Procrastination is a common problem among people. Because everyone has the element of laziness in them, they always like to keep procrastinating things, from today to tomorrow, and from tomorrow to the day after tomorrow. This behavior may seem to have little impact, but in fact it is extremely harmful. Tomorrow comes tomorrow, and there are so many tomorrows; when the day comes, everything will be wasted. If you delay for too long, nothing will be accomplished.
Everyone has many things to do in his life and many plans to complete. If we could seize every opportunity conscientiously, make use of all available time, and strictly implement every plan, how great would our career achievements be! However, we failed to seize the opportunities we should have seized and failed to make good use of the time we should have used. As a result, we sat back and watched as our ideals could not be realized and our plans could not be completed. And the delay in tracking down the culprit was the fault. Speaking of which, success is not difficult. The fundamental reason why many people fail to succeed is that they just want to stop doing it, think too much and do too little, and just procrastinate.
Shanomen has always talked about writing a novel. He was full of excitement and said that he had thought of a good subject and if he wrote it, it would definitely be a sensation. He talked enthusiastically about his ideas and opinions to people. Everyone thought the idea was really good, so they asked him: "When do you plan to start writing?"
"Well, this, I have recently I'm quite busy, I'll wait until I finish my work," Sha Nomon said seriously.
Half a year later, when people saw Shanomen again, they asked him if the novel had been completed. Shanomen scratched his head and said, "I went on a trip a while ago. I will take a rest these days before writing." "
Another six months later, when people asked again, Shanomen had other reasons.
Everyone knows that Shanomen has committed the problem of procrastination again and does not have much hope for his book writing project. Sure enough, two years later, when someone saw Shanomen again, he still said: "Write after this period of time."
Many things, when we first decide to do it, are always right. It's full of enthusiasm. But due to the bad habit of procrastination, I always don’t do it right away. I postpone today until tomorrow, and tomorrow until the day after tomorrow. The result is often that I keep putting it off until I lose enthusiasm and interest in the matter, and finally let it go. Even if you procrastinate until you can no longer procrastinate and finish it, the effect will be very different. Doing something when you are full of interest and enthusiasm is not the same as doing it after the interest and enthusiasm disappear. The difficulty, pain and joy are not the same. Because when you are full of interest and enthusiasm, doing things is a kind of joy; but when the interest and enthusiasm disappear, doing things is a kind of pain.
If you put aside today’s things and want to do them tomorrow, in fact, the time and energy consumed in this kind of procrastination is enough to get that thing done. Everyone will find it unpleasant and annoying to deal with things that have been accumulated in the past! Things that were enjoyable and easy to do at first seem annoying and difficult after a few days or weeks of delay. Take receiving a letter as an example. It is easiest to reply immediately, but once you put it aside, it is difficult to pick up the pen again. For this reason, some companies have set rules: they must not wait until the next day to respond to any letter.
Having a plan but not executing it will make it disappear in vain, which will also have a negative impact on our own character and strength. Having a plan and working hard to execute it builds our character and strength. Having a plan is nothing but putting it into practice is valuable.
We all know that for writers and artists, extremely important inspiration is fleeting. Only by capturing and reproducing it in time can we achieve excellent works. When inspiration flashes, if we blindly Procrastination will cause the spark of inspiration to disappear completely: a magical and wonderful impression suddenly strikes an artist's mind like lightning, but if he does not immediately pick up the brush and display the immortal impression on the canvas, the final painting will be The magical pictures will gradually disappear from his mind! A vivid and strong image or concept suddenly flashes into a writer's mind, giving him an irresistible impulse to write. However, he does not write immediately and delays it. As a result, the image will gradually become blurred. , fade, and eventually disappear entirely!
Cervantes said: "If you take the street of 'Wait a while', you will go to the house of 'Never'!" This is really a wise saying.
So, how to overcome procrastination? There is no other good way. The only way is to do it immediately. An extra minute of delay is enough to make things harder.
Therefore, you should try to break the habit of procrastination.
1. Determine whether this matter must be done. Sometimes we feel that a task is not important, so we procrastinate on it. If the work really isn't important, cancel it; if it's important, do it now.
2. Know the significance of this matter. We often procrastinate because we don’t see the point in completing a task—that is, the cost to us in completing the task seems to outweigh the benefits we get from doing the work. The best way to deal with this problem is to analyze the work from the perspective of your own goals and ideals. If you have a big goal, it's easier to find the energy to do the work that will help you achieve it.
3. Develop the habit of acting vigorously and resolutely. If you have a problem with procrastination, you need to retrain yourself and replace this bad habit with a good one. Whenever you find that you have a tendency to procrastinate, stop and think about it, determine the direction of your action, and then think about the fastest time to complete the task, set a deadline, and then work hard to comply. Gradually, your work patterns will change, and the negative work pattern of procrastination will be replaced by the positive work pattern of doing it right away.
Never "ask for nothing"
If you want to do things, relying on one person's strength is often not enough. At this time, it is necessary to ask others for help. As the saying goes, the emperor still has time to ask for help. No one can survive independently of others. No matter how capable you are, you have to admit that you will have to ask for help in some areas. If you put too much emphasis on personal abilities, never ask for help even if you encounter failure, and resolutely do not rely on others, it will not only be difficult to succeed in things, but also leave a narrow-minded impression on others.
It must be admitted that everyone’s strength, ability and intelligence are limited, and they cannot be perfect. There are always areas where they are inferior to others in some aspects. When you are incapable and need help from others, you should humbly ask others for advice.
However, many people regard themselves as aloof and cannot lower their heads. They always feel that relying on others makes them feel like they are being given alms, which is damaging to their own image. Many people flaunt this head-high philosophy of "asking for nothing from others" as an "excellent" "character", thinking they are self-righteous and capable. As everyone knows, to put it bluntly, these people lack a kind of tolerance. Because of this, it is difficult for their own talents to be greatly improved, and it is difficult to achieve anything in the end.
Abandoning personal heroism and learning to ask others for help will not only enable you to develop faster and better, but also show your super popularity.
Behavioral scientists have found that most successful people often have the virtue of humility, can maintain a low profile, learn from others humbly, and constantly improve themselves and improve themselves, which often makes them appear to be inferior to others. Others are smarter, more intelligent and talented. Therefore, everyone should cultivate the tolerance of relying on others and develop the character of asking for help from others. This is very important for the development of career.
Stephen is a salesperson in the marketing department of a company. He has been feeling particularly upset recently because he has been ranked below Slina in the performance evaluation form for four consecutive months. Stephen was very unconvinced. He thought that he had worked as hard as Slina and had more seniority than Slina. How could he fall behind this little girl who had been in the company for less than three years? Why is Slina's customer resources nearly twice as many as hers?
Stephen was puzzled, but he refused to condescend to ask Slina for advice, thinking that this would hurt the face of an old salesman. So, he tried every means to enter Slinna's computer system and check her customer distribution, but was discovered by Slinna. Slinna immediately issued a serious warning: If this continues, don’t blame me for not taking care of your senior’s face! The relationship between the two became very tense.
Stephen has made a lot of efforts, but his performance is still not as good as Slina's. He calmed down and thought about it carefully, and it suddenly dawned on him: Today's young people have a straightforward personality. As long as I can let go of my airs and not be ashamed to ask questions, she may be able to clear up her past suspicions and tell me the skills to develop customer resources. Once the problem was figured out, Stephen felt much more relaxed. He specially invited Ms. Slina to dinner and sincerely asked for advice. This made Slina embarrassed. She said: "My attitude towards you was a bit too much in the past. Please forgive me." Then she talked about some of her experience in marketing: "Actually, it's nothing. It's just that I read a lot and surf the Internet a lot. , comprehend quickly and make greater progress.
In marketing, developing customers is one way, but revitalizing old customers is more important, because old customers feel your integrity and friendliness, and they will attract their relatives and friends to become your new customers. I specially prepared a notebook to record the client's special situation and pay attention to the details, such as visiting his child who had just entered a certain university in that place during a business trip, such as sending a gift to his parents and picking some flowers for him. Bringing it to the elderly... I never think that this is something other than work. On the contrary, to do this work, you must have the spirit of "kung fu is outside of things". I have set up a birthday file for each of my old customers. When it is their birthday, I will personally make an exquisite greeting card and send it to them with a small gift. Many customers were deeply moved when they received it and called to express their gratitude..."
After hearing this, Stephen suddenly realized. In his future work, he also used these tricks, and his performance increased rapidly. Even more gratifying is that his relationship with Slina has become more friendly and the cooperation is more pleasant.
From another perspective, if you are someone. As an expert in a field or a person with a successful career, when someone asks you for advice, you should also show a broad mind, actively and conscientiously answer questions, and teach methods. Never be afraid that others will learn from your experience and methods. Go ahead and catch up with yourself and refuse to give others a chance to ask for advice. Similarly, if someone offends you or even causes you harm, you should also be generous and tolerant when he asks you for help. . If you are willing to help others and support new people, you will win the respect of others, and others will repay you at the appropriate time in the future. This is the saying "give something to others first."
Today’s society has long stepped out of the circle of self-sufficient small-scale peasant economy and embarked on the path of globalization. Today, no one, any family, or any country can survive unless they rely on others. That’s for sure. It doesn't work. If you hold on to the creed of not asking for help, you will only make yourself unsuccessful in everything. In this case, asking others for advice and help should be a common practice in life and work. It does not involve anything to save face. . If someone still holds his head high and "does not ask for help in everything", not only will it be difficult for him to succeed, but his relationship with his relatives, friends and colleagues will also be less harmonious due to his "arrogance" and stubbornness, which will close the door for everyone to cooperate with him.
In fact, most of the time, others are very willing to help us, because it means that we trust and respect them. But at the same time, many people are hesitant to offer help. , worried about meeting people who "don't ask for anything". So, when we need help and others are ready to help us, why can't we say: "Help my brother!" ”