Ten love guides (the essence)

1. The method of going forward bravely

Many girls are more or less wary of friends of the opposite sex. They are always worried that they will go astray due to temporary carelessness and emotion, and will regret it for life. In fact, this is artificially narrowing their social circle. After experiencing setbacks and vicissitudes of life, how many people have lamented that there are still many good people in the world. Based on your life experience, I believe you can still quickly identify the pros and cons of the people around you. If you want to get friends of the opposite sex, don't be defensive and make a fuss about others. You must first open your closed heart. The ancients once reminded us: "When you see fire, beware of fire; when you see people, beware of thieves." Some people deduce from this ancient saying: "When you see the opposite sex, beware of gangsters." If you have this frightening thought in your mind, you will be afraid of it. Think: "I can't be with him..." In this way, you will never have friends of the opposite sex. Didn't the ancients also have the famous saying "If you don't enter the tiger's den, how can you get the tiger's cubs" to persuade people to move forward bravely?

2. Semi-suggestion method

The characteristic of the "semi-suggestion method" is that although the courtier does not explicitly say "I love you", the courtship message is stronger than the "suggestion method". "Clear and requires the party receiving the information to respond quickly. For example, in the current situation where the relationship between men and women in our country is not very casual, buying movie tickets, concert tickets, etc. to invite the other person to go out to watch together; inviting the other person to go for a walk or outing with you alone can generally mean Courting each other. In life, when one party is in love with another party but does not know whether the other party is also interested in him or her, it is advisable to adopt this semi-suggestion method. It can be used as a way to ask for directions, or it can also be the first to express your attachment to the other person. A pair of intimates who originally dared not express their opinions can get on track in a relaxed way.

3. Congeniality is legal

Between men and women in love, their conversation is no longer a tool to convey information. The content of the conversation is not important to the lovers, and more importantly The important thing is the act of speaking itself, the burst of laughter and the look in one's eyes that accompany the lover's love words, all of which bring pleasure and joy to the other person. This feature is the special communication function of love words. What it values ????is not the meaning of language, but the feelings and the soul. For lovers, listening to the beauty and voice of the person they like slowly echoing in their ears is fun and happiness in itself. Everyone likes people who agree with them. When you tell the other person about the same experiences or ideas between you and him, the other person will naturally become closer to you. The topic brought the two people closer together, making them even more sympathetic.

4. The truth is revealed in conversation

The art of speaking plays an important role in any situation, and it is even more important in the marriage and love scene. To understand the right person, you must talk more. This is the so-called The method of "discussing and seeing the truth". The love process of young people is sweet and poetic. Moreover, once young people fall in love, they will often idealize and idolize the person, thinking that he or she is as dazzling as the sun in the sky and as bright as the fifteenth moon. Just as flawless. This is the "halo" effect that often occurs in the process of love. However, falling in love and getting married are, after all, a real life. Marriages that fall in love at first sight and get married in a hurry will most likely fail. Only by understanding each other deeply in the process of love and interaction, and achieving heart-to-heart correspondence, can we have a happy and fulfilling life. Life.

5. Love at first sight method

Love at first sight, in short, is a love affair that occurs immediately based on a good impression mentioned intuitively. In this "first meeting", the decisive factor is the image and impression of both parties, such as appearance, demeanor, speech, etc. According to Greek mythology, men and women were one in the early days, and it was God who divided human beings into male and female. From now on, everyone will have their own original form of beauty, and they will be looking for their own possessions in this world. And this search is usually completed by a strong impact on the soul. Thus, love at first sight often produces the most intense happiness. In fact, first love conversation is a complex art. There is nothing "specified" about the conversation about love at first sight. It is difficult to say what should be said. Moreover, people with different levels, different occupations, different cultural accomplishments, and different temperaments and personalities have different ways of expressing themselves.

6. Calligraphy of Hongyan Zhuan

Love letters are a way of communicating feelings and a means of expressing love. It can be said that it is the "swan goose of emotion" and the "angel of love".

Although lovers may write love letters with thousands of words or just a few words, not everyone's love letters can communicate emotions, deepen understanding, and build a bridge of love. People who are not good at writing love letters will write as soon as they start writing, and even fill the page with kisses and kisses, which sometimes scares away lovers. Love letters should be sincere and should not be flashy. Love letters are about writing feelings, and the most important thing is to move people with feelings. "To touch people's hearts, love first". Reading a novel once may be enough, but a love letter can be read endlessly. The key lies in "being moved by emotion".

7. The method of borrowing things to express feelings

If love is the most beautiful flower in the world, then the endless love words between young men and women in love are on this beautiful flower of love. Strings of dewdrops. The language of love, like the colorful love life of young people, is full of endless charm. Yes, the endless love words are charming and endless. However, sometimes lovers feel a deep pain, and they cannot find the right words to express their feelings for their lovers. They feel that words are too poor and limited compared with the rich feelings that flow like a tide in their hearts. At this time, lovers look for another language and another way to express their passion.

This method of expressing love is especially suitable for those introverted and shy lovers. Although you are in love, you don't dare to express it boldly. At this time, you can use your brain to find a unique way. You don't have to say passionate words such as "I love you", but you can also let the other person understand your feelings in a relaxed atmosphere. With good intentions, why not do it?

8. Endearing address

Appellations are often the conductor of two people’s feelings. Every couple hopes to hear the endearment, nickname or other endearment from each other. title. A simple title, it is a ruler to measure the distance of interpersonal relationships. The love relationship between opposite sexes is the most natural and closest relationship among human beings. The names used by lovers can reflect the subtle relationship between the two people's world. First of all, the change of title marks the change of "love concentration". There is a natural development process for young men and women from acquaintance to mutual understanding and then to love each other.

This development process can not only be seen from the hints of the eyes of both parties, but also the changes in the names of both parties will reveal the secret of love. But some of our young people have not paid attention to this. . He called his sweetheart shorter and shorter, calling him "Comrade Wang Xiaoli" when they first met, "Wang Xiaoli" when they became acquaintances, "Xiaoli" when they became friends, "Li" when they were passionately in love, but once they got married, he simply called her This word is also omitted. "Hey, come on," "Hey,..." are really uncomfortable to hear, and will obviously affect the relationship between the two people.

9. White "Lang" with empty gloves

Although there is smoke and smoke all around, strong wolves are looking around everywhere. But it is not easy for young female wolf statues to obtain a wishful wolf king. Once they have a good target, fighting for it will not be easy, they can be achieved with ordinary moves. First, watch your own eyes. But don't go all out when you see the one you like. Be careful and go too far. "Falling flowers are intentional and flowing water is ruthless", which will make you the butt of laughter and ruin your reputation. Then, look into his heart. Girls are the most attentive, and they always have feelings about whether he is good or bad.

Some boys are timid, and some boys have been injured. The sentence "boys should take the initiative" has harmed many good sisters. It's okay to be generous and proactive and confess to him first. But: Don’t show your teeth and show your claws. Don't care too much about him. If you care too much about him, you will lose your composure; if you care too much about him, you will lose your confidence; if you care too much about him, you will be reserved. People are always like that. The more people are nervous about him, the more arrogant he becomes. You won't believe it even if you say "you won't marry unless you are the king". Boys chase girls with great effort; girls chase boys with endless twists and turns. Once the piece of paper is pierced one day, everyone will be happy, sad and frustrated, which is unpredictable.

10. Praise your partner

"Praise" is very useful in the love scene. It may be just a word of praise to make the person you like have a good impression of you, and move from secret love to open love. . If you are already in a relationship, praising your partner from time to time will greatly increase your relationship, which is really a good way. However, praise must be done in a way, otherwise it will backfire. You are most afraid of praising something that others think is a shortcoming. For example, if the other person is fat, you say that the other person has a good figure; if the other person's handwriting is not elegant, you say If the other person writes well, they will only think you are sarcastic. Therefore, you should think clearly before complimenting someone and base it on facts.