Many things, when you have them, they don’t hurt or itch and you don’t care. Only after losing it do you know how to cherish and regret it.

01 Treat your parents well and be more careful

Filial piety is the first of all good deeds. Being filial to your parents is the greatest good deed a person can do. Honoring your parents means being careful.

What parents care about is not material enjoyment, but the attention that children pay to their parents, which is reflected in the details of their lives. It’s best to cook a few dishes that your parents like and take them home when you have time.

Be attentive everywhere, accompany you attentively, turn filial piety into actions, and make your parents’ life comfortable.

Zeng Guofan is a famous filial son in history.

Although, he ran away from home all year round and did not have much time with his parents. But the distance between them did not affect Zeng Guofan's filial piety.

Whether he was on the way to Beijing or during his official career in Beijing, he never delayed writing letters to his parents. Moreover, the content of the letter was almost trivial.

Zeng Guofan said in a letter to his family: "Every old man in the hall must explain it one by one, and it is more troublesome than anything."

In other words, the more detailed the words and the more detailed the things, the better we can understand our parents' situation.

To be filial to your parents, you should be cautious and observe and understand your parents’ true feelings through words and deeds.

In order to be filial to our parents, we need to understand their real needs. True filial piety is to make your parents feel comfortable taking care of you.

My parents are getting older, their hands and feet are not flexible, and their thinking is not active. When faced with things they cannot understand, we must be patient and explain to them slowly.

No matter how old your parents are, as children, taking care of them requires some patience. Especially when our parents are old, we need to be a hundred times more patient.

Be kind to your parents and don’t get angry or face their nagging. We should know that behind parents’ nagging is concern and concern for their children.

02 Be kind to your parents and set a good example

I heard a story about a family with three people, three generations.

One day, the father said to his son: "You see that your grandfather is old and frail. He is of no use in the world. He lies in bed every day and eats and uses our food. Why don't you He threw it into the deep mountains and forests."

In the middle of the night, the father and son put the grandfather in a basket and carried him to the edge of the mountain.

When he was about to throw it down, his son said: "Dad, we just need to throw away the people, why do we also throw away the baskets?"

The father was very angry. Said: "What do you know, you kid? Why do you need this broken basket when you don't even want me?"

The son said: "If you throw away this basket, my son and I will use it in the future." What brought you here?"

When my father heard this, he was astonished, as if he had woken up from a dream. He quickly ordered his son to carry the old man home so that he could be supported by his family, and he would not dare to act unfilial again.

This story tells us the principle of karma and retribution. If we are not filial to our parents, our children will follow our example and will not be filial to us when they grow up.

Lambs still know how to kneel to breastfeed, which means that lambs have to kneel down to eat their mother’s milk.

If a person does not know how to be filial to his parents who have worked hard to raise him and are so kind to him, then he has lost the conscience he should have as a human being and lost his basic moral character.

Just imagine, a person who doesn’t even care about his parents, how can the children he educates be filial to him?

So, as parents, every move we make must be filial to him. Leave a good example to your children.

03 Treat your parents well and leave no regrets

Having a child who wants to be raised but still has to be loved is definitely the greatest gift from God.

My colleague Zhang’s mother is terminally ill, and she suddenly felt like her sky was falling.

When she thought that her mother, who loved her most, was leaving her, she couldn't help but burst into tears.

She once said to us more than once: "The best thing in this world for me is my mother. If I can stay with her for two more years, it will shorten my life by a few years. I am willing to do so."

Every time I hear this, I can't help but feel sour. Just hearing about this kind of thing is already very sad. I really can’t imagine what will happen to me on the day I face it?

However, there are many things in this world that just don’t go as expected. We can't die on our parents' behalf, just like our parents couldn't die on our behalf when we were young.

Sister Zhang is an only child. Her father is big-hearted and unreliable. She usually doesn’t even dare to leave the child to him. My husband works out of town, and my parents-in-law can’t count on him.

She is busy with work and relies entirely on her old mother to help her take her children to school. Make a meal for the two of them at noon, so that the daughter can have a hot meal when she gets home from get off work, and can rest for a while afterward.

On weekdays, the old lady is reluctant to eat well and buy good clothes. The pension she saves is used to support her daughter's family.

In recent years, life has just improved greatly, and Sister Zhang has also been promoted. The old man who was supposed to enjoy happiness was unfortunately diagnosed with a terminal illness. It was really like "the son wanted to support him, but the family did not wait for him".

So, while your parents are still young and still alive, spend more time with them. Don’t always use busy work and no time as an excuse. Don't just say Happy Mother/Father's Day in the circle of friends all day long, and they don't live in the circle of friends.