Dr. Montessori said, "Everything we do to our children will bear fruit, not only affecting his life, but also determining his life."

Change starts with language, learning to use standardized language, so that children can truly grow up in an environment where they are loved and respected. Parents are children's first teachers. If the home language is more consistent, children will grow more smoothly. Jianzhong Kindergarten will share language standards every week, and we hope parents can use them at home!

Lesson 5: This is your choice

Language connotation

When a person makes a choice, it also means that he may have to give up. Another option, this is "opportunity cost". Everyone needs to take responsibility for their own choices.

Usage scenarios

(1) During sports group activities, children are divided into 2 groups. The rule is that once one group is selected, it cannot be changed before the end of a game. Group. A child wanted to go to another group midway, but the teacher refused him, and he started to lose his temper and cry.

Teacher: “This is your choice, and you are responsible for your choice.

(2) During the online activity, the teacher said that you can choose from two storybooks For one story, the children were asked to make a choice and decide which one to tell based on the majority rule. Most of the children raised their hands and chose story A. The teacher agreed to tell story A after the first 3 pages. Some children regretted it and asked the teacher to change the story. .

Teacher: “This is your choice. If you choose A, you must accept A. You must be responsible for your own choice. "

Application Tips

This is your choice" and "This is your rejection" both describe taking responsibility. When we have the freedom to choose, it must mean that we have to take responsibility for our choices. I make the decision - I am responsible - I bear responsibility. This should be a closed-loop system with clear boundaries, but many parents and teachers have blurred it, easily crossing the boundaries between us and children, and assuming responsibility for them. They are self-righteous. Doing good for them means loving them, but in fact, it's quite the opposite. Take eating as an example. Eating is a person's most basic need. It should be a child's own business. However, grandparents, parents and teachers have taken over this matter and turned eating from a child's matter to a child's matter. It is our business to worry about adults, so we easily get angry and try every means to lure the child to eat, for fear that he will be hungry, but the child is not anxious at all. Anyway, it is your business and has nothing to do with me. The result is naturally doomed: more and more children are picky eaters, do not eat well, and are malnourished. This is not caused by children, but by adults.

In Boyuan’s class, during lunch time, children prepare their own meals and decide how much to eat and whether to add extra meals. At first, parents worry that their children will eat less. The results were just the opposite. We compared the children's food intake before and after the teacher assigned and taking their own meals.

So, give children freedom and tell them the consequences they should bear, and they will take the initiative to think and judge. No matter whether it is correct at the beginning, they will eventually learn to make the right choice. The process of thinking and judgment is his most precious growth process.