1. Only fools turn around when they hit a nail; smart people learn to behave when they see others suffer.

Appreciation: The difference between fools and smart people is that smart people can learn to summarize from other people's experiences and stories, so that they can avoid detours and make wrong decisions, while fools do not have such understanding.

2. Try to ignore success or failure as much as possible, just try to do your best and feel no regrets.

Appreciation: As the saying goes, people make plans and God makes things happen. This means that as long as we work hard and do our best to realize our dreams, no matter what the result is, we should not care too much and feel no regrets. That’s it.

3. People who have not experienced acute pain will not have deep and broad sympathy.

Appreciation: Fu Lei and his wife told Fu Cong that people's mind is often related to experience. For example, sympathy is not deeply felt in the hearts of ordinary people, but for people who have experienced profound pain, You will feel the same way and become more compassionate.

4. Not getting carried away by victory is the best evidence of strength.

Appreciation: This sentence can be called a wise saying. After winning a victory, many people often relax their vigilance and make major mistakes, leading to irreparable results. The more victorious the moment, The more we need to be vigilant and introspective.

5. The greatness of motherhood lies not in reason, but in that kind of intuitive emotion.

Appreciation: We often praise the greatness of maternal love, so why is maternal love so great? I believe that many people will say the word selfless. Although it is true, the really great thing is that maternal love is an intuition, not out of rational thinking, but out of an instinctive reaction.

6. My child, a terrible enemy is not necessarily a ferocious-looking one. A friendly and passionate friend can sometimes waste a lot of your precious time.

Appreciation: In Fu Lei’s book, this sentence gave me a deep understanding. In our lives, we will encounter many enemies. We often define enemies too narrowly, and some things cost too much. A lot of the time, these things are also our enemies, such as friendship. We have made many friends, but how many are truly of quality? Such enemies are not easy to arouse alertness, and we need to understand and identify them ourselves.

7. Since we live in a world of money, we must control money well so as not to be enslaved by money.

Appreciation: I very much agree with Fu Lei and his wife. Many people are labeled as misers, but in fact, in our lives, money is inseparable. This medium of exchange of goods is needed, and money can also make our lives better. Therefore, we need to learn to manage money and control it so that it can serve us but not be enslaved by it.

8. Don’t be arrogant when you are right, and be forgiving when you are right.

Appreciation: As the saying goes, be merciful to others. Our lives are full of setbacks and sufferings. Therefore, we should have a broad mind and a tolerant heart and be a responsible person. A big-hearted person.

9. As long as a person is sincere, he can always impress others; even if people don’t understand him at the moment, they will understand him in the future.

Appreciation: Fu Lei told his son that being a human being requires sincerity. This is the basis for interacting with others. I strongly agree. The same is true in our lives. If we want to make some real friends, we must be sincere to each other. , and the sincere heart will be understood and felt by people sooner or later.

10. Abandonment without fighting is hypocritical, detachment without suffering is frivolous, a wise man who escapes from reality is cowardly; moderation, contentment, and petty wisdom are our fatal wounds. .

Appreciation: I like this sentence in Fu Lei’s book very much. In our lives, many people think that they have high emotional intelligence, but in fact, they just inherited part of the golden mean. They are just thoughts, little wisdom and little wisdom. Their abandonment, detachment, and self-preservation are nothing but hypocrisy. They cannot stand the test of time and morality, and these are our fatal wounds.

11. Fu Lei’s reading notes from home letters

Fu Lei’s love for his son is deep

“Dear child, the day after you left, I wanted to write a letter. I'm afraid you'll find it annoying, so that's it. But I don't miss you every day. I wake up at six or seven in the morning, tossing and turning, and I can't explain why. It's like Christophe's mother is alone at home, thinking about her child. The images of childhood scenes are the same. Your mother and I always think about your little stories from when you were two or three to six or seven years old."

The previous sentence is excerpted from "Fu Lei Family Letters", which was written by Mr. Fu Lei. His son Fu Cong's. From the above sentence, we can see Fu Lei's deep love for his son between the lines. For my son who has grown up, I hope that he will thrive and develop outwards, but I cannot bear to let my child stay away from me. In fact, parents are like this. From pregnancy in eight months to delivery in October, parents work hard to nurture their children step by step, in order to hope that their children will be useful and will not live on the streets in the future. However, when children become talented, it is also the time to leave the roof and fly alone. As a parent, I am both happy and sad for them. After all, it is a matter of flesh and blood.

As we should appreciate and understand the painstaking efforts of our parents, let them see what they want to see - our happy life, which can be regarded as repaying our parents for their hard work in raising us

12. Fu Lei to his son Encouragement

"As far as the performance is concerned, I think it is generally very good. It is done in one go, full of energy, and the details are very delicate. There are indeed many changes in tonecolour. We were all very happy and moved after listening to it. Good boy, I really should give you a few words of praise. Looking back on the time when I just returned to Shanghai from Kunming in April 1999, you really made it from the bottom to the mountainside. I hope you will pay attention to your overall cultivation from now on and you will definitely be able to climb to the top in the future. ."

This is what Teacher Fu Lei said to his son after listening to his son Fu Cong's recording. This includes Teacher Fu's detailed analysis and objective appreciation of his son's recording. And later he mentioned his hope for his son. This is the way parents educate their children. It should not only reflect your affirmation of your children, but also give them the determination to work hard and the confidence that they will succeed. On the other hand, they also put forward their own hopes and pointed out the way forward and the direction of development for the children. As children, we should also learn from our parents' experiences on the path guided by our parents, and learn from each other's strengths to develop our own new path.

13. Fu Lei’s instructions

“In public groups, it is inevitable to catch up with tasks and hinder normal learning. I have expected this. Everything is for your own use. If you have a firm will and stand and fight for it tactfully and forcefully, how can you prepare to go abroad? - Especially in terms of music, I have been worried that from now on, everything will depend on you. Perseverance, faith and will - the will to practice."

Parents can't bear to be told by thousands of people. As a parent, my son has mixed feelings about how to deal with the ever-changing society. Use your own experience to remind your son to take the road of resentment less and take more shortcuts. This is what parents all over the world think. Children are the continuation of parents’ lives and the hope that holds up the sun in their hearts. Parents take detours and do not want their children to repeat the same mistakes. They hope that they can "go to a higher level" than themselves. As adolescents, we should let go of our rebellious mentality, listen to our parents' lessons, and understand their painstaking efforts. In fact, this is also for our own good and for our future life to be easier and happier.

14. Reflections on "Fu Lei's Family Letter"

I am grateful to have you - "Fu Lei's Family Letter". In your silent telling, I thrive.

Fengfeng family letters convey not only skills and etiquette, but also deep fatherly love. "But if you lack courage, just write to me and I can cheer you up. If you are in a bad mood, just talk to me honestly. I can comfort you and solve some big or small problems for you. Worry." I was deeply moved by Mr. Fu Lei's care for his children. Reading "Fu Lei's Family Letter", I thought of you, my father.

Outside the window, it is as dark as thick ink; inside the window, it is as bright as day. I was worrying about a math problem. The tip of my pen drew ink on the paper, and then I scratched it out hastily. This happened several times. I shook my head in annoyance. "Squeak -" the door opened quietly, and my father came to my side, sat down silently and watched, and then said to me: "Calm down, be careful, and be patient!" At this time, I remembered what Mr. Fu Lei once said to Fu Cong. : "When you are considering these many details, you must be calm and mentally calm. Don't be irritable or anxious." I calmed down, calmed down again, picked up the pen and started to check the calculations again. Finally, there was a bright future! I was delighted. Looking at his father with a little pride. The corners of his father's mouth turned up slightly: "Be careful, calm and patient in everything, and you will definitely succeed!" The incandescent lamp stood quietly on the table, emitting warm and soft light.

On the stage, all the lights converged in one place, and there was a dense crowd under the stage, noisy and noisy. My hand holding the bamboo flute became colder and colder, and I kept shaking nervously. Suddenly, a warm palm caressed my back, and a strong male voice sounded in my ears: "Don't be nervous! You have practiced it so many times, just treat it as if it were done again! You are enjoying it, not playing it. "Looking up, I met my father's deep gaze. "You might as well hum as much when reading the score and as little as possible when playing. Especially later on, when a piece of music is quite familiar, it is only suitable to 'sing silently' and hum it secretly in your head."

Fu Lei said Fu Cong, who is about to perform on stage, said the same thing. I think I can definitely listen to Mr. Fu Lei and my father! The tension in my heart melts like ice. I walked onto the stage, raised my bamboo flute, took a deep breath, and began to tell the story in a different way. There was no disturbance in the crowd, except for the notes whirling above the hall, deep and beautiful.

"Fu Lei Family Letter", I am grateful for you. Thank you for teaching me how to deal with others, and I understand that a father's love is so deep and warm! Father, I am grateful for you, who makes me brave in the journey of life. Take every step, because every step is filled with your deep and warm love!