Learn to care about others! [Compare Hearts]

Many people feel that they are lonely and helpless, have no friends in their lives, and have no one to talk to when they encounter troublesome things. I am very distressed and depressed, and feel that life has no meaning.

My lover does not love me, my relatives are not close to me, and my neighbors are not friendly to each other. In fact, have you ever looked for the reason in yourself? [Flash of inspiration]

If everyone is waiting for others to care about and love themselves, then who will do it? So you must first learn to care about others and love others.

Love can be reciprocated or not. When you give love, don't expect anything in return. (Giving roses to others will leave a lingering fragrance in your hands.) [Rose]

You give willingly, and what a surprise it is when you get something in return. Others regard you as a close friend, and you will never forget it. No longer alone and helpless. Don't take it seriously if you don't, just do your best to obey fate.

I have never felt lonely or helpless. My heart has always been full and warm. Maybe I have been accustomed to being independent since I was a child. Loving the people I love, doing what I love.

Helpless, lonely, no one cares about me, what should I do?

The answer is that you first care for others so that others will no longer be lonely and helpless. When others repay you, you will not be lonely and helpless.

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Helpless, lonely, no one cares about me, what should I do? I think you are overthinking it. How could your relatives not care about you? You can take the initiative to care about others first

Your parents, brothers, sisters, relatives and friends, you can contact these people regularly as long as you are free! You have to find happiness by yourself. You can't wait: "It's pie in the sky!" The relationship between people is getting along with each other. People belong to groups and birds of a feather flock together. How close you are to people with the same frequency as you, and like this You won't feel tired when interacting with others, and such people can also give you a sense of security and will not hurt you or embarrass you.

If I really don’t love you, just love yourself.

If you don’t want to take the initiative to contact others, you can find happiness by yourself. Read books, study and exercise, listen to music, grow flowers and plants, learn painting and calligraphy, go out for walks and hikes, go to swimming pools, do fitness exercises, learn to cook various delicacies, desserts, etc. Keep yourself busy and you will not feel lonely. On the contrary, you will feel that there is not enough time and there are too many things you want to do. Happiness is actually in your own hands.

You have to learn to be strong and independent and not always want to rely on others

Everyone will feel more and more lonely as they grow up. This is the normal state of life, even your own shadow will be there. When I leave you, don't feel sorry for yourself. The most advanced practice of human beings is to stop talking, so when you talk to someone, you are also the happiest and happiest time, because no one disturbs you, you can do what you like as you like, and you will find that pleasing others is not as good as being happy yourself .

Conclusion: Life is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. Life is short. Adjust yourself as soon as possible, make a plan for yourself, and strictly follow each item. Do it, and you'll find that finding happiness isn't hard.

Helpless, lonely, no friends, no one cares to help me

My teachers and friends and I will talk about this topic

In today's world Today, with money as the dominant position and material culture as the spiritual pillar, people have become more and more selfish for their own enjoyment. In the eyes of these people, there are only interests, and all family and friends are taken advantage of by these people. In order to maximize their own interests, family and friends are nothing in the eyes of these people, just tools to gain profits. In fact, these people are the saddest. Apart from money, these people have nothing, and these people will be lonely and helpless. Spend your life

If you want others to care about you, love yourself, and help you to love yourself, you must first learn to care about, love and help others. You have to have a good attitude. You have to rely on yourself in everything you do, and don’t have the thought of dependence.

You have to have a good attitude. Use a good attitude to examine yesterday, grasp today, and look forward to the future. Tomorrow

Use a normal mentality to examine myself, supplement myself, improve myself, transcend, and improve my vision, which will broaden my vision

Cherish family ties, cherish family ties At the moment, look at everything at the moment with a normal mentality. Change your bad habits, have a heart of gratitude, tolerance, and responsibility, give back to the society with a grateful heart, let go of obsessions and desires, look down on gains and losses, and live out your own style and charm. , live your own value, the road of life will become more colorful, and it is also the greatest happiness in life

If there is anything you don’t know, please give me some pointers

What? Things cause helplessness and loneliness? Do your relatives and friends know about this situation? There is too little information and there is nothing we can do.

A person’s aura is like a magnet that will attract people and things around you to pay attention to you; it is better to help yourself than to be helped by God. A strong person will not give in easily and beg for mercy from others. A person with a strong heart will not Teacher Hui thinks that others will pity and care about you, but you should take the initiative to care for others and let others feel the power of caring from you; the most important thing for you is to force yourself not only to be excellent, but also to be excellent. , only in this way, all problems will be easily solved!

Those who love going out love returning!

Buddha said: "One flower, one world, one leaf, one bodhi. Those who love go out love to return, and those who go have good luck come back." This contains the principle of cause and effect cycle.

Sorry, I don’t seem to have any sympathy for you, but since it is communication, it must be sincere, otherwise it will be a waste of time. Right.

Hello, based on your question, I think you are a person who has no friends in life. It may be because you are introverted, not good at talking, and not good at socializing. It may also be because you have social phobia and are afraid to take the initiative to make friends with others. Because you don't have a real good friend, you will feel helpless, lonely, and no one cares about you.

The first thing you have to do now is to clean up your mood, adjust your mentality, and face life positively and optimistically. When you are in a good state, your luck will become better and better. What kind of person you are will attract what kind of people. This is called the law of attraction in psychology.

Secondly, what you have to do is to take the initiative to make some friends instead of staying at home every day. For example, if you attend more class reunions, participate in more social group activities, etc., if you meet more people, you will always meet like-minded friends.

Finally, what you have to do is to care about the people around you first. Life is like a mirror, how you treat it is how it treats you. If you give love, you will receive love. If you help others, others will be more likely to help you when you encounter difficulties. So if you want to get something, give something first. In this world, there is no love without reason, and there is no hatred without reason, everything is mutual.

When you are helpless, lonely, and others don't care about you, give up self-resistance and allow yourself to fall to the bottom of the abyss. Only when you fall to the bottom of the abyss of despair can you have the strength to stand up again.

Love yourself again. You will become stronger, able to attract others with your charm, and have the ability to care for others. This is called having the ability to love.

Everyone is born with a lack of security. This is due to the habit of relying on parents for protection as a child. This experience will never be forgotten for life, especially when one loses the protection of his parents when he was young. This feeling of helplessness and fear will remain fresh in his remaining memory. These are internalized insecurities that come from a lack of close contact with others. People who are insecure are actually lost in themselves and need to "know yourself". "Know yourself" is a famous saying engraved on the lintel of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi in ancient Greece.

Human beings are constantly getting to know the world, and at the same time they are also constantly getting to know themselves. This is why we evaluate ourselves in social roles, and then add our own consciousness to the roles to form role-standard behaviors, and also It’s role obedience. For example, employees will obey leaders, and students will obey teachers or parents. This is a specific status expectation in social interactions. When a person is lonely, he loses his role and position, becomes confused when understanding the world, goes to extremes when evaluating himself, and internalizes his own insignificance.

To understand yourself correctly, there will be three directions of social comparison: upward social comparison, comparing with powerful people, there will be negative emotional experiences such as jealousy, hostility, frustration, etc., and the heart will become indifferent; parallel comparison, looking for Similarity in opinions and abilities can lead to close relationships or competition; downward social comparison, being more than one is also a state, which can make people feel sympathy or improve their self-efficacy, and find that they are still useful and capable, which can reduce negative psychological impact. This is true in loneliness. It can improve self-confidence and happiness.

In our interpersonal relationships, we need to be grateful. We are grateful that we have worked hard all these years and tasted the ups and downs. Life experience is our wealth. If we have not tasted bitterness, how can we appreciate sweetness? We need to be grateful to others. The Buddha said: "Bad people appear to teach themselves a lesson and teach themselves many principles; good people appear because they are arranged by God to help themselves. Therefore, we must face it with a grateful heart no matter what." This world. "

As long as a person interacts, role-playing will occur. When there are interactions, relationships will exist. Correct your mentality, gain confidence, help others, and care for others. It has become an integral part of the lives of colleagues, and others will also pay attention to themselves. Those who love go out love to return, and those who go have good luck come back. We only grow stronger every day because we have learned to love ourselves and use our strength to help others more. Being needed by others is not inconsistent with needing others. When we accept the baptism of sunshine, we also accept the infection of darkness.

When we are lonely, we feel helpless, fragile, indifferent, judging others by ourselves, losing ourselves, and unable to find our way. When you are humble, you often ask yourself what you are living for? People live so that what they do has meaning, and then they act and pay. Others don't care about you. Why is it not the result of your own indifference? When you strengthen yourself and be the person that others need, you must also learn to care about others and rely on others. This is the network stability of close relationships. We need to be self-reliant, and we also need to trouble others to grow ourselves. The best relationship is always one where we need each other. Only when we ask for help do we become truly sensible.

When people are most helpless and lonely, they always like to compete with themselves. They always feel that no one can help them, they have no friends, and their relatives don’t care about them. They push their emotions to the bottom and regard failure as a failure. My own incompetence, my failure to review my previous life, my resistance to changing my shortcomings, and my inability to cut off the temptation when I was obsessed with mobile phones. You must first control the bad factors before you can restart your outward enthusiasm. At that time, it would be ridiculous to say that "others don't care about you."

Here are a few things to do to change or control bad emotions: optimize your space environment, keep yourself away from temptations, and leave only things that are beneficial to your growth in the space environment, such as disconnecting from the Internet and leaving only a book, etc. to focus your attention on the right things. In fact, design a chain process driver, for example, in order to get up early, set an alarm clock next to the bed, an alarm clock in the living room, and an alarm clock in the kitchen. During the process of turning off the alarm clock, all sleepiness will disappear, reminding yourself what to do, training it into a habit, and the habit will change your mentality. Mentality determines the correct positioning; designing the goal process, when you are at a low point, it is like starting from scratch. Start with low-key small goals to increase your self-confidence. This is self-motivation that generates positive power. You need to choose your own life. It is up to you to decide where to go. The choice is a new way of life.

Through the above changes, there has been an outward development of activities, and there is no need to worry about the emergence of new relationships on the way forward. When people are in their lowest period, they will despise their own abilities, look down on themselves, harm themselves, and internalize themselves as being inferior to dust. Just like the first sentence at the beginning, people are more powerful when they reach the bottom, and they can see through life and death, just like the song "Start Over": No matter how hard it is, you must be strong, just for those expectant eyes, if the heart is in the dream, there is still true love between heaven and earth , depending on success or failure, life is heroic, just starting from scratch.

We have experienced life, and life requires continuous adjustment, forgetting grudges, former relatives and friends are still there, cherishing the people around you, and making new relationships. In fact, we are not alone, but we have never let ourselves go, forgive ourselves, and rebuild ourselves!

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