Why are honest people not flexible? Many people will find it difficult to communicate because of their personality. There are many reasons for this personality. Honest people talk about those who are dull, clumsy and not good at dealing with interpersonal relationships. Then why is the honest man's brain not flexible?

Why are honest people not flexible? 1 Honest people don't know how to express, or don't express.

Honest people always work conscientiously, hoping to raise their wages through their own efforts and let themselves have a good development. When they have needs, some honest people are embarrassed to say that they always bear them themselves, while others are psychologically expecting others to understand them and then help them solve their problems.

The consequences of these two practices are basically the same, that is, the demands of honest people are always buried in their hearts. As the saying goes, "a crying child has milk to eat", and an honest man who doesn't know how to express himself naturally can't let others understand his needs.

In reality, many people feel that the more they work, the more tired they are, which is often caused by this reason. In life, some people like to bully honest people, because honest people will not argue with them, and they will not pay any price for bullying honest people.

Honest people don't know how to be flexible, and they always follow the steps.

No matter work or life, it needs personal efforts and needs to adapt to the constant changes of society. In the ever-changing social environment, honest people can't do anything because they can't be flexible and their thinking is solidified. Because thinking is not as flexible as others, I can't grasp the opportunities in life.

Just like driving, people who can observe always choose the fastest lane and let themselves get there before others. Those who only walk slowly with the car in front will always arrive later than others. Honest people are those who slowly follow the car in front.

Honest people lack flexible minds and cannot help others achieve their goals.

Although honest people work hard and are needed by any unit, they lack flexible mind and boldness of vision to help leaders or bosses achieve better results and earn more money.

Many people complain that those who are promoted in their own units are always those who don't work hard, and those who work hard are not taken seriously. In fact, it is not that the leaders are biased against anyone. Leaders need to promote someone who can lead everyone to do a good job. A person who can only do it by himself and is not flexible in mind is not qualified for leadership positions.

Why is the honest man's brain not flexible 2 0 1? He is stupid because of inferiority and introversion.

Many introverted people are not necessarily inferior and clumsy, and people with inferiority are generally introverted and clumsy. So, is it stupid or inferiority or introversion first?

In fact, these two situations interact and influence each other, so they are mutually causal.

Because you lack the corresponding communication skills, you are clumsy and easy to get negative feedback, such as being rejected and hated by others.

After a long time, your psychological instinct will resist being rejected and hated by others, but you can't get along with others for a while, so you can only take temporary measures to escape.

This rejection by others leads to negative emotional stimulation. You are afraid of it happening again, so you dare not socialize.

But the more you are afraid to socialize, the weaker your communication skills will be. At the same time, it will hit your self-confidence, make yourself more and more introverted, aggravate your disapproval, and fall into a vicious circle.

To break this vicious circle, we must start with the lowest problem-rebuilding self-confidence and improving communication and social skills.

02. Stupidity is the lack of effective communication and social ways.

While enhancing self-confidence, we also need to learn effective communication and social methods. Only a two-pronged approach can fundamentally solve the problem.

For example, the so-called clumsiness means that you don't know how to say the right thing in the right place and opportunity, and you will open the topic, continue the topic or enliven the atmosphere, or avoid silence. These have corresponding communication skills to deal with.

But if you don't understand these methods, you will naturally be at a loss in some aspects of communication and appear "clumsy".

In essence, clumsiness means that you lack corresponding communication skills and coping experience.

So you can find professional people to help you according to your own specific situation, learn these skills, and improve your dumb situation.

It's like, you can't speak English, drive, ride a bike, swim, joke, manicure, make-up, have any skills and so on. But if you want to study, you can acquire this ability through study and training.

03. Stupidity is an effective, deliberate and lack of communication and expression.

Many self-abased, introverted and unsociable friends are not good at "learning". Lack of understanding of "learning".

Most of them simply think that "learning" is actually reading books, reading materials and listening to teachers, which is learning.

They think that after listening, they should study. It is precisely because of this wrong concept that they can't learn some skills, or they are easy to dabble in and give up halfway.

A truly efficient way of learning is actually a combination of theory and practice, so as to truly master a knowledge and turn it into a skill.

So many people just watch or listen to some methods of communication and expression, and seldom do practical exercises. Then you will naturally be unable to express yourself conditionally in communication situations, and there will be situations such as blank mind, stuck words and no topic.

If you are a friend who has really studied and trained many times, you can blurt it out as soon as you think about it, and you can keep talking without thinking.

Generally speaking, being speechless is due to the psychological factors of inferiority and introversion, which leads to fear that the outside world will have a bad evaluation of themselves, and then shrink from expressing themselves. The more afraid they are, the less good they are at talking. At the same time, it lacks effective communication and social methods, learning and systematic practice.

Why are honest people not flexible? The first weakness: he doesn't know how to be flexible.

Because of life and vision, honest people's way of thinking often lacks a little flexibility. They often like to do things according to the script, without their own thinking and contingency, and over time they have formed an inflexible character.

Such an inflexible personality, once there is an emergency, the methods to deal with it are quite scarce.

Song Xianggong in the Spring and Autumn Period is an example. He wanted to be the overlord in the Spring and Autumn Period, but he was pedantic and mediocre. He had to be upright and ignore the basic truth that "soldiers are also cunning." Song Xianggong was bound by righteousness and didn't know how to improvise. As a result, he was naturally defeated by the Chu army, and his short dream of hegemony in the Spring and Autumn Period ended.

The experience of honest people in this spring and autumn period tells us that people who don't know how to be flexible, no matter how much they have ideas and ambitions, can't achieve it, and it is difficult to have a bright future.

It's okay to tell the truth, but your style can't be like this. But to know how to think flexibly and respond. Honesty is attitude, flexibility is style. There is no conflict between the two, but you can't extend your honest character to the way you do things.

In life, you can be honest with others, but you need to be flexible and handle it skillfully according to the specific situation.

The second weakness: lack of initiative.

In life, because of hardships, the horizons of honest people are limited. They think that as long as they work hard honestly, they can usher in a turning point in life, but what they can wait for is often buried all the year round, because no one knows about your efforts.

People need to take the initiative to seek opportunities for change, and honest people often fail because they don't know how to take the initiative.

In the Tang Dynasty, Li Bai was an unparalleled poet, but he still needed to meet He, hoping that he could help him make a name for himself, and he would compliment Yang Guifei with the phrase "If the cloud wants clothes, it will take a good look". Although Li Bai's plans failed to get him into the official career, they undoubtedly made him famous for thousands of years.

Sometimes, although you have the ability, it is useless if you don't get the opportunity and no one appreciates it. I don't mean to spend your mind on finding your own noble people on weekdays, but when the opportunity comes, don't shrink back and take the initiative to seize the opportunity, so as to show your strengths and not bury your talents.

In life, honest people are often very capable and willing to work hard, but just because they don't know how to seize the opportunity, they let the key to success slip away. Honesty shows that you are willing to work hard, but when necessary, you should also know how to actively seek opportunities for progress.

Third weakness: no ambition.

As the saying goes, "people don't aim high", so is an honest man. Because life is unsatisfactory, there is no grand goal. Just for food and clothing, they have done their best, so there is no ambition.

In fact, ambition is also the key to success in life. Only when you set a goal first will you strive for it. Honest people, because of personality reasons, mostly just want to live a stable life, not demanding big money, and therefore, they will not deliberately pursue opportunities and ways of success.

It's not that it's wrong to pursue an ordinary life, but that if you have no ambition, you won't deliberately sharpen yourself, even if you have the opportunity, you can't catch it.

Li Guang of the Han Dynasty failed to seal the marquis all his life, because he was defeated repeatedly in the battle with Xiongnu, and the reason was that he was not prepared for it in his early years. Before Emperor Wudi ascended the throne, the Han Dynasty was still in the defensive stage against Xiongnu. Therefore, in his many years of battlefield career, Li Guang only developed one defensive skill, but failed to catch up with the attack.

If you set your sights, you won't waste your time. Even if the goal is not achieved, you can exercise your ability. The character of an honest man is so indisputable that he sometimes forgets it. Sometimes, all it takes to change the status quo is competition.

In the final analysis, the weakness of honest people lies in putting themselves in a passive role, so that when changes come, they can't respond effectively. If we change this, honest people can show their advantages and make extraordinary achievements.