hamlet: I won't allow your enemies to say such things about you, so I don't want to hear you say such harsh words. I know you're not an escapist.

Hamlet Act I Scene II

He Ruixiu is Hamlet's closest friend. He is not only young and promising, but also a learned man. But his bad habit is that he likes to belittle himself. When He Ruixiu said this, Hamlet immediately refuted his statement. Hamlet wanted to show that He Ruixiu always belittled himself, which was unfair to him.

We sometimes have the same emotions as He Ruixiu. Even a person with a calm personality will have a great emotional gap, and sometimes we will belittle ourselves and look down on ourselves unconsciously. Even Shakespeare was frustrated at times: "Why is my poem boring?"? Not even the slightest change? "

How you think of yourself will affect others' views of you to a greater or lesser extent. As for your description of your strengths and weaknesses, it will determine others' impressions of you to a certain extent.

our ultimate goal is to build a reliable image, consistent from the inside out. To some extent, modesty is a virtue, and everyone can accept it. But once modesty is overdone and self-deprecation, the consequences will be as bad as bragging. It is even more impossible to hope that others will object to your modesty.

some people just have this bad habit, and you can detect it when you meet them for the first time. They say, "I may not be right to do this, but …" or, "I may not have a bright brain, but in my opinion …" It is hard for them to find this problem themselves. Obviously, this habit is deeply rooted.

what would you think if everyone else said that about you? Needless to say, anyone is very angry in the face of this situation.

remember, it's no good demeaning yourself. Charming people will never demean themselves in front of others. Otherwise, you add a burden to the people around you, and they have to say something encouraging. Worst of all, they also saw some hidden shortcomings in you.

don't demean yourself and become your terrible enemy. Even if you are joking, don't underestimate yourself.