In his own words, his mistake was that he was born into the wrong child and committed a "crime of birth." This is created by the times.

In the Qilian Mountains prairie, Xu Lingjun was sent here to receive labor education. The gap and heaviness in his heart made him have a gloomy temperament around him, and his deeply furrowed brows contained hidden thoughts that no one could tell. It was a special era, and it was also a crazy era. Many people were tortured to death in the fighting, and some committed suicide. Those who could survive it had experienced inhuman pain and struggle, both physically and mentally. Xu Lingjun also thought about death, and his whole body and mind fell into the abyss of pessimism and despair.

My father and Xu Lingjun talked all night long. My father hoped to let the past go and move forward. He hoped to reshape his son, restore his son's value as a human being, and sort out his beliefs... He Thinking that his son could find a new life, Xu Lingjun continued without comment -

"I died before, but I came back to life. Not only did I find the value of people, I also found the warmth of people. , I found my father and my mother, and I will never forget what they gave me in my life," he continued to recall.

After the labor education, he stayed in the pasture to graze because he was homeless. Fortunately, although the people of that past era were poor, their folk customs were very simple. The people in the place where Xu Lingjun was sent to the countryside were all herdsmen, who were very friendly and enthusiastic to him and gave him cordial care. Whether it was Uncle Dong who helped him hang the door curtain, or the old lady who brought him food, the small care of a meal and a vegetable was the most precious thing in the poor years of the past, and it is also the relationship between people in today's society. Lost beauty.

The old lady has no education, but the phrase "people should look far away" is full of the philosophy of life and brings strength to him when he is at a low point! Therefore, I, an ordinary audience, understand better: there are two kinds of books, one with words and one without words. Society is the school, experience is the teacher, and wise sayings! The enthusiasm released by this ordinary little person warmed Xu Lingjun's heart and rekindled his hope in life.

Nature and labor taught him a lot of knowledge that could not be learned in the classroom, and the plain and simple nostalgia made him "come back to life" again. The clear sky, the vast wild Chile River, and the simple folk customs made him re-understand life during the days spent with horses. Even in the craziest and darkest time, when the walls were covered with big-character posters criticizing Xu Lingjun, the herdsmen were trying their best to help him escape. This was his luck. There is a scene where herdsmen urinate on those big-character posters. It is a silent and humorous scene that depicts the clear distinction between right and wrong in the minds of the herdsmen!

What I personally admire about Xu Lingjun is that he has a very broad mind. Not only did he not resent his father's dereliction of duty, nor did he complain that he was blamed for being a rightist because of his background, but he was also willing to talk to him calmly. Have a heart-to-heart talk. This is his magnanimity and his mind.

While buying porcelain with his father, Xu Lingjun only picked a kimchi jar. Ms. Song, the secretary next to his father, asked: "Do you like to eat kimchi?" Xu Lingjun said: "My wife likes to eat it. She is from Sichuan. "Your wife must be very beautiful," Ms. Song said. Xu Lingjun said sheepishly, "What a sweet title." "For women, although the title "Yitou" is inconspicuous, it is better than nicknames such as "Dear", "Wife", "Mrs." It’s no wonder that Ms. Song, who grew up in the United States, laments that although women have different nationalities, different educational backgrounds, and different growth environments, they have the same expectations for their lovers.

Wanting to see Li Xiuzhi's photo, Xu Lingjun took it out from his arms. Secretary Song said, wow, it looks like Yamaguchi Momoe. Yamaguchi Momoe was a popular Japanese actress around the world, so this evaluation was considered extremely high. Secretary Song wanted Xu Lingjun to talk about it. Talking about his love history with Li Xiuzhi, Xu Lingjun said frankly that he had no love history, but that he got married first and then fell in love. Secretary Song said: "In America, marriage is the tomb of love. It's so boring. I would like to hear about you."

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This dialogue reminds me of what Teacher Mengman said about the different views of love between China and the West: The relationship in Western society is about the blazing fire, so after marriage, it is the tomb and burned; while in the East, the relationship is about the blazing fire. What's important is the tenderness of a river, which is more dense and long and flows endlessly.