1. The more desires, the less promising

If there are too many desires, the mind will be scattered.

If the mind is scattered, the will will be weak.

If you are weak, you will not be able to think clearly.

Therefore, if the mind is unified, then the desire will not be panic,

If the desire is not panic, then the will will not weaken.

Follow his desires to see his will. ——"Guiguzi"

You can know a person's wisdom and ambition by looking at the depth of his desires.

Lao Tzu said: Those who are deeply addicted to desires are weak in their secrets.

If greed ruins one's body and one loses one's ambition by playing with things, if one indulges in pleasure, then it can be basically concluded that this person has no future.

Zhuge Liang also said: Being indifferent and clearing your ambitions leads to tranquility and long-term success.

Throughout the ages, no one who can really do great things is demanding and greedy for money and power.

Greed is the beginning of mental loss. If you don't know how to control your desires, you will fall into a terrible crisis sooner or later.

2. See yourself clearly first before you can see others clearly.

To know oneself begins with knowing oneself, and then one can know others. ——"Guiguzi"

As the old saying goes: When an old bird flies onto a black pig's butt, he sees others being black but cannot see himself being black.

The words are crude but not crude.

People are all like this. They look at the shortcomings of others with a magnifying glass, and look at their own shortcomings with a microscope.

It is not difficult to know others, but it is difficult to know yourself.

Zhao Kuo talked about war on paper and believed that his military skills and strategies were unmatched. In the end, he was defeated and died. This was the consequence of not knowing it.

He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise.

Only by examining yourself every day can you understand yourself, and only by truly understanding yourself can you understand others.

3. The warmth and coldness of human relationships are always very realistic

If you benefit from each other, you will be close, and if you harm each other, you will be distant. Those who benefit are those who benefit. Those who suffer damage will be harmed. ——"Guiguzi"

If it is beneficial to each other, get closer; if it is harmful to each other, stay away from each other.

When you are poor in the busy city, no one cares about you, but when you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives.

The world is cold and realistic.

Be careful when making friends. Those friends who come for profit will inevitably leave after all.

A horse’s power can be seen from a distance, and a person’s heart can be seen from time to time. You must be wary of those who start calling you brothers.

Treat others sincerely, but also know how to guard against them.

4. It takes two years to learn to speak, but a lifetime to learn to shut up

People who speak move. Those who are silent are also quiet, because they speak and listen to their words. ——"Guiguzi"

Smart people keep silent, while stupid people talk endlessly.

Everyone wants to be understood by others, and knowing how to listen to others is the most effective means of communication.

Only when you understand what others are saying can you speak to the point, be to the point, take the lead, and be convincing.

The frog kept crowing, but no one paid attention; when the rooster crowed, everyone got up.

It is not important to talk too much, but to get to the point is the most important thing.

5. The sweeter the mouth, the less reliable it is.

A sycophant is flattering but loyal. ——"Guiguzi"

If a person flatters you unconditionally for your words and deeds regardless of the occasion or event.

Then this person is a villain.

Friendship is all about speaking frankly.

Praise when you should praise, persuade when you should be persuaded, and correct the loss when it is harmed. This is what a friend should be like.

People who have no position and whose mouth is like honey must have other intentions. They must not be friends with or use them.

6. Change the perspective, there are multiple ways out

If you want to go high, you will go down, if you want to take something, you will go down. ——"Guiguzi"

If a person wants to move up, he must first know how to be humble.

If you want to get something, you must first know how to give.

An arrogant person always wants to step on others, so no one is willing to give him a chance.

On the contrary, those who know how to be humble can make it to the end.

If you want to get something, you must give it first. Give benefits to others, and then others will benefit you.

All things are mutually reinforcing and mutually reinforcing each other, and opposites complement each other.

Sometimes, if you change your thinking and go against the grain, you might be surprised.

7. Powerful people know how to hide themselves

The way of a saint lies in concealment and concealment. ——"Guiguzi"

The biggest winner in the Three Kingdoms is the Sima family, because Sima Yi is good at hiding.

Many people like to put themselves on the bright side, being direct and clear about love and hate.

Who doesn’t like this kind of free and easy way of life?

But the problem is that as we age, the world we face becomes more and more complex.

People with ulterior motives can always easily harm us by using the information we expose.

In a complex world, you can maintain your childlike innocence, but don’t expose your inner self too much.

Staying calm and indifferent, and learning to hide yourself is the way to be healthy.

8. Kindness is very expensive, please don’t waste it

A gentleman rejects evil, and a villain rejects goodness. ——"Guiguzi"

A gentleman will not do evil, and a villain will not do good.

One fact we must admit is that people are different.

What is human nature? Some people are as kind and selfless as gods, while others are as cumbersome and terrifying as demons.

People’s hearts are different, that’s human nature.

People’s hearts are all made of flesh, but not all of them are made of good flesh.

Let’s not treat everyone with the same standards.

Confucius said: How to repay kindness with kindness?

Do good things to good people, but don't be polite to bad people.

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