No matter how smart or capable a person is, or how good his background conditions are, if he does not know how to behave and do things, then his ultimate outcome will definitely be failure. Being a person and doing things is an art, and it is also a knowledge. The reason why many people remain inactive their whole lives is because they have never figured out how to behave and do things. -

Everyone living in the real society is eager for success, and many people with lofty ideals have paid a lot for their dreams, but they have received very little. This problem cannot help but arouse people's attention. Thoughts: You can’t say they don’t work hard enough, but why do they end up accomplishing nothing? This deserves serious consideration by each of us. -

On the surface, it seems very simple to be a good person and do things, who wouldn’t? In fact, it is not the case. For example, if you are a teacher, your subjective desire is to be a good teacher, but in fact you are not popular among students; if you go into business, your subjective desire is to make a lot of money, but you lose money. Put aside these surface phenomena and explore the crux of the problem, and you will find that being a human being and doing things is indeed a difficult knowledge to master. -

It can be said that being a person and doing things is a science that involves all aspects of real life. It is impossible to get a full picture of it by studying it from any one aspect alone. To master this knowledge and grasp its essence, we must refine and summarize real life and come up with some laws of universal significance, so that people can have rules to follow and not become confused and clueless. -

Understand one idiom and it will last a lifetime! -

1. The secret of social communication -

——Teach you how to make contributions and build a career -

(1) The secret of "modesty" -

The only thing that counts in life is "modesty". If you are blindly arrogant and arrogant, you will only lose the foundation of your life and end up alone and infamy. -

1. Don’t be arrogant -

2. Don’t get carried away when you are proud -

3. Don’t boast about your ability -

4. Ask for advice Do not choose others -

(2) The word "light" -

When dealing with others, making friends, and dealing with snobbery, it seems that you don't need to be too demanding. You should treat it with "light" "The word comes first. If you take a lighter view and a more open mind, life will suddenly become brighter and more enjoyable. -

Just like "the plain is the truth". -

1. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water -

2. Look at life indifferently and treat life kindly -

3. Be indifferent and clear your ambitions, and do not let fame and wealth cover your eyes. -

4. Reduce desires and satisfy the soul -

(3) The secret of "thrift" -

Those who do not understand the word "thrift" will not If you know how to succeed, any successful career lies in the accumulation of bits and pieces; those who do not understand the word "frugal" will only lose their success, and excessive arrogance will ruin their quality. -

"Frugality cultivates virtue" is a good lesson in doing things for others. -

1. Start by saving living expenses -

2. "Being poor and generous" is not advisable -

3. Beware of abnormal frugality: stinginess -

4. Don’t be tainted by your desires, cultivate virtue through frugality -

(4) The word "self" -

Be a person with personality and give yourself a little confidence ! The road to success is your own, and a bright future comes from self-reliance, not yielding to any authority, and using your own efforts to find your own self-esteem. -

When a man establishes his life, he makes his own decision! -

1. Self-reliance and success-

2. Taste all aspects of life-

3. Use yourself to challenge authority-

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4. Self-confidence - let the wind come to you -

(5) "Etiquette" -

Born in a land of etiquette, be polite person. A polite person is a good person, popular and has many friends. A polite person knows how to do things, pays attention to image, is well-educated, does not make enemies, and everything goes smoothly on the road to success. -

1. Treat others with courtesy -

2. Be polite and don’t blame others for being polite -

3. Pay attention to etiquette and dress to give people a good impression -

(6) The secret of "zheng" -

Be an upright person, be a person with a sound and perfect personality, and be respected by others. Being a selfish person, doing deceptive things, and taking precautions against talents will have no chance of success. -

1. Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you -

2. Jealousy is a taboo for upright people -

3. Don’t cheat The mind itself is a kind of pleasure-

2. Image-shaping tips-

——Teach you elegance of character-

(7) The word "ambition" Tip -

Give yourself a lever long enough and hope to turn the earth.

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Set a wish for your life, set a goal, set up an idol, be down-to-earth, the awareness of success needs to be cultivated, first make a determination, and then date with success. -

1. Measure your virtues and measure your abilities, and establish your character based on your will -

2. Determine first, and there will be hope if you have ambition -

3. Cultivate a sense of success: Determine to be Wang -

4. Set up an idol and change yourself -

(8) The word "time" -

You must cherish time and be punctual in doing things. To shape their own image, modern people cannot do without the concept of time. Arrange your time reasonably, use your time effectively, be punctual, cherish time, and do not delay. -

Remember: time is money. -

1. One second is worth ten thousand gold-

2. Don’t ignore your spare time-

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4. Do things according to importance and make more effective use of time -

(9) The secret of "diligence" -

The more effort you have, the more success you will have opportunity. Countless facts have proven that the shortest way to success is diligence. Don't just talk, don't be indolent, work hard, the sky will pay off, and God will reward those who work hard! -

1. The shortest way to success: Diligence -

2. More efforts, more opportunities -

3. Diligence in action is better than diligence Say -

(10) The word "practical" -

Be a down-to-earth person and do things in a down-to-earth manner. No one can climb the ladder of success with his hands in his pockets. Leave a real image to others, add a solid foundation for your own success, proceed from reality, and be responsible for yourself. -

1. Dedication, the guarantee of success for a doer -

2. Do every job well -

3. Put your hands in your pockets Those who cannot climb the ladder of success - (11) The word "expert" -

Only with expertise can you have perseverance, and only with perseverance can you have yourself. -

You live in an era of knowledge explosion. If you are a genius, not concentrating will be your misfortune; if you have ordinary qualifications, please do not be pessimistic, as long as you are determined to do a good job in your life. If you do something, you will succeed. Young people, don't leave an image of being fast and hasty. -

1. Put all your eggs in one basket -

2. To be versatile, there is no better way to develop a "unique hidden weapon" -

3. To be single-minded, Turn disadvantages into advantages -

(12) The word "caution" -

Life is long but short, and the key is just a few steps. In the jungle of human nature, there are many benefits and temptations in the workplace. When you are mature, you should not be afraid of too much. You should think twice about everything. Don't be afraid of ten thousand, just be afraid of the unexpected. Once you reach out to the wrong person, get into the wrong line, or do the wrong thing, your reputation, career, and image will all be in danger. -

"Be careful"! -

1. Never enter the wrong profession -

2. Think carefully before "jumping" -

3. Don't act hastily -

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3. Self-improvement tips-

——Teach you how to save your destiny-

(13) "Hard" tips-

It's hard to be a person, it's hard to do things, and when faced with many difficulties and obstacles, if you want to improve yourself, how can you do it without doing something "hard"? If something is forced, you should dare to say "no"; if it is a legitimate interest, you should be merciful; even sometimes you have to be a bit aggressive, and you have to be "thick-skinned" sometimes, and you have to be "hard-headed". when. -

1. Rejection is an art -

2. Don't be polite when it's my turn -

3. The power of anger -

4. Be shameless and do things with a tough head -

(14) "Little" tactic -

The owner of a seafood chain restaurant was probably a fish market practitioner. Tan'er, and the owner of a leather shoe chain store may have been a shoe shiner. If you want to do big things and make big money, you must first do small things, make small money, put down your arrogance, and give up small profits. Start with the details, first sweep the house, and then the world! -

1. How can you sweep the world if you don't sweep one house-

2. Do small things first and make small money-

3. One nail changes a person Life -

(15) The word "Rui" -

The little sparrow flies and jumps, racing against time, constantly looking for food. The same is true in life. In the face of cruel competition, you can only forge ahead, be a good pioneer, regard the next goal as your goal, dare to take risks, dare to venture into things, and waiting for the next goal is very slim after all. -

1. Don’t be satisfied with current achievements -

2. Pursue with determination and never back down -

3. Don’t throw away your energy, success will come sooner or later -

(16) The secret of "Creation" -

To improve yourself, you must have the courage and knowledge to surpass yourself.

What is transcendence? Transcendence means trying too hard and innovating. (Being a human being, sun) At the same time, innovation means taking risks, which is the so-called wealth gained through risk. Thinking about things that others don't think of, doing things that others dare not do, and daring to be the first in the world lie in the transformation of thinking. -

1. Dare to be the first in the world -

2. Creativity that breaks the rules -

3. Miracles can be created even when others abandon and I take -

4. The offensive and defensive method of reverse thinking -

(17) The word "tong" -

If you are poor, you will think about change, and if you change, you will be able to communicate. Those who understand current affairs are heroes, and those who adapt to changes are heroes. There is not one path to success, so why hang yourself from a tree? Seize the key to success. The east is not bright and the west is bright. No matter it is a black cat or a white cat, the important thing is whether it can catch "rats". -

1. Cleverly adapt to changes -

2. All roads lead to Rome -

3. Success lies in generality. Only by generalization can you win - < /p>

(18) "Word" -

Giving praise to others is like giving food to hungry beggars. Throughout the ages, countless people have changed their ordinary destiny with their sharp tongue. Speak humorously and find the same language... A word "spoken" can be used throughout your life. -

1. Find topics that suit others -

2. Compliment is the best "lubricant" -

3. A successful life, humor and wit -

4. "Buzzwords" add color to your appearance -

4. Interpersonal interaction tips -

——Teach you to win friends-

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(19) The word "Kan" -

In interpersonal interactions, one should focus on the future and not dwell on the past. Forgiving others is the best way to treat yourself—getting angry for your enemies only hurts you. When doing things, don't be too narrow-minded. The sea is open to all rivers, relying on a tolerant heart! -

1. Forgive your enemies -

2. Be tolerant and be tolerant -

3. Be willing to forget and not remember old evils -

(20) The tactic of "和" -

In a sea of ??people, if we don't want to be isolated, then let's learn how to get along with others! The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds. You are not required to like everyone, but at the same time, there is no best person in the world. -

Harmony is valuable, so we must leave steps for each other and give face to each other. -

1. Consider others and pave the way for yourself -

2. You save face for others and others will do good things for you -

3. Relationship between husband and wife Tao, harmony and wisdom - (21) The word "faith" -

How many people trust you, how many opportunities for success you have. What is "faith"? Trust is a kind of personality power, a friendship that transcends money, understanding, appreciation, and overcoming water, and it is irreversible. Therefore, be true to your words and resolute in your deeds. Help if you can, but don’t make promises easily! -

1. Help when you can, and don’t make promises easily -

2. Keep your word and be a principled person -

3. Be a good person before you do anything , a person must first earn trust -

4. The cornerstone of credibility, friendship between life and death -

(Twenty-two) The word "help" -

"Good wind relies on strength , send me to the sky." Interpersonal communication, mutual benefit. Helping others is saving for your own favor credit card, especially lending a helping hand to others in times of trouble and rescuing heroes in distress. If you sincerely help others, the rewards are self-evident. -

1. Help others get rich, and you will benefit yourself -

2. Good wind can reach the sky by borrowing a ladder -

3. Seize the opportunity and pull others together Put -

(Twenty-three) The word "respect" -

People want face, and trees want skin. People exist in society and have to play various roles, especially in interactions with each other. They need a certain degree of dignity to support them. This is a weakness of human nature. Only after understanding this can we realize the necessity of the word "respect". -

1. A taboo for your superiors and a taboo for your superiors -

2. Don’t talk about your pride in front of the frustrated -

3. Respect the other person’s "Sparkling point" -

(Twenty-four) "Jiao" word formula -

People are warm and cold, the world is hot and cold, and ordinary friends live their lives normally. When making friends, you should not be eager for quick success. When investing in friendship, you should take a long-term approach. Pay homage to the cold temple, burn the cold stove, and burn more incense. Even a brief greeting is the way to make friends.

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1. Burn incense more when you are free, and someone will help you when you are in an emergency -

2. Friendship investment should be long-term -

3. Worship the cold temple and burn incense A cold stove, a hero in trouble -

5. Words to overcome difficulties -

——Teach you to be relaxed and happy -

(Twenty-five) "Strong" "Zijue-

When facing setbacks and difficulties, remember Churchill's famous saying: "Never, never, never give up!" In fact, there is no such thing as luck in the world. Even if there is, it is the result of persistence. For the final victory, we should face all kinds of temporary humiliations with perseverance, pursue persistently, and never give up until the Yellow River! -

1. Accumulate and endure loneliness -

2. Whoever laughs last will laugh sweetest -

3. Perseverance in pursuit, never Give up -

4. Don’t give up until you reach the Yellow River -

(26) The word "strategy" -

There are confusions in life and difficulties in work. Facing the "mountains and rivers" hurdles, strong determination alone is not enough, nor is it possible to push through. Solving problems relies on the brain. The brain generates thinking, allows thinking to be powerful, and solves problems easily in unexpected places. -

1. A clever woman can make a meal without rice -

2. From "the mountain is heavy and the river is heavy" to "the flower is bright" -

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(Twenty-seven) "Qu" word formula -

To get rid of the dilemma of people and things, it is inevitable to ask for others, and it is inevitable to be humble when asking for others, but focusing on future success, Even if you live like a cockroach, you should not hesitate. Feng shui will take turns after all. Put down your arrogance, bend when you need to, bend when you can stretch, and be a hero when you bend before stretching! -

1. Live like a cockroach -

2. Put down your body, the road ahead is the road -

3. You give me a foot, and I will give you a foot. Zhang -

4. A lowly person who "submits" to the immortal level -

(Twenty-eight) The word "quiet" -

"Not in silence If you explode, you will perish in silence! "When encountering major events, you need to be calm. Calmness is a state, a tolerance, and a kind of cultivation. Making a calm decision is often the best way to get out of trouble. At the same time, calmness is also a kind of wisdom. Wait for changes and win in chaos! -

1. Turn a cold bench into a manager's chair -

2. A calm mind leads to wisdom, and wisdom leads to success -

3. Be calm and contented -

4. Only by being able to keep calm can one become a great person -

(Twenty-nine) The secret of the word "乐" -

There are no absolutely happy people in the world; A heart that refuses to be happy. Life is short, instead of being nervous about everything, it's better to be silent. Remember, success starts with a smile. Things often go wrong in life. Be optimistic, create your own happiness, and learn to solve problems easily. -

1. Success starts with a smile -

2. Learn to create happiness -

3. Learn to solve problems easily and happily -

4. There are no absolutely happy people in the world, only hearts that are unwilling to be happy -

(Thirty) The word "reliance" -

Life does not depend on you, yes, Pies will not fall from the sky, and people will starve to death, but it will not work if they do not rely on them at all. Relatives, friends, classmates, and fellow villagers are a kind of "human resources". Even if you don’t have to create conditions, you have to rely on it! -

1. Let your friends be your support -

2. Rely on your fellow villagers when you are in trouble -

3. Relatives and relatives, the closer you go, the closer you get -

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4. It’s time to lean on your classmates -

6. The secret to an undefeated life -

——Teach you a glorious life -

(31) "Fool" tactic -

Learn from the owl, open one eye, close one eye. You say I'm confused, but I'm not stupid! It’s just that things in the world are constantly changing, it’s difficult to start a business, and money can be lost quickly. People say that when the water is clear, there will be no fish, but when people observe it carefully, there will be no disciples. The truth is, be wise and be wise, and wise people are often foolish. There are many smart people, and the word "foolish" is very important! -

1. Foolish people are always smart -

2. Don't think you are smarter than others -

3. Don't take things too seriously -

(32) "Forbearance" -

A true hero, why should he be short of breath? Only by starting well and ending well can he be invincible! Forbearance can protect one's life, and it can accomplish things. Forbearance is great wisdom, great courage, and even greater blessing! Tolerance is thick, tolerant is dark, to endure villains, to endure powerful people, to endure things that are unbearable in the world, and to not be a person of temperament, to achieve things that are difficult for ordinary people.

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1. Forbearance is great wisdom, courage and great blessing-

2. Don’t be a man of temperament-

3. An undefeated life, a ninja is invincible-

(Thirty-three) The word "retreat" -

People who have been in the world for a long time and have mastered human relations all abide by the word "retreat". Retreat is a strategy, retreat is an exchange, and it is also a means of maintaining survival. The philosopher said it well, "Don't spit in the well. When you are thirsty, you will come to the well to drink water." -

1. Careful calculation is always wrong and will lead to regression. Think about everything and everything will go smoothly -

2. Refusing to compromise means refusing to succeed -

3. Can't afford to offend, can't afford to hide -

(Thirty-four) The word "Yuan" -

If you are a person with a square circle, you will be exquisite in all directions; if you do things perfectly, everything will go well. People are unpredictable, so it is best to keep everything in reserve. When you have free time, you can study the "fuzzy philosophy". If the carriage of life is equipped with square wheels, you have never heard of it, and I have not heard of it. It will be difficult to move even an inch! -

1. Be a decent person and do things satisfactorily -

2. Be the second child, not the boss -

3. Being knowledgeable in human relations is a good thing, and be tactful and prudent in life. Words -

(Thirty-five) The word "danger" -

"After the success of luxury, will there be both happiness and peace of mind and disaster?" This is the lesson of history, and the same is true for ordinary people. . Whether you are living at home or in the workplace, you cannot escape the word "danger". If you don't have long-term worries, you will have immediate worries. -

1. Think far ahead, and there is no danger nearby -

2. Guo Ziyi retreated from the maid to avoid trouble -

3. Go to the mountains and countryside to be a farmer - Fan Li lives a life of wealth and honor -

(Thirty-six) The secret of "pretending" -

Life is a drama, you sing and I come on stage, whether you can act or not, just watch Do you know how to pretend? It's easy to act like a hero, but it's hard to act like a weakling.

As the saying goes, if you shoot first, you are not afraid of thieves, but you are afraid of thieves. When you don't have the strength, please hide your excess talents! -

1. There are benefits to deliberately showing weakness -

2. Use "mimicry" and "protective color" -

3. Success requires feigning death and feigning defeat -

(editor keke)