When I was at school, I always looked down on my classmates with good family conditions, thinking that they didn't study hard and their level was average. But in the society, I found that those people you look down on have developed much better than you, some have been admitted to graduate schools, some have average intelligence and even become big bosses, and those who failed in English have all gone abroad.
As I grew older and thought deeply about this issue, I realized that nothing was important. In fact, my academic performance at school will not have much impact on my future life. What really affects our life prospects is everyone's different family background.
Due to different family backgrounds, the inferiority and self-confidence hidden in the bones determine the fate of life. When you grow up, that kind of inferiority and self-confidence will gradually permeate your whole body and all aspects of your life, and will always accompany you and affect your every move. In particular, this profound inferiority complex, like a virus, is tormenting your heart all the time, giving birth to your pain and devouring your enterprising soul.
People who feel inferior are always cautious and timid. Even if the opportunity is in front of them, they will hesitate and miss it because of timidity and lack of courage. People with low self-esteem often show nervousness and disorientation, bad temper, negative emotions, self-isolation, sensitivity and suspicion, full of fear of all kinds of things outside, always magnifying their own shortcomings and paying special attention to what others think of them. People with low self-esteem are fragile inside.
Self-confident people will be bold, bold, confident, and will show their aplomb, generosity, truthfulness, liveliness and humor, courage and decisiveness, ambition and responsibility.
My experience is limited. I found two examples on the Internet to prove the great difference between people with low self-esteem and confident people. In fact, there are many such people and things around us, but they are not so typical.
Besides studying well, classmate A really has nothing to recommend. She was born in poverty, only learning and never communicating with others. Then someone would make fun of her, and she actually cried. Since then, her classmates have never dared to say anything to her easily.
The influence of family environment always makes her so cautious in dealing with people. This self-confidence will not change because of her good academic performance, so that she walks around among her colleagues after graduation, which makes her feel very hard. Because she does not have a strong family background, she is very fragile inside.
Student B left a deep picture for us. I remember that he only got one multiple-choice question correctly in a math exam, but this did not affect his future career success. My classmate's father owns a company. Although B's grades were not good, his father sent him to study in the United States after graduation. A few years later, He, who has the worst English score in his class, can also speak authentic English fluently. Moreover, he also holds an important position in his father's company and is a veritable rich second generation in our class.
Family background can really determine our future life prospects to a great extent, because money may be accumulated bit by bit through our own efforts, but the thinking inertia inherited from family is hard to change.
About thinking inertia, it reminds me of something many years ago. W and L were roommates in college, and went to Qingdao to work together after graduation, so they shared a house in Qingdao.
W is a very confident person. She works during the day and works overtime for herself at night. Maybe she can simply catch up on her industry knowledge and study until midnight every night. And l is often nervous and anxious. Every time she encounters work problems, she is utterly confused. She always cooks something delicious at night to relieve herself.
In this way, after a year, W was successfully promoted to assistant department manager, while L was considering job hopping. To make matters worse, because of his busy work, W looks thin, capable and more and more professional. Because l always uses food to relieve stress, her body unconsciously accumulates a lot of fat and gains 20 pounds in just one year. Her figure is out of shape, which makes her less confident in herself and her temper longer and longer.
This is only one year after graduation, and ten years after graduation, W has bought a sea view room in Qingdao and has a warm home. Her parents-in-law helped her take care of the children, and she worked hard with her husband.
However, l had already returned to his hometown, lived with his parents and occasionally encountered difficulties. As before, l vented his emotions first, and then tried to solve the problem anxiously.
In fact, their origins are similar, and the starting point of life is similar, but their thinking is so different that there will be such a disparity in life.
It turns out that when W's parents solve problems, they always discuss ways with a pleasant countenance. When there are differences of opinion, they will be settled through consultation, and L's parents will always blame each other or even quarrel every time they encounter problems.
So, l formed a habit. Every time she encounters difficulties, her first reaction is nervousness and anxiety. She will spend most of her time relaxing or venting her emotions, and she has little time to really solve problems.
So if you are born in a well-off family, with a wide social background and well-educated high-quality parents, congratulations. If there are no accidents in your life, it will be a broad road and you will be the winner in life.
If you are born in poverty, you don't need to feel inferior. You need to realize that there is no need to envy those successful people with rich conditions, because if you have their background, you will also succeed. There will always be some people who are unwilling to change themselves through their own efforts, cross the original class and realize the counterattack of life. So abandon the fetters of inferiority, bravely walk out of the shadow of inferiority and take a heroic step in life. Your life will be wonderful as always, and your road will be broad as always.