Lu Yu, a famous TV host, Sun Yue, a famous cross talk actor.

Everyone knows that Lu Yu is famously thin, with a figure as thin as a bamboo pole, thin arms and legs, and a complete "paper man" image.

And Sun Yue is a famously fat man. How fat is he? There is no need to use a scale. Everyone will know by visual inspection that the tonnage is not small.

To say that the weight difference between the two is really as big as heaven and earth.

In other words, one day, these two people just got together. Once, Guo Degang brought Yu Qian, Yue Yunpeng, Sun Yue and others to "A Date with Luyu".

During the interview, Lu Yu asked Sun Yue: What do you think the weight difference between us is? ?

According to the reaction of ordinary people, it is probably to answer whatever is asked. As an artist, I am more taboo about weight issues. Furthermore, as an artist, you need to be able to adapt to changes on stage.

Of course, this is not a difficult task for Sun Yue, a crosstalk actor who relies on his mouth to make a living and conquer the world with his mouth. I saw him reply: Are you talking about age? ?

Such a witty response made the whole audience burst into laughter and won continuous applause.

Some people say that Sun Yue is so good at talking that he deserves to be praised.

Who says it’s not? A clever response that perfectly avoided the embarrassment. This shows that speaking is really a university subject.

In daily life, we often encounter problems similar to this. Let’s see how the masters solve them.

How to speak to resolve the embarrassment?

1.? Hiding the truth and changing the pillars?

We often face some sensitive or difficult questions. We often don’t want to answer them, but we have to answer them due to the situation and environment. At this time, you might as well use the method of "avoiding the truth to make up for the imaginary" to cleverly resolve the problem and lead the problem to another direction without leaving any trace.

For example, a reporter once asked Li Yuchun: "Most of the people who like you are girls. What do you think of this matter?"

Originally, the reporter wanted to use this question to draw out Li Yuchun. Neutral, even masculine dressing style topics. Because of this, I don’t have many male fans.

Of course Li Yuchun did not directly follow the question, but avoided the truth and replied briefly: "It's great if someone likes it."

This answer neither belittles nor elevates oneself, nor offends others. It can be described as clever and clever.

2. Make false claims in the east and attack in the west, and respond cleverly

There are many more embarrassing questions like this. For example, at the 50th Golden Horse Awards, Huang Bo encountered such a huge and embarrassing problem.

However, Huang Bo is famous for his high emotional intelligence. That day, with his high emotional intelligence as always, he tactfully resolved the various tit-for-tat thorny issues that Zheng Yuling and Cai Kangyong raised against him verbally. This can be said to be a "model" of the art of speaking.

By the way, that day, Zheng Yuling and Huang Bo*** went on stage to present the award together. As soon as Zheng Yuling came on stage, she choked Huang Bo unceremoniously: "Are you wearing pajamas tonight?

Faced with Zheng Yuling's "openness", Huang Bo took over the words very cleverly. He said: You haven't been here for five years, and I have been at the Golden Horse Awards for the past five years. So I have regarded Jinma as my home. What do I wear when I get home, right? ?

After hearing these words, the people present could not help but applaud Huang Bo.

If this is Huang Bo’s reaction to his high emotional intelligence, then his dialogue with Cai Kangyong expresses the art of speaking with high emotional intelligence to the extreme.

At that time, Cai Kangyong, the host of the Golden Horse Awards, took over the words. He first complimented Zheng Yuling, and then pointed his gun at Huang Bo, saying: "This (Golden Horse Awards) is my home. Not your home. ?

I believe many people will sweat for Huang Bo when they see this. When ordinary people hear such "sharp" remarks and provocative words full of gunpowder, they may be frightened and overwhelmed, and dare not speak out.

This is indeed the case. The guests in the audience below, such as Andy Lau, Maggie Cheung and other celebrities, all had solemn faces and slightly embarrassed and stiff expressions.

But Huang Bo quickly took over the words and said with a calm expression: "Actually, you are not fighting alone. There was a horse with you just now." (Referring to Cai Kangyong's red carpet look, with a huge horse sewn on his clothes) I have only seen people riding horses, and this is the first time I saw a horse riding a person. ? (See the picture above)

The high-EQ answer that made such a fuss without losing a reply immediately won the applause of the audience.

Similarly, another time, a guest said to Huang Bo: Jack Ma once said a famous saying. I thought it was for himself. I found that the famous saying also applies to Huang Bo: "A man's appearance" Often inversely proportional to his talent? ?

After hearing this, Huang Bo first said "thank you", and then replied: "I believe these words have always inspired you." ?

Obviously, this pun is not only impolite, but also satirizes other people’s comments about their appearance.

In this regard, you have to say that Huang Bo’s art of speaking is indeed high!

3. Be flexible and resolve embarrassment

In interpersonal interactions, whether in public or private situations, we will encounter embarrassing problems from time to time. If the answer is not answered well or handled improperly, it may put both parties in an awkward predicament. At this time, high emotional intelligence is needed to adapt to changes and resolve the embarrassment.

Speaking of this, a conversation between Roosevelt and Churchill has always been regarded as a classic example.

(Churchill and Roosevelt met in Hyde Park, London)

In the twentieth century, the Second World War came to an end. One day, Roosevelt, then the President of the United States, had to see Churchill on important matters, so he hurried to Churchill's residence. That day, the weather was very hot during the day, so Churchill soaked himself in the bathtub.

After Roosevelt arrived at Churchill's residence, he heard Churchill's humming voice coming from the room. Without thinking much, he hurriedly followed the sound. As a result, I happened to see Churchill lying naked in the bathtub.

It is self-evident how embarrassing it is for the heads of state of two major countries to face such a predicament.

At first, the two looked at each other and were stunned for a moment. Then, Roosevelt quickly broke the awkwardness with clever words. He said: Lao Qiu, it’s like this. I have something very urgent to discuss with you, but now is the time. It seems we can finally talk to each other honestly! ?

Churchill also took the words in a humorous manner and responded: ?Indeed, look at me, I really have nothing to hide from you! ?

As a result, this embarrassment was not only resolved smoothly, but also brought the two people closer together, laying a good foundation for the subsequent negotiations.

Shu Zhujun said

We often say that we can only tell the subtle things. In fact, whether it is from Lu Yu’s question to Sun Yue, from Li Yuchun’s reply to reporters, or from Huang Bo’s high emotional intelligence reply to others It can be seen from the words that speaking is indeed an art. It is important to respond randomly and speak flexibly. Because this can make the listener happy, the speaker not too embarrassed, and can resolve many unnecessary embarrassments and conflicts.