Everyone in China knows how to raise children? Poor children, rich daughters? It is believed that educating boys should be more material and meet the material needs of girls. Li Jun, an associate professor at the Institute of Cognitive and Neuroscience of Beijing Normal University (Weibo), said that the real meaning of this sentence is: to raise a poor son, it is important to cultivate his strong will, character and sense of responsibility; If you want to raise your daughter richly, you must mold her good temperament, broaden her horizons and increase her experience and knowledge.
As the old saying goes:? Difficulties and hardships, Yucheng. ? If you want your son to be a boy. Real men? , is it? Exert your muscles and bones, sharpen your will, support your confidence and exercise your physical strength? . To sum up, we can grasp it from the following aspects:
1, too much? Tough days? .
Superior. Material life is the first killer to destroy boys, which will breed hedonism, love leisure and hate work and keep up with the joneses. Parents should control the expenses of boys, and the necessary expenses for growth and study should not be less. However, parents will unconditionally meet their children's requirements to buy new shoes and clothes. They must go to the hotel on their birthdays, and students should buy new mobile phones. Parents must answer this request carefully, not to mention how many students to take and how many points to take.
2. experience setbacks.
The flowers in the greenhouse can't stand the storm. When encountering setbacks, parents should, in principle, let boys handle them themselves. Even if you encounter setbacks, don't feel bad, let alone be arranged. However, it is necessary to give necessary guidance to let children know how to solve problems.
3. Learn to live independently.
Some college students send home a pack of dirty clothes every month. This kind of news is incredible, but it does exist. When a person grows up, he has to accept all kinds of social challenges, and when he is young, he has to learn to undertake what he can independently. Parents may wish to be appropriate? Steal a lazy? From an early age, I consciously let boys dress themselves and pack their bags.
4. Be appropriately wronged.
There are many unfair things in society. Boys will have a deeper understanding of life if they are properly wronged from an early age. So, if a boy does something wrong, even if there is a misunderstanding, parents may as well? Harsh? A little, give appropriate criticism and punishment. Moreover, everything happens for a reason, such as being bullied by others. Parents should ask clearly whether the child offended others first. Let boys know how to take their share of responsibility from an early age.
5. Do things from beginning to end.
Children often do things? Three minutes of heat? I started complaining in the middle of doing things and wanted to stop. However, boys should finish what they started. Parents should never agree to stop at this time. They must properly cheer up and urge their children to finish it seriously. If you allow your child to give up halfway once, then the next time, the next time, you will develop the character of procrastination, carelessness and giving up when there are difficulties.
? Fuyang? Some girls are well-informed, independent and know what they want, so they are not easily tempted by all kinds of worldly prosperity and vanity when they grow up. But? Fuyang? Doesn't mean parents have to do it to girls? Throw money? Can a girl from a poor family do it? Fuyang? . Specific can pay attention to the following points.
1, more encouragement.
Girls need to be affirmed and recognized, because this is the source of their self-confidence, independence, strength and pursuit of Excellence. Therefore, a word of encouragement from parents and an encouraging hug can make girls more confident.
2. Love more.
Parents' love belongs to a girl's heart? Safe haven? Let their hearts become bright, warm and optimistic. But parents should pay attention, too much? Love? Is doting likely to cultivate a kind of femininity, arrogance and irrationality? Little princess? .
3, more knowledge.
Parents should provide rich conditions and environment for girls to let their children? Free exploration? Only by seeing the rich world can we build a sense of security. Only when a girl's knowledge is increased and her judgment ability is enhanced will she not be easily tempted by the outside world. There are many ways to increase your knowledge. Families with conditions can travel frequently and learn some talents. Parents can ask their daughters to help them ask for directions when they encounter unfamiliar roads during the trip, so that their children can not only increase their knowledge during the trip, but also learn the skills of interacting with others. A poor family can let girls read more books, even if it is a good practice to get a library card.