Do you know what to do if the child is slow? The formation of children's bad personality has a great relationship with family education, so parents should pay more attention to cultivating children. I collected and sorted out the information about procrastination in children. Let's have a look.

Children are slow and procrastinate 1 1. Parents should first help their children realize the value of time and make mutual supervision plans.

To a great extent, children are procrastinating because they have no sense of time. He doesn't know what time means to him. Therefore, it is very important for children with procrastination to cultivate a sense of time. Parents should find ways to make their children realize that time is the most precious wealth in the world, and find ways to make them understand that cherishing time is the truth of cherishing life. They can tell their children stories that successful people from ancient times to the present cherish time very much, and they can also post some famous sayings in the bedroom to remind them. In addition, it is necessary to discuss the dangers of hanging out with children. Parents should clearly point out to their children that muddling along is a bad habit that is harmful to life. A loafer will waste a lot of time. Such people are not only inefficient, but also eliminated by modern society.

First of all, help children understand the bad consequences of procrastination for themselves and their parents, let him accept opinions and express his willingness to correct them. Then make a mutual supervision plan with the child, let him supervise whether he dawdles (one parent participates and the other will be punished), and the referee records the results and reports them in time. The two sides make a life schedule together, record the time of dressing, washing and eating every morning, and see if there is progress after a while (parents often let their children win in order to maintain his enthusiasm). If children are happy with their progress, they will take the initiative to speed up their work and strengthen their sense of time.

2. Stop urging procrastinating children and insist on praise; More encouragement and rewards.

When children are procrastinating, many parents like to make a hullabaloo about and keep urging. As a result, they feel that the more they urge their children to move more slowly, the more angry their parents are. We should change our thinking: praise children when they find that they are doing something quickly. Praise and encouragement can stimulate children's positive motivation more effectively than criticism and accusation. The more praise children receive, the higher their expectations. Generally, children pay more attention to the recognition or recognition of the outside world, so parents should change their evaluation of their children if they want to stop fooling around like this. If parents can often say to their children, "I wish you would hurry up", "You are better than before", "Look at how fast you are doing", "Well done, come on" and "Great, there is no need to remind them all the time now", children will be actively stimulated by the outside world, and these sincere encouragement will impress them. In order not to disappoint parents, children do things next time. In addition, in order to make the child more self-motivated, when he does things faster than before, or meets the requirements of adults, parents can also give some material rewards appropriately, such as adding a little red star to the child, taking the child out to play, buying toys he wants and so on. Encouraging and rewarding children to do things can often get good results.

Step 3 make dawdle pay the price

Only when children realize that procrastination will bring losses to themselves can they be conscious. Therefore, it is a good way to get rid of procrastination by letting children pay the price for their procrastination and let them taste the natural consequences themselves. For example, if a child dawdles after getting up in the morning, parents should not worry or help him. You can remind your child that you will be late if you don't hurry. If he is still dawdling there, you might as well let him go without worrying about the children being late for school. In fact, we just want our children to experience the consequences of being late for school. If the child is really late, the teacher will definitely ask him why he is late. After the child is criticized, he will realize what procrastination has brought him.

You can't blame and beat.

When children are procrastinating, some parents will be more impatient, yell at their children loudly, constantly blame them, and some even beat and scold them. However, many times, these simple and rude ways don't have much effect. The child seems to be scared for a while, and the speed of doing things is a little faster. Once the incident subsides, the children still muddle along. In fact, it is useless for parents to lose their temper when they are procrastinating. For example, sometimes a child is slow to do something, maybe it is difficult for the child, maybe the child doesn't know the essentials of doing it faster, or maybe the child has developed the habit of procrastination. At this time, if parents get angry again, children will become more and more at a loss and the speed of doing things will become slower. In addition, excessive attitude and behavior towards children may cause his rebellious psychology. Although children are young, they need respect. In the face of parents' anger, blame and abuse, children's psychological feelings are definitely bad, and sometimes they may take an indifferent attitude or simply delay time to express their resistance to their parents.

4. Let children feel "quick value" and save time freely by children.

Only when a child thinks that it is good for him to do things quickly and that it is worthwhile to do things quickly will his actions be "fast". For example, many parents are eager for their children to succeed in their homework. They always want their children to learn more and play less, preferably not at all. After their children finish their learning tasks, they often add extra tasks to their children. The homework assigned by the teacher has been finished, and a lot of parents' homework is still waiting there. All the homework has been finished, and there are still many things that children need to finish, such as drawing and playing the piano. Children don't want to do this. So I came up with the trick of dawdling. The child has his own account: the faster I do, the more tasks I have, and I can't go out to play anyway. You'd better take your time, at least you can save some energy. The best way to solve this problem is to give back the time saved by children. After the children finish their tasks quickly, they should be given the right to arrange their lives freely, so that they can do what they are interested in with the time saved.

Many parents like to give their children some homework inside the family, such as homework assigned by teachers, reading English assigned by parents, children just finished reading English, and parents assign Olympic math problems. Wait a minute. In short, parents arrange their children well. Children also see the problem that as long as children have free time, parents will arrange tasks. Therefore, the child's countermeasure is to break the whole into parts and play while doing homework. If this is delayed for a long time, parents will not arrange other tasks because the homework assigned by the teacher is not completed. Children, play while doing homework.

We should make a time forecast for the tasks that children need to complete (including those assigned by their parents). Be sure to leave time for children to rest (free time). If a * * * takes an hour and a half, then the child will finish it in an hour and a half (even if the quality and quantity are guaranteed in advance), and the rest of the time must be dominated by the child himself, such as playing his favorite toys, playing games for a while and doing physical exercise for a while. Is to do what children like to do. After forming this habit, children will finish their homework quickly, because they will have a lot of time to play if they finish it early.

5. Improve the evaluation angle and say less "slow"; Give priority to with encouragement, positive guidance.

The evaluation of "slowness" will make children ignore the use of time, which has long been described as "slowness" Every time children feel that their study time is very long, naturally there will be too many "episodes": staring blankly, playing with rubber, going to the toilet, drinking water and so on. So at school, the teacher praised her consciously. She made progress today, faster than yesterday. At home, parents should also consciously praise her and tell her that you can get up "soon" as long as you don't do anything else while studying. If a child's procrastination is caused by "clumsy hands", parents should find ways to exercise her hands-on ability and help her improve her skills and agility. Parents can play some small competitive games with their children, such as watching who wears clothes quickly and who takes a bath quickly. Through these competitions, parents can teach their children self-help skills such as dressing, washing and packing toys at any time, and teach them how to use the order of doing things to improve efficiency and arrange time. Parents should change the concept of pursuing perfection and try to turn blame into encouragement, such as "you can do it", "you can get up quickly" and "just concentrate". Parents should have patience and confidence and affirm their children's little progress in time.

7. Increase regular activities and sense of urgency.

Lack of moderate tension is an important reason why many children muddle along. Therefore, parents can "create" a tense atmosphere in their children's lives, make their children nervous and speed up the pace of life. According to the child's specific situation, you can add some regular activities when the child washes, dresses, eats and does homework. How long does it take to do something, and then ask the children to complete it with good quality and quantity within the specified time. Children will be rewarded for doing well and punished for not doing well. If parents and children evaluate and adjust their requirements together, they will do better next time. Parents should check the design time in time. When the child does something, the parents time her, tell her and praise her for being a few minutes faster than yesterday. In this way, children will have high enthusiasm. For younger children, it will be better if parents and children have a small competition of regular reading, regular memory, regular answering questions and regular labor together.

8. Feel "I can be fast" with "speed measuring method".

Record how many words you can write and how many questions you can do per unit time (say 5 minutes). Then calculate how long it will take to finish all the homework at this speed, and the result will definitely surprise the children: I can finish it so soon! And made her realize "it's worth it." I finished my study task quickly. What should I do with the extra time? Many parents will use this time to let their children develop in an all-round way: increase piano practice time or add extra homework, but in any case, they can't be idle or play. Children will think: it is better to slow down, anyway, the faster the task, the more. Therefore, you have to make your child feel "worthy of being fast" before she will go "fast".

9. Create a focused environment for children.

Not all dawdling is intentional. Many children drag their feet because of lack of concentration. A child's attention is easily influenced by his surroundings, and anything interesting next to him will make him forget what he is doing. When children are studying, they should put away everything that has nothing to do with study on their desks. Try to give your child an independent and quiet study space. If you are watching TV while your child is doing his homework, please turn down the volume. There are guests or parents talking together at home, and the voice should be as low as possible, or in a soundproof room, don't let the children be disturbed by the sound.

Parents should not interfere with their children's learning ideas and concentration. Some parents are uneasy about their children, and always go to see if they are playing again when they are doing their homework. Or you can help your child check his homework. When you find a mistake, you can say that you have done something wrong on this issue, no matter whether the child is doing other homework. This will easily affect children and make them unable to concentrate on their homework. Parents must tell their children that you believe they can finish their homework well and quickly and let them do it independently.

10. Examine the family's educational environment and adjust the educational methods in time.

Some children's procrastination stems from improper family education environment and lack of good educational methods. In daily life. Some parents spoil their children so much that everything depends on them. When children began to show signs of procrastination, parents failed to take timely measures to help them correct their bad habits. At the same time, some parents don't obey the time rules, which also affects their children's behavior habits invisibly.

Therefore, to help children correct procrastination, parents should first find reasons from their own family education methods. In family life, they should set an example and not procrastinate. Only in this way can they give their children a good educational environment.

At the same time, more importantly, parents must not give their children any excuse to delay. If they find signs of procrastination, they must stop it in time and can't treat this bad habit with any doting attitude.

1 1, make good use of small alarm clock.

Using an alarm clock to urge children to do their homework helps them to finish their homework quickly and effectively. Before the child used the alarm clock, one child did his homework slowly. He always drinks water and plays with an eraser for a while. 20 minutes of homework can't be completed in more than an hour. Later, the mother of the child had an idea. Every day, according to the total amount of children's homework and the efficiency of children's homework, she helps children estimate the time needed to do their homework, and then asks them to set the alarm clock before doing their homework. The alarm clock rang 10 minutes before the deadline for children to finish their homework. From then on, mothers don't have to urge "hurry up, hurry up" behind their children. The alarm clock is his best urge. At the same time, children constantly experience a sense of success in the process of setting their own alarm clocks, and no longer regard homework as helping their parents complete tasks, so they learn more consciously.

Pay attention to cultivating children's concept of time in life

In fact, a child's lack of time concept will never be manifested only in study, but in all aspects of life and work. A child with a weak sense of time is not only slow in doing homework, but also slow in doing everything, so we should pay attention to cultivating children's sense of time in all aspects of life. Later, I had experience, stipulating that children can only take a bath for 10 minutes. Don't give an alarm clock, let the children estimate the time by themselves! In this way, the child has the concept of time in his mind. About 10 minutes, the baby will come out soon. Sometimes I ask two children: How long do you think you just took a shower? I will praise the child who answers accurately and say that he has a strong sense of time; It's the same when eating. I will stipulate that the children must finish eating within 20 minutes. After eating, estimate how long it took them to eat, and see how much difference between their estimated time and the actual time. I also set a time to get up in the morning. When you hear the alarm clock ring at 7 o'clock, you should get up by yourself and have 15 minutes to dress, wash your face and brush your teeth. Read early at 7 o'clock, 15, and read for 20 minutes. Often urged, children's concept of time will become stronger.

12, one-minute special training, let children feel how much they can do in one minute.

(1) Train children to concentrate on doing problems. Prepare dozens of simple addition and subtraction oral arithmetic problems every day (different levels, different difficulties). Set a minute to see how many questions the child can do at most. Let children feel that they can do more than a dozen small questions in one minute, but when doing homework, sometimes they don't write a word for a few minutes, and they can't write a small question.

(2) One-minute Chinese writing training. Find some strokes and new words that are difficult to write, and see how many words a child can write at most in one minute. Write down each situation and compare it.

(3) Write the numbers for one minute. Let children practice writing "0 123456789" for one minute every day. Write once a minute. You can write several groups at a time. With more and more groups, children write faster and faster, thinking that they can do so many things in one minute.

(4) Remember the words in one minute, record the memory effect every time, form a contrast, and promote your progress with a sense of accomplishment.

13, reasonably arrange children's homework and activities.

Children's attention is short-lived, and the attention duration is generally around 15 to 20 minutes. If it lasts too long, the brain will be tired, the learning efficiency will be low, and the amount of homework will be large. Doing homework will be a long and painful thing. In the face of homework that can never be finished, the final choice of children is procrastination. Therefore, time can be divided into several parts, three or four segments. For example, if the homework is expected to take 1 hour, divide the time into three "20 minutes", and after each "20 minutes", rest for 5 minutes or 10 minutes. Because each time is very short, and there is a "short-term ultimate goal" as an incentive, I feel hopeful when I start writing my homework, and I will concentrate on doing my homework within the specified time. You can also use the method of changing numbers into quantities, that is, divide all the homework to be done into several parts according to the quantity. For example, if there are 15 math problems, it is stipulated to rest for 5 minutes every 5 problems, and then do the next 5 problems. During recess, children can listen to music, chat with them or play some games. At the beginning of implementation, parents must urge reminders and strictly control the time for rest and homework. Some of them are caused by children's own personality characteristics and influenced by family environment. If the family is also slow-tempered, sloppy and procrastinating, it will also affect the child's dullness in all aspects. Some children are slow-thinking, doing things half a beat slower than others, and can't get up quickly. When you meet this kind of child, you should first face up to it and don't abuse the child with words like "stupid". First, family members should set an example, change the habit of doing things slowly in the past, develop the habit of doing things resolutely and cleanly, and let "fast" be used in daily life.

14. Try to make learning interesting.

People are like this, willing to do what they like and interesting things quickly; For boring things, things that are not so interesting can be delayed, and so can children and adults. This is human nature! Therefore, for such children who don't like homework very much, parents should try their best to arouse their interest in homework, such as assigning homework through games and competitions. For example, you can finish an assignment regularly, praise or write a "★" when you finish it within the specified time, and get enough "★" to satisfy a child's wish.

Children are slow and procrastinate. Two common reasons for procrastination.

If you want to correct your child's bad habit of procrastination, you must first understand the reasons for your child's procrastination. Common reasons are as follows:

First, lack of time concept.

Children can't have a sense of time urgency like adults. They have detailed plans about what to do and when to do it. Children's concept of time is vague, and they always do whatever they want and do whatever they think. For example, in the morning, the parents will urge the children to hurry up, or they will be late for work, but the children don't understand the relationship between your being late for work and my quick response, and it's not that I'm late.

Second, inattention is easily influenced by the surrounding environment.

For example, if you ask your child to wash his hands for dinner, he may play with water because he sees a bucket and forget what you told him. When children are eating, because they hear children playing downstairs, they immediately put down their bowls and chopsticks to see what is going on, so they always do things while playing.

Third, you are careless about things that you are not interested in.

Some children procrastinate, but they don't procrastinate on everything. If you tell him to take him to the amusement park, he will get dressed soon. If you take him to extracurricular tutoring classes, he will procrastinate and delay.

Fourth, the ability is limited.

Sometimes children dawdle, not intentionally, but because of their limited ability, and it will be slower to do some difficult things. Parents should not criticize this situation, but encourage it.

Fifth, the result of parents' arrangement.

Some children procrastinate entirely because of their parents' habits. For example, if children eat slowly and parents are anxious, they will pick up bowls to feed their children. Children who have tasted the sweetness will deliberately delay every meal. Anyway, if I am slow, you feed me.

Sixth, children are born to be chronic.

Every child's personality and temperament are different. Some people are hot-blooded, naturally active and resourceful. Some people are timid, although they react quickly, but their accuracy is poor; People with mucus are quiet and silent; Depressed patients are slow to respond. No matter what kind of temperament a child belongs to, it is born and is not easy to change easily. Parents should still respect their children's nature.

In fact, many of the above six reasons are unintentional, so parents should not embarrass their children and take respect as the premise. And we always think that children are slow because we are used to measuring the speed of children's movements by adult standards. From an adult's point of view, children's actions are just muddling along and dragging their feet, but from a child's point of view, everything is normal. Of course, we should criticize and educate children's intentional behavior.