was unfair and were completely dismissed. This surprise shocked me. Because for them, cheese is more than just food. Cheese means a leisurely and wealthy life, success and honor, status and promotion, and of course they cannot afford to lose it. Without cheese, what will happen tomorrow? They were unwilling to change and kept hoping cheese would reappear there. When they couldn't bear the hunger anymore, they found their running shoes, put them on and set off. After many twists and turns, they finally found fresher and richer cheese. At this time, they raised the new cheese and shouted "Long live the change!" From then on, they, like little mice, tied the two straps of their running shoes together and hung them around their necks, ready to discover new cheese at any time. In fact, most people do not want changes to come when their lives are stable and stable, and the habits gradually formed often make people lose their fighting spirit. For this reason, the author of "Who Touched My Cheese" specially summarized the words on the cheese wall to warn people: They always keep taking away your cheese. Always be prepared for the cheese to be taken away. Smell your cheeses frequently to know when they are starting to go bad. The sooner you let go of the old cheese, the sooner you'll enjoy the new cheese. It changes with the cheese. Be adventurous and enjoy the taste of new cheeses! Don't, they'll still take your cheese.
Learning aesthetics is the pursuit of high quality in life.
In essence, aesthetic education is also a kind of life education.
As a living being, human beings are a complex complex, which includes both biological and social factors; there are both sensibility, emotion and other innate psychology that are difficult to grasp and regulate rationally, as well as rationality, consciousness, Acquired education and cultivation such as understanding; there are both "evil" elements and "good" elements. Aesthetic education is a kind of education that directly shapes, regulates and guides human life existence itself. Its fundamental purpose is to improve the quality of life, cultivate and develop people's perceptual abilities - including sensitivity, appreciation, judgment, imagination and creativity, etc., to shape and transform human nature, and to remove the despicable, dirty, dirty and ugly aspects of human nature. cultivate and develop the noble, beautiful and bright side of human nature, making people more perfect and making the world a better place. In a word, the purpose of aesthetic education is to cultivate a sound and noble personality, shape a perfect and ideal human nature, and create a reasonable and beautiful life. In fact, the ultimate goal of all education is this, but aesthetic education is the most direct way.
2. Help children build a line of safety from an early age
According to news media reports, in recent years, teenagers have been injured or even lost their lives due to lack of survival awareness and self-protection means. Incidents keep happening. "Liaoning Daily" disclosed on June 1, 2001: According to an accidental injury survey of 43,000 young children and primary and secondary school students in 11 cities across the country, the incidence rate of non-fatal accidental injuries was 24.1%, of which 1.64% were caused by personal defects. %, causing permanent disability accounted for 1.01%. Other relevant domestic surveys also show that 20% to 40% of children require medical attention due to accidental injuries every year, and 1/3 of them require surgical treatment, bed rest, school leave, or restricted activities for more than one day. In the investigation of the cause of death of children, accidental injury is also the number one killer. Accidental injuries to children bring serious physical and psychological damage to society, the family and the child himself, which often never heals.
On the night of the meteor shower on November 18, 1998, a 14-year-old girl from Beijing, Ma Min, and her cousin were deceived, hijacked, and mutilated to death by a gangster posing as a joint defense team member on their way home. For a time, there was talk in the streets of Beijing. While people were strongly demanding that the public security organs solve the case and severely punish the criminals, they were also calling loudly: to teach young people self-protection and self-rescue skills, and to let them learn to survive. Many situations show that there is a huge gap in survival education in our country and there is still a long way to go. There is a typical example: a 14-year-old girl in Hefei City was so frightened after her finger was cut with a kitchen knife at home that she stood on the balcony and shouted for help. Neighbors rushed over and couldn't help but laugh and cry when they saw this scene. A 10-year-old boy in Hermont, a suburb of New York, USA, was accidentally run over by a machine while working on a farm and had his arms broken. He endured the severe pain and ran to the phone booth 400 meters away, opened the iron door with his foot, held the pencil between his teeth and dialed the phone, and then passed out on the ground. When the ambulance crew revived him, he reminded people not to forget to bring their severed arms. From these two examples, we can see how different the survival abilities of the two teenagers are.
Some comments pointed out, “People originally have a survival instinct. If this instinct is combined with acquired education, it will form a strong survival ability. Our 14-year-old girl and the 10-year-old boy in the United States What is the root cause of the difference in survival ability? I think it mainly lies in the difference in educational concepts and educational attitudes. When it comes to survival education, we often have to give lectures on "frustration education" and "tribulation education". Organizing various camp activities. Although this can play some role, it does not solve the problem of popularizing survival education. In fact, there is time and space for survival education everywhere in our daily lives. The key is that we must have a correct understanding and understanding. Scientific education concepts should start from children's daily life and social activities. Just imagine, if there is a summer camp in the front and a "parent support team" in the back, what will be the effect? ??Zheng Banqiao said in his last words to his son: " He who sheds his own sweat, eats his own food, and relies on people and ancestors is not considered a true man. "
In fact, parents do not need to pay much attention to safety education for their children. , as long as two conditions are met, it can be basically done well: first, parents themselves enhance safety awareness and continuously enrich safety knowledge; second, make full use of the opportunity to be with their children and provide "on-site explanations" anytime and anywhere. For example, when leading children to cross the road, repeatedly explain traffic rules and precautions; when leading children to walk in an alley, remind them not to walk close to the wall to avoid being injured by falling objects, etc. Watch TV, listen to the radio, read and read the time with your children. You can also combine relevant content to explain safety knowledge and spread the experience of fighting against bad guys. Doing so can not only save time and trouble, but also leave a deep impression, and the effect is generally better than regular classes. Here, the safety awareness of parents and the amount of safety knowledge they have are very important. They are so dim that it is difficult to make them clear. When people live in society, they may be subject to a variety of threats and violations at any time. Many beneficial things also contain harmful factors, such as water, fire, electricity, gas, bacteria (harmful bacteria), utensils (knives, guns, machines), places, etc. There are dangers in 10 aspects such as (unsafe venues and places), animals (insects, snakes, dogs and wild beasts), bad guys and their own excessive behavior. Parents must teach their children to recognize these things and situations.
The book "Learning to Survive" mentioned earlier talks about 101 very real safety issues, and introduces from six aspects how to deal with unexpected events when you are alone at home; Put safety first; how to protect yourself when encountering extraordinary situations; how to deal with injuries in the face of emergencies, etc. It is very worthwhile and suitable for parents and children to study together.
When providing safety education to children, we must consider the age characteristics and endurance of the children. We must grasp the degree and pay attention to the actual results. We must not make the wind and cranes jitter, the grass and trees are all soldiers, and scare the children to the point of being on tenterhooks, sleeping and eating. Uneasiness makes them cautious, even timid. For those things that although there are risk factors, but cannot be separated from in future life, we cannot adopt an attitude of absolute avoidance. After reaching a certain age and meeting certain conditions, we must carefully teach children to master them, otherwise it will affect the development of children's ability to take care of themselves. and improve.
Helping children build a line of safety from an early age, especially in the face of the major issue of guiding children to learn to survive, the most important and core task of parents is to guide children to continuously enhance their awareness of life and guide them to gradually understand life. , and learn to use life and sublimate life. Teach your children that life is precious and everyone only lives once. Life is essentially equal to everyone. It equally gives everyone the opportunity to live and precious life time, just like the sun shines on everyone fairly; and whether it returns to its own life itself, These standards of realizing one's own life value and sublimating one's own life realm equally determine how each person feels about his or her life. We should also tell our children that people living in the world have an eternal problem, which is to always pursue the realization of their own life value. Self-realization is the highest need of individual life. To a large extent, happiness is the sense of satisfaction after realizing the value of one's life. Only when a person exerts his life talents, finds his proper position in the world, and realizes his life ideal, will he finally I feel that I am happy and fulfilled. We should also tell our children that committing suicide is irresponsible to life, oneself, relatives and society; using self-harm to threaten and retaliate against others is dangerous and even stupider. It is necessary to guide children to correctly understand "heroic feats under specific circumstances" and scientifically analyze the true meaning of "acting bravely for justice", "sacrifice oneself for others" and "not afraid of hardship and not afraid of death", and cannot guide children into being "greedy for life and afraid of death". , "cowardly" who "just live an ignoble existence", we cannot let our children be blind, careless, and play with their lives.
In the all-round sense of "learning to survive", its connotation is not just about safety issues. In terms of safety issues alone, it is not limited to personal safety. Therefore, helping children build safety In addition to the narrow security defense line, there should also be a moral defense line and a legal defense line. Only by organically combining these three lines of defense with the "precautions" method mentioned above can we effectively ensure that children can grow and live freely and healthily.
3. Guide children to learn to work from the perspective of educating people
The key to guiding children to learn to work is to solve the parents’ own understanding problems. When talking about children's participation in housework, we often hear the following sayings: "There is so little work at home, and there is no need for the children to distract themselves." "The child is so busy studying, how can he waste time doing housework!" Two sentences This exposes misunderstandings in understanding: many parents only see their children participating in labor in the sense of "labor force" and do not know the educational role of labor, especially the significant impact on future viability.
We talked about a follow-up survey conducted by researchers at Harvard University in the United States on 456 children in the Boston area. The specific results are: the ratio of children who like to do housework to those who do not like to do housework. When you grow up, the unemployment rate is 1:15, the crime rate is 1:10, and the average income is about 20% higher. In addition, the divorce rate and the prevalence of mental illness are also low. Experts have analyzed that allowing children to do housework from an early age can cultivate their qualities of being hard-working, cherishing the fruits of labor, valuing family ties, and respecting others. When they grow up, they will naturally be more promising than those children who are not diligent. This survey result confirms that housework is extremely closely related to children's growth, and also inspires us to understand the role of housework on children in a broader sense. According to analysis, children's lack of housework has at least the following disadvantages: First, when children are young, their attitude towards labor and workers is an indispensable educational content in the process of moral formation. This kind of education cannot only rely on theoretical teaching, but is generated through children's own experience of labor. Children without the most basic labor training will not understand the hard-won fruits of labor. If a child doesn't wash his own clothes, he won't understand how hard it is for adults to wash clothes, and he won't pay attention to keeping his clothes clean. Even if adults tell him a hundred times, he still won't pay attention. Therefore, it is very common that due to the lack of labor, problems such as not cherishing the things we own, looking down on manual labor, and looking down on manual workers occur. Second, for children, labor practice is an important way to learn knowledge and understand society. Children who lack exercise in daily housework will inevitably lose this rare learning opportunity.
He only has book knowledge in his memory, but no experience in using this knowledge to guide practice. It is also difficult for him to exert his subjective initiative in learning and practice. Third,
Children’s labor habits are connected with their self-care and self-reliance abilities. Correlation analysis shows that there is a significant relationship between housework time and children's independence, that is, the longer children work, the stronger their independence. It cannot be imagined that a child who does not have the opportunity to work and does no work at home can live a completely independent life and be independent of society when he is away from his parents. Because after all, any labor cannot be performed with correct understanding. It needs to go through a process of practical training from raw to mature, from simple to complex. If children lack housework, they will not appreciate the hardship of their parents' labor and will not appreciate their parents' contributions to the family and their children. This invisibly sets up barriers to understanding and communication between parents and children. This not only makes all our expectations for our children and all our efforts for our children in vain, but as the years go by, it will even make parents The sense of loss gradually increases, even affecting physical and mental health. In short, children's lack of housework exercise will definitely cause many disadvantages.
Regarding the importance of labor in family education, Suhomlinsky wrote this intriguing statement in the book "Wise Parental Love": Children's labor training is the most important thing in family education. components. Speaking of which, I remembered a very wise folk admonition: from the day a child learns to eat with a spoon, he should be taught to work. In the homes of our students, labor has become the basis for establishing civilized relationships among family members. Working for people, for people's happiness and joy, runs through the entire family life like a red thread.
We work hard with our parents to ask our children to do something for others when they are just starting to understand and when they are about to become adults. For example, when I was about to enter school at the age of 7, I planted an apple tree for my mother in my yard and dedicated the first fruits picked from the tree to my mother.
If a child has lived in the world for eleven or twelve years and looks back on his childhood but cannot see the initial results of his labor life, and cannot say to himself with satisfaction: "This green grove is where I rest for everyone." Planted; I planted that grape for everyone." Then, the education of children is one-sided.
“Where children and teenagers regard working for others and society as a source of happiness, there is no need for punishment at all.” - Years of experience have convinced us of the authenticity of this educational law. Such children do not need punishment and do not even have problems related to punishment.
Bewildered Chinese parents who have been tortured by exam-oriented education, and who care about their children but put their priorities in reverse, are simply unable to accept what Suhomlinsky is doing now, but this It only shows that we have fallen too deep into misunderstandings. Insightful people pointed out that at present, the most critical and biggest obstacle in cultivating children's working habits, abilities and concepts lies in family education. Nowadays, many parents are "replacing" or "depriving" their children of labor quality training, letting their children chew books blindly, and painstakingly create a comfortable atmosphere for them. As a result, the child may become a top student in learning, but a poor person in life. According to a sample survey conducted by the Journalism Society of Hubei University, primary and secondary school students in Wuhan are surprisingly alienated from housework: 50% of students do not take out the trash or sweep the floor, nearly 60% of students do not fold their own quilts after getting up, and 70% of students do not fold their own quilts after getting up. 90% of them don’t wash dishes or their own clothes, and 90% of them don’t wash vegetables and cook. What is even more surprising is that 3% of students do not do any housework and even need their parents to pack their schoolbags. Surprisingly, 82% of students expressed their willingness to do housework, 36% even thought that doing housework was a kind of fun, and 70% of parents did not allow or teach students to do housework. It can be seen that the responsibility mainly lies on the parents.
To change the current situation of insufficient labor education in the family, parents need to fundamentally wake up, and schools and even the whole society need to have a heart that truly loves children and provide labor quality education for the young generation. Create the right environment. If China wants to pin its hopes on the young generation and want to be invincible in the future international competition, then we need to recalibrate our coordinates on the labor education of young people today.
As the saying goes: Children are like nature, habits become natural. People are not born to work or to love working. Some psychological research shows that man is an animal that seeks pleasure and avoids pain. This primitive instinct of "self" always wants to drag people into a state of peace and laziness. Labor is the best way to cultivate a sense of independence and an effective way to forge personality. It is a man-made activity that requires consciousness enlightenment, willpower compulsion, and emotional identification. Therefore, in cultivating the labor quality of the young generation, we cannot adopt a "just follow nature" attitude or a lucky mentality. Instead, we should deliberately educate and shape them from an early age, and persist unremittingly, so that labor will gradually evolve into young people's cognition and ability. An integral part of the behavioral structure, becoming a habit, a manifestation and approach to a healthy and active life.
No matter what level of education a parent has, no matter what kind of job they are engaged in, and no matter how high their position is, they must establish their children’s labor perspective, train their children’s labor skills, cultivate their children’s labor habits, and enhance their ability to work. Children have natural advantages in their working ability.
Because housework is the basis of all labor, it is a form of labor that exists in any family and has the opportunity for children to benefit from it. Children's deficiencies in this area can be completely made up for through the efforts of parents.
To guide children to learn to work, parents must first properly arrange their children's housework on the basis of their own correct understanding of labor, support their children in actively participating in school and social work, and persistently help their children Enhance labor concepts, correct labor attitudes, develop labor habits, and learn labor skills. When working together, special attention should be paid to observing children's performance to see whether they are serious, whether they are lazy and slippery, whether they can use their brains, look for tips, etc. When problems are discovered, direct face-to-face guidance must be provided in a timely manner, and children must be sincerely told: The kind of lazy, greedy person who "can't do anything well and doesn't have enough to eat" is destined to "give to everyone and don't want it", and will not be popular wherever he goes.
4. Guide children to learn to compete through competition
To guide children to learn to compete, from the perspective of a parent, it mainly involves doing a good job in three aspects. The first is to fully understand the inevitability of competition, treat competition with a positive attitude, and study competition; the second is to explain to children the truth that "to gain, you must compete" and help children enhance their sense of competition; the third is to guide children to face it bravely To compete and participate in competition, improve competitiveness in competitive practice.
The propositions of the theory of evolution, "competition for survival" and "survival of the fittest," not only reveal the conditions and regularities of survival, but also point out the extensiveness and inevitability of competition. If people want to survive actively, they must base themselves on survival, devote themselves to development, and face competition head-on. Development and competition are important means of survival, and only by participating in competition can we survive. The relationship between survival, development and competition can be summarized in one sentence, that is, "compete and develop on the basis of survival, and survive in competition and development." Therefore, guiding children to learn to compete has become an important part of guiding children to learn to survive.
I introduce these not to let ordinary parents study competition from such a profound theoretical level, but to prove that competition is not a simple concept and has profound theoretical connotations. Parents understand competition from the perspective of guiding their children. The most fundamental thing is to know that "competition is a survival choice" and "the main function of the law of competition is survival of the fittest". Competition has common sense such as "realization function" and "motivation function". In order to work with children, try to be proactive rather than passive in responding to and participating in real and future competitions.
Competition is essentially a social selection mechanism. Everyone is there to perform as well as possible, and the society makes the selection based on the basic conditions for selection and the order formed in the competition. Because the responsibility for selection on behalf of society must also be borne by specific people, whether the selection is fair and reasonable depends on whether the operating procedures are scientific and rigorous and whether the responsible person is fair and impartial.
Although the competition that children participate in when they are students is not as complex and fierce as in society, it is still diverse. There are "competitions" that have clear opponents, such as "compete", "chasing with each other", and "competing with each other to win", and there are also "competitions" that have no clear opponents, such as "striving to obtain or achieve". The current situation is that many children and parents have not been able to consider the problem from this perspective, so they have not paid enough attention to it and are often still unconscious and unconscious.
For example, exams are one of the most common forms of competition that children must face in school and even when they grow up and enter society. On the surface, what is being fought for here is scores, but in fact its role is much broader and more complex than scores. The scores obtained in the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination represent the opportunity to attend high school and college. The results of various application examinations mean whether you can find a job and what kind of position you will take. In addition to exams, all kinds of big, small, long-term and short-term goals that students strive for must also be achieved through explicit or invisible competition, such as striving for various advanced model titles, becoming class or school cadres and other higher pursuits, etc. wait.
To help their children enhance their sense of competition and improve their competitiveness, parents should first remind their children to clearly see the existence of competition. This is a basic premise. At the same time, when guiding children to "watch" the competition, pay attention to explaining that "if you want to gain, you must participate in the competition", "you must dare to compete, but also be good at competing", "you will win only if you can fight", "competition depends on strength”, “competition must abide by rules”, “competition requires strategy” and “treat victory or defeat with a correct and healthy mentality”. When guiding children to participate in competition, they should be reminded to withstand the test of success and failure, form the correct attitude of "can afford to win, and lose" to prevent the dark psychology of jealousy and envy and the bad motivation of winning by harming the natural and unreasonable.
Students learning to compete should start by learning to take exams. What I am talking about here includes all-round "tests" and "examinations", which means to guide children to be brave and good at accepting and responding to various types of tests and selections.
He Zuoxiu, an academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and a researcher at the Institute of Theoretical Physics, once said at the 2003 Academic Annual Conference of the China Association for Science and Technology: "Facing examinations such as test papers is a relatively simple test in life. Examinations in life are much more difficult and complicated. If a student has not learned the ability to cope with examination papers in school life, how can we say that this student has better qualities.
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Academician He believes that in quality education, students must be taught how to take exams, especially at the junior and senior high school levels, not only to take exams, but also to take exams frequently. In this way, they will be able to take exams in their future work. Improve competitiveness.
Because “the market economy itself is a competitive economy, and students are the future of the motherland, and their lives are full of all kinds of competition.
If students do not cultivate a sense of competition during their studies, they will be unable to deal with all kinds of sudden competition once they enter the society. ”
On the surface, this view seems to be somewhat contradictory to the current general trend of transforming from exam-oriented education to quality-oriented education, but it is not. There are two levels of problems here. One is the examination invented by the Chinese An important tool of human resource development has played an important role all over the world for a long time. So far, no better method can really replace it. Second, it does have serious disadvantages, especially it. The resulting situation of "learning to take exams and teaching to take exams" instead of "learning to apply and teaching to apply" has become a deep-rooted national culture and seriously hinders the growth of our country's modern talents. Some people say that this. This "examination-oriented culture" has dampened the curiosity and creativity of Chinese children since childhood, affecting the entire national education system from basic education to higher education, and affecting the quality of our people.
I personally think that the problem does not lie in the method of "examination" and "examination". We do not need to simply deny examinations. Human beings need "examination" and "examination" at all times. Now the main issue is what attitude to take towards the exam, as well as the question of "what to test" and "how to take the test", whether the content and method of the test are consistent with the fundamental purpose, whether the test personnel are impartial, etc. < /p>
When studying examinations from the theoretical perspective of competition, I found that establishing a scientific view of competition can help us get rid of the misunderstanding of "examination culture". A scientific view of competition should take "striving for the top" as the competitive trend. "Excellence" is the goal of competition, and "self-knowledge" and "acting within one's ability" are the psychological balancers. When participating in competition, we must insist on "doing something and not doing something", learn to choose and give up, and concentrate our efforts. On the main goal.
For students, there is no need to simply pursue perfect scores, but they must maintain a good competitive state and strive for the best learning results; they do not need to deliberately run for student cadres, but they must strive for training opportunities. , learn to stand out; you don’t have to deliberately seek good popularity, but you must maintain good interpersonal relationships and strive to improve your communication skills, etc. Huang Quanyu, an education expert in the United States and a professor at the University of Miami, said at the 21st Century Education Forum: “Use a variety of detection methods. Education that tests teaching is quality education; education that uses tests or even scores to test teaching is exam-oriented education. "From the perspective of competition, I would like to say: Stopping the efforts of competition on scores is exam-oriented education, and focusing the efforts of competition on excellence is quality education.
Through complicated phenomena , we should see that there are two essential things, one is the scientific nature of the examination content and methods, and the other is to prevent power and money from interfering with the scientific nature of the examination. The examination in the true sense should be in a variety of ways. , such as interviews and practical operations, but the actual situation is that a small number of selections can be more comprehensive and accurate through a variety of means, while large-scale selections like the college entrance examination cannot currently complete the task in a short time. It is possible to replace written examinations with better forms.
In the current situation, the key to guiding children to learn to take exams and unifying "candidates" and "students" is to consciously solve their own problems, which should first be done. Realize that no matter from the perspective of immediate or long-term competition needs, you must learn real skills, and you cannot rely on opportunism
An individual’s life time is limited, and personal abilities are even more limited. What an individual can directly and It should be said that the conditions for indirect utilization are also limited, so it is impossible for a specific person to participate in all competitions, let alone win in all competitions. Therefore, there is a question of choice and giving up. "If a gentleman takes something far away, he must wait for it; if what he takes is big, he must endure it." Another article said: "A first-class person has no time to waste like ordinary people. He has to accomplish many first-class things in his short life." "This is the same principle as "The general is on his way, not chasing the rabbit."