The best way is to see a psychologist for three months' medical consultation.
It is a common experience for human beings to feel nervous and anxious because they expect too much from what they care about. It is understandable that they feel depressed and anxious when they fail and try again and the result is unknown. However, the degree of anxiety varies from person to person, and personality characteristics and psychological quality are different. I think the reason why your current emotional state appears may be that you are an anxious personality, or that you care too much and are too eager for success. Often, high activity will lead to high anxiety. And excessive anxiety will affect your ability to solve problems. If it is because of personality, it is not easy to change. Rome was not built in a day. The formation of personality is not achieved overnight, and the change of personality is not achieved overnight. However, you can learn some skills to relax yourself. If you are eager for success, I suggest you change your attitude and "do your best and let nature take its course." Do what you should do, and do it wholeheartedly. As for the result, it is not your subjective desire to force it. If you pay too much attention to the results, it will be counterproductive.
The pace of life is too fast, and the brain is often tense, so I dare not relax at all, for fear that I will be surpassed by others as soon as I relax. However, unnecessary mental stress not only does not help, but also makes people make wrong decisions in tension. Therefore, you should avoid being overly nervous. Here are a few tips to help you get rid of your nervousness.
1. Get rid of the habit of losing your temper.
If you want to lose your temper,
Try to restrain yourself for a while, and put your pent-up energy into doing something meaningful, such as cleaning the room, or playing ball games and taking a walk to calm your anger.
2. Modesty.
You can stick to what you think is right, but do it quietly and remember not to compete with others.
3. Do something for others.
If you feel nervous and uneasy, try to do something for others, and you will find that this kind of nervous and uneasy mood will be transformed into energy, which will make you feel happy to do good.
4. Do one thing at a time.
In a busy situation, the most reliable way is to do the most urgent thing first, put all your energy into it, do only one thing at a time, and put the rest aside for the time being.
5. Be tolerant of others.
Some people expect too much from others, and when they can't meet their own expectations, they will feel discouraged and disappointed. Therefore, remember not to expect too much from others' behavior, but to find their advantages and help them develop them.
6. Give others a chance to surpass themselves.
Competition is contagious. Giving others a chance to surpass themselves will not hinder your progress. Moreover, you will be driven by others to keep moving forward.
7. Make yourself "useful".
Many people feel looked down upon. It's just your imagination. It is you who look down on you, not others. Maybe others are eager for your excellent performance. Therefore, you should take the initiative instead of waiting for others to make demands on you.
In addition, in view of your nervous speech, consider the following points.
1. What makes you nervous?
Many reasons can make you feel nervous, such as: insufficient preparation before the speech, not much experience and so on. However, it must be noted that everyone must face this point and try to minimize this tension, which is the premise of sales expression, because only when you are not nervous can you complete a good sales expression.
2. Several effective ways to reduce the tension before expression.
How to reduce the tension before expression? If you are not familiar with the venue, you will be nervous; If you speak in a particularly familiar place, you won't be nervous. So where is the least nervous? I am the least nervous in my own home. Why? Everyone knows his home best. So to overcome the nervousness before the sales presentation, you can try the following methods:
Familiar with the venue. The more familiar you are with the venue, the less tense the atmosphere will be.
It is very important to arrive early. You and the trainees, if you arrive in advance, it means that you are the owner of this venue and the trainees are guests; If the students arrive first and you arrive late, then as a guest, you will be nervous accordingly.
◆ Before the speech begins, a simple communication with your classmates can also reduce your nervousness.
Familiar with all equipment and operate them one by one. Because a lot of equipment will be used during the speech, such as computer projector or whiteboard. If you are unfamiliar with these operations or have some obstacles, then it will also make you nervous.
◆ Self-motivation: cheer yourself up and establish such a belief in your mind that I can do it and I will succeed.
Take a deep breath before the speech. This is very important. Deep breathing can effectively adjust one's state of mind and relieve tense emotions.
Overcome nervousness, get familiar with the venue, make full preparations and arrive ahead of time. One of the most important factors is that you must come to the venue of your speech ahead of your audience, which is a very important premise. The success of sales speech and expression is related to whether you know and are familiar with the venue before, so one of the most effective ways to overcome the nervousness before sales expression is to arrive in advance. In addition, it should be added here that the purpose of arriving early is to familiarize yourself with the environment and equipment, not to read your teaching materials again, which should be paid special attention to.
Not talking is sometimes a wise choice (silence is golden! )。 If you don't talk, people don't know if you dare to talk or don't want to talk. So you should exercise your psychological endurance, facial expressions and even eyes. There is no need to be overjoyed on your face. It's hard to make such an expression. My advice is to be calm, but not dull. This requires an accusation of thought and aura. You should always keep a clear head, be active and be in a good mood. If you do these three things, you won't feel psychological pressure, timidity and nervousness, because the people and things around you have nothing to do with you, and the relationship is big or small. He can say whatever he wants. Of course, this also requires exercise.
* * Be sure to remember how sober you are, and think more is the best way to establish self-confidence, break through psychological barriers and highlight the aura.
I used to be in the same situation. When I give a speech or try to answer a question, my heart beats so hard that some answers I know are wrong because of nervousness. My words are intermittent, and what I said before is not coherent at all. Later, I graduated and took part in the work. I gradually face up to my bad habits and try to express my feelings in crowded places. At first, I only said a few short words, and then I will say more every time, so that I can speak slowly in front of many people, but I still have a little gap with others. I think this may be caused by my personality and long-term bad habits. I believe that it will gradually change through long-term efforts. I also believe that you can change. Through my own personal experience, I have summarized the following points, which may help you to change this situation:
Getting along with acquaintances at ordinary times and keeping positive contact can improve your self-confidence. You insist on taking the initiative every day instead of being knocked at your door every time, so your courage will gradually grow.