The "bad boys" in the village can almost always get a wife, but the honest young people waiting for marriage are more likely to be single. Why?
"Bad boys" are not "scumbags"
As the old saying goes: "If a man is not bad, women will not love him." The "bad" referred to here is not really "bad to the point of scum", such as having bad habits such as "all five poisons" and not having the responsibility of a man. For such a "really bad" boy, even if he marries a wife at that time, he may not necessarily have a happy marriage or live a long life, and he is also likely to be single. We can also see such examples in life. After all, girls like "bad boys" and subconsciously hope to find a husband. This does not mean that girls like "scumbags". It's just that "scumbag men" also have a shallow level of emotional intelligence. They know more about how to please girls, but have no sense of responsibility, morality and kindness. As a result, some women are easily attracted to the "teaching" of scumbag men and suffer. Beginning with chaos and ending with abandonment.
Such bad things happen so often in marriages that some boys with high emotional intelligence are known as "scumbags". It can be seen from this that the "badness" of "bad boys" is not the true badness of scumbags. It's just that compared to the honest boy, he is a little more cunning, he likes girls, and he better achieves the thing of "women should be flattered by their appearance", so that girls can't help but like them, so that they can better achieve their wishes. Tie the knot.
Some reasons why almost all the "bad boys" in the village get married
Based on the family conditions of all rural boys, our village and what I know about life, It is true that almost all "bad boys" can get a wife, and some "bad boys" are more handsome, and some girls will "woo them". This shows that it is much easier for "bad boys" to get a wife. The reason is that "bad boys" have some characteristics, such as high emotional intelligence. People with high emotional intelligence get along with others. They are well-spoken and considerate of each other, meet their emotional needs, etc. This is called liking the other person, which will increase the relationship with the woman. It is very easy to be "bad" enough to make the woman like it. Establish a relationship with girls as boyfriend and girlfriend. Of course, this only shows that these boys have high emotional intelligence. If the "bad boys" can show better emotional intelligence such as being responsible, responsible, and kind-hearted, then it can greatly encourage girls to marry them. With determination, marriage becomes a big part of it.
After all, women are more emotional than men. As the old saying goes: "A woman should look good to please herself", which already expresses part of the characteristics of women. Now that people can fall in love freely, which woman wouldn’t want to find a man who is considerate, responsible, and kind as a lifelong partner? Although material conditions are also important, for women, especially girls of the right age to get married, when they yearn for love, they marry someone who knows both coldness and warmth, not cold money, which cannot be obtained. When it comes to ideal love, material conditions will be secondly considered. For boys who also come from rural areas, their family material conditions are similar. Women consider them more for their personal "ability", that is, their ability to live comfortably together. The so-called "bad" is not only the emotional needs of women, but also can show a person's high emotional intelligence. In a person's life, having high emotional intelligence is not a bad thing. How can girls not like it?
Some reasons why honest people in the village become bachelors
Most honest people are not sociable and are prone to miss out on marriages. As a result, when there are more men than women, it is easy for them to become singles. Become a leftover man. As far as Mingliang is concerned in the village, his height is average, his appearance cannot be said to be ugly, and he is definitely not handsome. His family conditions are in the middle and upper reaches of the village. He has bought a commercial house in the county and has a car. His parents are young and hard-working, and his family conditions are still good. good. However, Guangming's heart is just like his name is too bright. Everyone in the village knows that he is a good old man, fastidious and hard-working. These advantages cannot make up for his embarrassment in getting along with girls. Everyone in the village knew that he met a girl five or six years ago. When they met for the first time, he "brightly" said that he was still a "virgin" and asked the girl if it was the first time she had a boyfriend.
You can imagine how this nerve-wracking exchange will end. This is still the reason why Mingliang himself told others about his failed blind dates. Do you think he is too "Minggliang"?
Someone gave him some advice: next time he meets a girl, he should be "honest" and speak in a measured manner. Now it's better. When he met the girl, Mingliang became a stuffy gourd. He didn't say anything and finally let it go. Some people say that he is too honest and that when interacting with girls, he has to be sweet-tongued and appropriately "bad". They tell him the wise saying that "if boys are not bad, girls will not love them." But the next time he went on a blind date, he still messed up. When he came back, he complained a little about the person who taught him. According to the meaning of "bad", he saw the girl smiling at him and kissed the girl without any explanation when no one was around. As a result, the girl I slapped him and called him a scoundrel, and then he was so frightened that he stopped asking girls out! In short, his peers had taught him a lot about various techniques for talking about girlfriends, but Mingliang just couldn't use them flexibly based on the facts and always made mistakes. So now that Mingliang is in his 30s, he has hired many matchmakers from all over the country and has paid a lot of money for introductions. He is still alone, which is a headache for his parents.
So you see, the "bad boys" in rural areas have the innate advantage of interacting with girls, which can more effectively promote their marriage and get out of singles; while the honest boys, in the interactions between men and women, due to their own The reason is that you can't understand the girl's meaning, or you can't please the girl, and there will be various "obstacles" in interacting with girls. So, when there are more boys than girls in rural areas, honest boys, even if their family conditions are better, are not as "bad boys" as favored by girls! This shows that regarding the marriage between men and women, it is important for boys to learn to interact with girls. Therefore, honest boys in rural areas should not be "too honest" when interacting with girls, but should be more confident, talk to girls more, and show their strengths, even if it is to "practice courage". Let the girl you like see your own advantages as early as possible, such as being honest and reliable, responsible, kind, loving, and able to make money, etc. If a girl you are destined to find that you have many advantages and likes them very much, it is not impossible that she will pursue you. It will be very easy to get divorced when marriage comes.