After reading Wen Yang's Growing Up with My Son, a friend of mine gave me a book, Wen Yang Growing Up with My Son. At first glance, a strange author doesn't understand why a friend gave it as a gift and turned over the book in bed at night. Simple words bring me too much thinking and some new understanding of education. Wen Yang, the daughter of an ordinary family, with her tireless knowledge and extraordinary perseverance, went from a garment factory worker to a university teacher, then went abroad to study, and then returned to China to start a business. Through unremitting efforts and research, she became the founder of one of the top ten schools of contemporary foreign language teaching methods in China, founded and started an excellent school, and was awarded numerous honors ... From then on, I thought, how much time and energy has she spent on this as a successful working woman? It is not easy for a woman to concentrate on her work after marriage. Besides the support and trust of her family, how much energy does she have to take care of her career and family? What a unique person is she who can tell her godson's experience behind the honor? Many negative examples and characters in books around me are playing games in my mind, which makes me very curious about her lifestyle. (1) How many parents can educate their children like this? Each of our parents hopes that their children can receive good enlightenment and education from an early age, and lay a good foundation for his life enlightenment and wisdom. But what should we do? How many parents have really thought about this problem? How many of them began to accumulate the necessary knowledge before the baby was born? How many parents can think of what their children really need their parents to do? It is often seen that many young parents entrust their children to their grandparents early because of their busy work. Old people accepted this glorious mission with enthusiasm for their grandparents and a sense of responsibility as parents. The older generation mostly relied on previous experience and some theories that they took for granted. As parents of children, they can rest assured of their physical growth, but the information and education that children receive from their ancestors are often ignored. What parents can see is whether the child has fallen, whether there is dust on his body, and how much is input in his brain. Whether it is good or bad is not immediately noticeable. In our life, we often see such a scene: when the elderly or parents see their children curiously squatting on the ground to see bugs or ants, they pull the children aside and say angrily, "Dirty, dirty! Don't play with those anymore "; When eating, I saw the child stirring in the bowl with a spoon, worried that the child would not eat well, and took the bowl and spoon to feed the child; Always tell children that this and that can't be moved at home, toys can only be seen and can't be broken; The child picked up the juice and wiped it on the floor. Parents picked up the child, taught him a lesson and mopped the floor ... I remember a friend complaining to me that her husband could do nothing at home. As long as there is a slight problem with the toilet, sewer and electrical appliances at home, he will only call a worker to repair them, or simply throw them away and replace them with new ones, saying that "it is not safe to repair the electrical appliances at home." She didn't teach her husband to use it until she learned it. She is afraid of the virus in the computer and tells her family to surf the Internet less ... My mother-in-law often proudly describes how her son was obedient when he was a child: he never broke anything, never let it move, and the books and toys he gave him were still good and new ... It is precisely because friends liked to play with tools and appliances at home when they were young, and with the correct guidance of parents, she can now take care of the housework that her husband could not do at home. Perhaps, in the eyes of a friend's mother-in-law, her son was very obedient, obedient and loved by everyone when he was a child, but looking back more than 20 years later, she has confined her son's thinking and judgment to a small circle. Children have lost their curiosity to explore the world around them. They only think that obedience is the first priority. They would rather not do it than make a little mistake ... I wonder, what did children need when they were young? Just a combination of physical safety and nutrition? Stay at home honestly? Is it a good idea to follow adults? Is looking at the toy in front of you but afraid of being criticized and broken? Is it silly to watch other children follow others? ... what exactly do we need? Is it the cleanliness of the home? Did the child take it out and everyone praised him for his honesty? Or a child who is full of interest in everything, tirelessly thinking about exploring the unknown world, and constantly asking questions about things he doesn't understand? ... the answer is clear, children need to constantly feel everything around them, and we hope that children will become smarter and easier to learn under the premise of health. Let's see how Wen Yang did it. She believes that "only what is accepted by the soul can become a spiritual treasure. Giving a child a rich living space can stimulate his potential. " "It is unscientific to wrap young children tightly in small packages. If a child wakes up just looking at the ceiling, it is a waste of his life. " When the child was one year old, she once grabbed tomatoes with her little hands, and many tomatoes were rotten. The child's grandmother criticized Wen Yang, "How can you spoil the child so much!" Yang Wen, on the other hand, thinks that "when a child scratches a tomato, his little hand has tried a feeling that he has never felt before", and the value of several tomatoes is far less than what the child gets in the process. When her children were young, they often took apart cars and clocks and smashed one toy with another. Even if they were torn down or smashed, she never criticized the children. She thinks that "from the perspective of cultivating a child, a dirty dress and a broken toy are nothing compared with the development of a child's life?" "On the premise of judging basic safety, parents should not simply stop it. They should follow the trend and fully liberate their children's hands and feet. Otherwise, you may kill the spirit of inquiry of a small inventor in the bud. " Seeing this, I can't help but gasp, but I feel a little suddenly enlightened: we always want a clean and tidy home from the perspective of adults, but we have never been compared with the development of children's imagination, creativity and thinking ability. Like most parents, I can't let my children grab rotten tomatoes, break things at home or scribble on the wall ... We thought we were very careful, but in fact we made the most careless mistake! The cleanliness of the home is temporary and can be cleaned again, but the most critical period of children's growth is more precious than gold. If we miss it, we can't come back. If we understand too late, we will regret it. Cherish every opportunity for children to grow up, give them the widest imagination, and capture every incidental training moment according to their nature, then we can be regarded as qualified parents and children will be smarter!