Many people find out after retirement that their original friends are no longer friends simply because they retired!

Many so-called friends are tied up with interests. Once the rope is loosened, the friends will drift away with the wind!

True friends can share blessings and overcome adversity. It’s not that we don’t need friends, but that we need real friends.

The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. After retirement, your mind will be at peace, and you will live a quiet life. You may have as many friends as you want. You will be at peace with the situation, socialize less, throw away worries, have happy children and grandchildren, and live a long life.

I am not It was only when I retired that I discovered that not everyone can be friends with me, nor can I have a good time only by relying on friends. Unfriendly interpersonal relationships will only consume myself, waste time, and achieve nothing in the end.

Maybe it’s because I was the only child in my grandparents’ house since I was a child. I was sent to study in a foreign country when I was thirteen years old, and I was sent down to support myself when I was fifteen years old. I basically amused myself, and grew up to be a maverick. Later, after I took the exam and was assigned a job, I also liked to work alone.

I play all kinds of things by myself, and I am so dazzled by it that I feel like I don’t have enough time!

When I go to a strange city, I will wander around the streets and alleys, paying attention to all kinds of strange things: scenery, architecture, national costumes, snacks, handicrafts, customs, folk tunes...

< p> I also learned some skills without a teacher: I can play the harmonica, electronic keyboard, erhu, and guzheng. I can also have fun listening to music, singing, and dancing. I can also cut and sew, DIY, and paint oil paintings. I am good at decorating, wall painting, illustrations, comics, crocheting, and knitting, and my work skills are also handy: I ??can use PS, AI, Sai, PPT, print, scan, and copy... I also have to pay attention to color, flavor, shape, and appearance when cooking...

To be honest, I haven’t found any friends with whom I really share the same temperament. It would be great to find someone who knows one or two things and can play together! So when I play with a group of people, I often feel that the content is boring, but my personality is to try to accommodate others, so I feel that interpersonal relationships have become a burden to me.

I am not someone who just plays around without doing my job. Among my peers in the workplace, I have relatively high academic qualifications, professional titles, and salary. I have obtained two undergraduate degrees and four professional certificates. At work, it is also the type of revolution that moves bricks wherever they are needed.

But I feel like the workplace doesn’t like people like me: I can’t handle anything, I’m independent, I go my own way, I have principles, and I don’t explain myself. Unwilling to compromise and follow others' opinions, nor to flatter and follow the trend of others.

So I am often the center of jealous discussions. Many people seem to want to discover my shortcomings and find out what I am not good at, and then talk about them with great pleasure. For example: "If I were as capable as you, I wouldn't squat here!" "I think this unit will continue to work without you!" "I think XXX does better than you!" Of course I responded unceremoniously: " Isn’t it just like you that I stay here?” “I think the earth may rotate faster than you!” “Did I say I can do everything?”

Of course, most people are right. I admire and appreciate them all, and they call me "X talented person" behind their backs. The leader is also aware of my abilities and will "take care" of me even when no one else is doing difficult tasks. But for me, I just like to explore. Solving problems can satisfy my curiosity. Others may not be sure that I am like this.

I understand what I am like: I don’t like noisy environments, I will talk too much when alone with people I know well, and my tongue is not very sharp when I go to public places. I usually do my job easily, but I feel at a loss when someone is watching me.

So, for me, being alone makes me feel very relaxed. Too much human interaction makes me feel boring, draining, and tired.

I found a good job just a few years after I retired. The complicated interpersonal relationships in the workplace made me feel like I was reliving the nightmare. Later, I quit my job without hesitation and returned to my independent time. Later, I declined the boss's repeated invitations. To be honest, the boss thought I did a good job, and I also felt that I was capable of doing my job well.

But the reason I can’t explain is: I just don’t like to deal with people. I just like to do what I like quietly and independently.

I think that only when there is no self, no interest, and a weak heart, can environment-dependent people be unable to survive without friends.

Loneliness and independence are not the same concept. Loneliness is the passive alienation from the group, while independence is the initiative to stay away from the noise and noise.

Loneliness does not necessarily lead to Alzheimer’s disease. Nowadays, information is pervasive and communication channels are everywhere. As long as you don’t stop learning, exploring and thinking, you are not an isolated existence. On the contrary, if you interact indiscriminately, you will find that you have wasted a lot of precious time, affecting your ability to quietly appreciate the world and carefully discover the beauty around you during your lifetime.

This question is very meaningful and highly targeted. It expresses the common perception of retired elderly people.

There are ancient sayings that match the characteristics of life at all ages, such as those who stand up at thirty, those who are not confused at forty, those who know destiny at fifty, those who are sixty, those who are seventy, those who are seventy, and those who are eighty old.

The meaning is profound and there are not many words. In just a few words, the most common habits of people of different ages are clearly explained.

After retirement, most of the comrades, friends, and close friends at work, no matter how good they were, and no matter how close they were, will gradually drift away, and some will even lose contact with them at all.

After retirement, people have begun to understand their status and role in social life, and will no longer have the opportunity to work and study on the job. This is a person's transition from starting a career and making a living to stopping working. the beginning of.

After retirement, family is often the top priority and no longer pay attention to appearance, clothing and other living conditions.

After retirement, from the awareness of retirement to the fact that retirement has occurred, some people have reactions while others do not. This is the process of a person beginning to adapt to retirement life.

Retired, no need for friends. All retired friends are old and new friends from the street, neighborhood, community, classmates, etc. Friends from the original workplace have gradually drifted away.

There are three, six or nine levels of friends.

Those who have business dealings are called business associates. Retirement is also considered graduation, and graduation is the end of friendship. This kind of friend will have no time to talk to you even if you need him after retirement. Because you are no longer on the interest whitelist.

Friendship sounds bad, but it is actually very good. A bit like stinky tofu. No matter when you call me, you will always be there, and you will always be a friend. At least they can see the word meaning.

Retired and don’t need friends? There is not even a listener who can tell the truth, so I can only give bad reviews for the rest of my life. Apart from anything else, the old man and old lady in my village invite me to accompany them when they go for a walk! If something unexpected happens, there's always a friend nearby to call. Humans are social animals, and having friends is better than having no friends!

In fact, when you retire, it means you have withdrawn from one circle of life and entered a new circle. Friends from your past work will have less contact and communication in the future, and your thoughts, thinking, and language will be different. There is also less communication. When we get together again, there will be a lot less communication and words, and gradually there will be distance. Personally, I think that before retiring, if possible, you must take up some hobbies, and after retirement, you should also actively look for and integrate into new social circles, so that you can successfully overcome the discomfort in the early stages of retirement. In addition, you can also engage in some jobs within your capabilities after retirement. If your finances permit, you do not need to continue working to supplement your family income. You should also participate in some social welfare activities to learn and communicate with young people to prevent your own aging caused by not being exposed to new ideas and new things after retirement.

You need friends even more after retirement.

1. Do nothing after retirement. After retirement, it’s not like when you were at work. You have to go to and from get off work on time every day. You have things to do and tasks to do. When you are free, you don’t know what to do anymore and you don’t get used to it. Especially for leading cadres, they are surrounded by others when they go to work and are left alone after retirement, which doubles their sense of loss. Most people have basically nothing to do after retirement and have a lot of free time. Some people have no hobbies, no one to accompany them, feel empty and lonely, and are prone to depression. At this time, they need to be accompanied by friends, talk and have fun, have a head to run, have a head to live, and gain a sense of satisfaction, so that their lives can be fulfilled.

2. It is easy to become an empty nester after retirement. Nowadays, most children do not live with their parents. After retirement, the old couple lives alone. Colleagues at the workplace will know if something happens when they are at work, but no one will know if something happens when they are not at work. At this time, it is even more important for friends to look after each other. Retirement life is lonely and boring, but you also need friends to liven up with and add fun to your life.

Therefore, you need friends even more after retirement.

As long as one party retires, the relationship will naturally be cut off.

Friends with the same interests will still be friends regardless of whether they retire or not.

The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. Many contacts may not necessarily make them friends, but a rare encounter will make them lifelong friends.

Friends at work are friends with benefits, friends after retirement are friends in leisure, and friendships in youth are true friends if they can be maintained. Those who make friends without seeking profit are all true friends, but they are becoming fewer and fewer.

For those who are still at work, the living conditions after retirement are like a discarded object. As time changes, the original false smiles and cordial greetings are all gone. Lost in the long river of time. Better people will stop to greet you good night or ask about your physical condition when they see you, but most people will treat you as fresh and natural as seeing the air! Look up into the sky naturally. It's not that others treat you like this, it's that when I saw my retired colleagues doing the same thing before retiring, I didn't have anything to say or ask, it was good if I could just smile. Let me say, actually this is part of life and must be viewed in a normal way. Nothing to blame. The so-called feelings and friendships are all based on communication. In this case, if the communication after retirement is gone, is it possible to still have an unbreakable friendship? Let’s follow the laws of nature!

After I retired, I danced with my friends, organized trips to farmhouses, went out for competitions, and my classmates played mahjong together, drank tea, and traveled. Time flew by and I was with my wife. He likes to compete. It turns out that he doesn’t talk much, and he doesn’t know how to speak well when he has something to say. Sometimes I really don’t bother to pay attention to him

It’s not that he doesn’t need friends, and he doesn’t have any real friends before. Few, the so-called friends you don’t need at all are not friends in the first place. They are just passers-by who you get to know actively or passively at a certain stage of life. The accompanying or leaving of these people has nothing to do with whether they retire or not. It happens from beginning to end.

Now that I have reached the age of retirement, my energy and physical strength are not the same as before. In addition, coupled with the changes in my living environment, I can only say that I have less contact with real friends, but my friendship remains the same.

The word "friend" cannot be used interchangeably. Only when people speak the same language, communicate frequently, are comfortable with each other, and understand each other can they be called friends. Live your own life after retirement. As long as you feel happy, it doesn't matter whether you have friends or not.

Only when you retire and grow old can you understand the life span of a person. I understand that apart from taking care of your body and your home, everything else is just a cloud.

It’s a pity that no one understands it when they are young!