Read on 2022.2.14

? Former United Nations Secretary-General Hammarskj?ld once said a thought-provoking famous saying: "It is better to devote yourself completely to one person than to save the world. And work hard."

I think the meaning of this sentence is that no matter how great a person is in appearance, he may not be able to get along well with his wife, children or colleagues. Because serving the group is far less than establishing personal relationships and requires more personality cultivation. Disagreements at the top leadership level are very common in various organizations. Partners fight openly and covertly, and the chairman and general manager undermine each other. No matter how big the business is, immediate problems cannot be solved. It can be seen that the closer the interpersonal relationship is, the more difficult it is to maintain it.

? I remember when I first read this passage, my best assistant and I were troubled by our unclear understanding of each other, but we just couldn’t muster up the courage to discuss our roles and goals with him. Especially differences in management styles. I had to compromise and dare not touch on the core issue for fear of causing a fierce conflict, but the relationship between the two became deeper and deeper. Later, I saw this famous quote, which inspired me to try to improve the relationship with this assistant. I strengthened my will because this was an extremely difficult matter. He seems to be a strong and stubborn person, but I need to rely on his talent and perseverance, but I am afraid of angering him, thus losing a good helper. After rehearsing many times in my mind, I finally mastered a few principles. After our formal conversation, we discovered that he had gone through the same struggle and was eager to have a heart-to-heart talk with me. Our completely different management styles left the whole company at a loss, but we finally admitted that the problem existed. After several rounds of communication, we discussed the issues on the table and solved them one by one. Afterwards, we became close friends and cooperated seamlessly.

? It can be seen that one-to-one relationship is the most basic element of life, and it depends on a noble personality to maintain it. Mere skill in managing the affairs of others is not enough. This experience also taught me another important perspective, which is the attitude towards facing problems. I waste time in order to avoid problems and avoid conflicts. If parents regard their children's problems as opportunities to strengthen family ties, they will not feel irritated and disgusted. In the same way, the corporate world can win customer loyalty by paying attention to customers' problems.

After establishing the concept of emotional accounts, I further realized that some habits are indispensable for successful interpersonal relationships, which are the habits of successfully cooperating with others!