What do you mean? It's simple.
If you want to be a gentleman, you will suffer a lot, and at the same time, you should be willing to bear these losses, and don't feel great. This is that a gentleman is willing to be a gentleman.
What is the villain like? , that is, people who often shout the word "grievance". For example, when we saw two people quarreling and asked why after stopping, one of them said anxiously, "How wronged he was, how hard he worked …" and put all the blame on the other side, then this person is undoubtedly a villain.
Confucius said many things, many of which are now considered to be the most famous sayings. One of them is: rhetoric makes color less than benevolence, and a gentleman is quick to go and get it. Benevolence is the core of Confucius' thought and the goal of cultivating people. People who have a glib tongue like to say some sweet words, talk nonsense to everyone, and like to say something nice. This solemn behavior is getting farther and farther away from "benevolence". A real gentleman can't talk much, but he is always a doer who acts silently and thinks that what he does is always better than what he says. Don't pretend to work hard, life won't accompany you in acting, only by doing it in a down-to-earth way will you have a good result.
Let's take a look at all aspects of education in our society, or that parents' education for their children is getting farther and farther away from the word "benevolence". Some scholars often lament that people's hearts are not ancient, but it is true.
Each of us hopes that the friends we make are more gentlemen, because when dealing with gentlemen, you will be very comfortable and relaxed, and you will not be stabbed in the back by friends, so you must have a pair of eyes that can distinguish each other's personality.
One of the criteria is to see what this person says: listen to what he says and see what he does.
When a good friend of yours is eloquent and lazy, you should stay away from this kind of person. Because this kind of person will drag you down sooner or later. Because this kind of person is a villain, he will suddenly stab you in the back when you are not paying attention.