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Let's talk about "the second blossom" in the title first.
Why did I choose this word? When these four words came from my mouth, I felt that my lips and teeth were fragrant, and with this picture, I felt a little cool in the hot summer. As we all know, being a teacher is not just about preaching and teaching, daily chores, school affairs, class affairs, students' affairs and family affairs ... Everything is exhausting, and people are emotional animals, and their energy is limited. How can we balance and coordinate teachers, education and personal growth, and it is really not easy to study our comprehensive quality.
Coincidentally, there is such a book, the name is "The Second Flower Blossom", and the author Xi Arongbo Kambu sums up its essence in only four words-compassion and joy:
I hope all sentient beings are happy (have a kind heart), and I hope all sentient beings can stay away from suffering (have a sad heart), be happy with others (have a happy heart), and treat all sentient beings naturally and equally. Although this book is a book of practicing Zen, it is suitable for all professions and all people. Isn't it true that teachers treat students, treat themselves, treat others and treat all beings?
We are king of the children, which can make children learn more happily and less painfully (for example, some class activities during the Dragon Boat Festival can give children some room to breathe freely and have some fun after heavy study). In the face of all kinds of children, we can allow them to make mistakes, let them grow up in mistakes, tolerate many unsatisfactory details on them, and find different bright spots on different children without discrimination or prejudice.
With such psychological expectation, why worry that we as teachers can't welcome our second flowers?
I will talk to you about the teacher's trilogy of flowers from three aspects-what teachers should teach, what education should do, and how individuals can grow up.
I still talk to you from three aspects.
1. Teaching knowledge
When we first entered the workplace, we were full of enthusiasm and devoted 12, yuan of energy to the children. At this time, we were grasping at the results, and we talked about one knowledge point after another. We were afraid that we had missed some knowledge points. I also talked about it once, but students still couldn't understand and remember it, so they did not hesitate to cram and even occupy the self-study class. Children's grades influence our joys and sorrows.
At this stage, we only have one knowledge point after another. At present, we are giving them fish, which is the stage of "seeing yourself" as Zhang Ziyi said in Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. It is also a necessary stage for us.
2. Teaching methods
With the accumulation of educational and teaching experience, or in the process of fighting with students of all colors, we have suffered to a certain extent and started to read more books, learn more, consult our peers frequently, and reflect and summarize more.
We have certain teaching methods. At this time, we begin to pay attention to students, learn to have feelings with them, and be able to make students happy and worry about their troubles. Teachers' and students' hearts can vibrate at the same frequency more often, and children can kiss their teachers and believe in them because they are willing to walk into us and are attached. At this stage, we went from giving people fish to giving them fish, and we saw the world (there are students in our eyes and students in our hearts).
Teachers who enter this stage may get some achievements and honors, and they are getting better and better. But also pave the way for entering a higher stage.
3. Teaching status
With more understanding of education, more love is given to children. We understand that education means that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul. Education is to ignite children's passion, their passion for the world is full of curiosity, and then arouse their most primitive internal drive and fall in love with the internal drive of learning, so that teachers and students can reach the perfect state of golden partners.
Therefore, at this stage, we pay more attention to children's learning state, living state and emotional state, and can seize the best opportunity to give children a positive impact on their outlook on life, morality and values in the presence state, so as to lay a solid foundation for their future life.
correspondingly, we have stepped into the stage of seeing all beings from the state of seeing ourselves and the world.
To complete the "second blossom" of these three stages, we need to understand the true meaning and reasonable order of the words "education and teaching". Teaching means that the school should learn before teaching. Only when our internal strength is solid can we have more children in Hui Ze, and education is also nurturing before teaching. Educating people is more important than teaching knowledge.
after that, the teacher said education.
"When everything you have learned is forgotten, what remains is education." This is a famous saying of burrhus frederic skinner, a famous American psychologist.
One sentence tells the core essence of education.
Children learn too much knowledge at school, and what can form habits, blend into their brains and internalize their hearts after leaving school will benefit them all their lives-teaching people to read and find themselves is the ultimate goal of education.
how to teach people to read and how to teach children to find themselves? In her book Five Learning Hats for Children, teacher Fu Liping, a star family education consultant, gives the method of KWL question table K(Known, known) W (wanted, learned) L(Learned), which helps children to form the stimulation of deep thinking and is worth learning.
Let's take Andersen's fairy tale The Ugly Duckling and Wu Cheng'en's The Journey to the West as examples to talk about how to stimulate children's deep thinking and help them develop the ability of lifelong reading and lifelong learning.
Let's look at the ugly duckling first. Let's make it clear that the ugly duckling is not a duck. It is really a white swan. It fell into a flock of ducks by mistake, was bitten by ducks, pecked by chickens, kicked by the maid in a chicken farm, and suffered all kinds of hardships in winter. Fortunately, it was not tamed and assimilated, because he had his own goals, and he had a good heart. He didn't give up. He finally.
So the growth process of the ugly duckling represents the growth process of almost everyone-the process of discovery, denial, pain, persistence, counterattack, success, rediscovery, rediscovery, denial, pain, persistence and success.
think about our children, think about when we were children ourselves. Have you ever suffered many "preferential treatments" such as being bitten by ducks, pecked by chickens, kicked by the maid in the chicken farm, and suffering all kinds of hardships in winter? Then, how did we grow up crooked? Our children will be in our hands again. How can we grow up crooked? He has his own goals, and has a good heart, so he struggled to fly to them-at this time, he saw his reflection on the water. But it is no longer a clumsy ugly duckling, but a swan! It turns out that unconsciously, he has grown into the ideal appearance.
the growth process is actually a process of discovery, denial, pain, persistence, counterattack, success, rediscovery, denial, pain, persistence, counterattack and success. This chain is likely to break somewhere, and there may be no possibility of spiraling up behind it. There are many infinite wonderful possibilities in our lives. After careful tasting, the ugly duckling becomes a beautiful white swan, which is the process of the ugly duckling's self-discovery and persistence in the final counterattack.
Let's take a look at Wukong's practice.
I don't know if you still remember Wukong, who came to study with Bodhi's ancestor. It took 17 years to cross the ocean before he found the square-inch mountain of Lingtai and reached the Sanxing Cave in Xieyue. This is the mystery of the word "seeking the heart".
It is Wukong's active choice to standardize and tame himself.
In the process of pretending to be obedient, my demons became more and more swollen, so that I found an opportunity to break out of my body and become a liu er macaque-hating me for the time being-Wukong wanted to let go of himself and his nature.
The ego can't expand indefinitely, so we should find a balance between individual freedom and social norms.
Wukong's choice is a manifestation of his growth, not surrender to authority.
The Journey to the West advocates self-regulation, rather than destroying individuality and denying self.
Self is not the enemy of society, but selfishness.
practice is not to polish oneself into a standardized "perfect person", but to realize the sublimation of oneself on the premise of preserving individuality.
So, reading is to find yourself, find yourself and be yourself. Teaching people to read is also for keep reading and lifelong reading, which can open their horizons, and for keep learning and lifelong learning, which can broaden the pattern.
1. At the beginning of our career
, we tried our best to teach, and we learned that methods (skills) are more important than strength and learned to teach intelligently. Later, we understood the highest state of teaching that Mr. Ye Shengtao said-teaching is to not teach, so the highest state of career is to teach without teaching.
2. Personal cultivation
Teacher Wan Wei said in his Five Realms of Teachers that the ultimate state of teachers is to teach themselves. In terms of age, our personal cultivation can be roughly divided into three stages. Of course, the boundaries here are not necessarily so clear. Some people are born with seven ingenious minds and are enlightened earlier. Some people may need a long time to find it, or they may not be able to reach it all their lives. Generally divided into accumulation period, maturity period and harvest period. In short, whether it is early or late, we all want to climb from the "vulgar" state of man+valley to the "fairy" world of man+mountain.
after all, if the height is not enough, all you see are problems, and if the pattern is too small, all the entanglements are trivial.
So you and I in front of the screen should find our own position and coordinates. What period are we in now? As far as my personal feeling is concerned, these two years can be regarded as the sweetness of reading (knowledge input) and writing (knowledge output), and I gradually understand that reading can really light up life, while writing can optimize work.
I sincerely wish you and I can cross more stars and seas in our future career and family life, step into our own spring flowers and meet better ourselves in the future.
Thank you again for your company, meeting and listening.
if it's fate, I'll see you offline.