How did this happen? Why didn't you say so earlier? What do we do? What are the reasons? How to help him tide over the difficulties? How did he get through these two years? What caused his repeated investment failures? Why do good people get cheated? How to crack the failed password?
I lost sleep for countless nights, cried silently for countless times, and thought about the root of things for countless times.
1. Family system. Each of us is in a multi-system, and one's symptoms are the result of the interaction of many people and multi-systems. For example, a brother is influenced by his small family system, family background system, classmates and teachers, and social culture. When a point in the system changes, all systems will change with it. Just like the butterfly effect can form typhoons and tsunamis.
2. Blind investment is gambling, quick success, and want to get rich overnight. Subconsciously, you should be associated with your father. He is a vain man who likes to drink and gamble. When I was a child, my father gambled away all the money he earned many times, and even jiaozi couldn't eat during the Chinese New Year. Since childhood, my brother has been accused and criticized many times, and he urgently needs recognition and respect from others. Inner inferiority, the more eager to be recognized by others. Most people want to gain respect from others by boasting. Boasting is actually a sign of inner weakness and vanity.
3. six niang, too much protection, women are kind. Father always said that brothers are blessed. There are two sisters above and two sisters below. He is a sedan chair. My brother is the only boy among five children, and four girls unconsciously assume the role of mother to protect her. His wife is older than him and unconsciously plays the role of mother. Five equal women, with unclear boundaries, bear more protection. A real mother places all her hopes on her only son, expecting high, more protection and more control. Women are kind and simple, caring and free, and brothers don't have enough complicated understanding of society and human nature.
4. Develop self-protection function: special technology, avoid function and find advantages. As the saying goes, it is difficult to eat wisdom without it. Look before you leap, think carefully, do what you can, and don't aim too high.
5. Correct cognition: Diligence and thrift can't make you rich overnight, and grasp the present. Eat your food bit by bit, and walk step by step. Diligence and thrift are the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, and thrift is not out of date. Without excellent skills and outstanding talents, the possibility of getting rich overnight is extremely small. The future is beautiful, but there are too many uncertainties. Only by grasping the present can we grasp the future.
Everyone is unique, valuable and important, and everyone's potential is unlimited. My brother has traveled all over the country and abroad many times, and he can be described as a man who has seen the world.
1. Kind. Brothers are kind-hearted since childhood, preferring to suffer their own losses rather than cause trouble to others. If I can earn some money, I want to beautify my home and village. Be generous to your friends and have compassion for the poor.
2. Courage. Dare to deal with foreigners, dare to travel to Shanghai and abroad. When I was young, I also made some money with courage.
3. Make progress. During my junior college years, I joined the Party as a school cadre and got along well with my teachers. I taught myself spoken English and learned to speak the Bible in English, so English became fluent.
4. This world. In the past 20 years, I have met all kinds of people, including poor people and rich people, ordinary people and senior officials. Having experienced the customs of many countries and regions, the two brothers feel that the world is rich and colorful.
5. hard work. It is not easy to survive from a poor family. He is as strong and unyielding as a vigorous grass. Even if trampled, disgusted, uprooted and burned, the grass still smiles at the earth, "they grow taller in the spring breeze."
6. Living is wealth. We are still alive after the world's epidemics, floods and wars, and it is priceless to have a complete body. Health is capital, and health is wealth.
There is a classic saying in psychology: the problem is not a problem, but how to deal with it. For us ordinary people, more than 2 million is really a problem of discontent. How to deal with it?
1. Count your wealth. I've been in business for 20 years, and I've made both losses and gains. As the saying goes, a thin camel is bigger than a horse. Sell the things you bought as soon as possible and try to collect the debts owed by others. If you don't come, you can solve it through legal channels.
2. Put down your face. There are gains and losses in business, and there are peaks and valleys in life. I'm not afraid of debt, but I'm afraid of crime. It's not shameful to owe money, but it's shameful to break faith. Admitting mistakes is powerful. Only by admitting that you are poor at present can you make your heart humble and practical, otherwise you will consume a lot of energy. I'm glad people are still alive, so what's the harm of starting all over again? I'm glad I'm still young. I am 43 years old.
3. Down-to-earth. I especially appreciate a famous saying: there is no mountain higher than people, and there is no road longer than people. No matter how long the road is, as long as the feet keep walking, there will always be a day to go. Down-to-earth means starting from small things, starting from the present and starting from practical work. People who are down-to-earth will go further.
4. Protective armor. With swords and shadows in business, hidden weapons is everywhere. Maybe yesterday was a friend and today is an enemy; Maybe today is an enemy, tomorrow is a friend. British Prime Minister Winston Churchill said: There are no eternal friends, no eternal enemies, only eternal interests. Always walk in business, learn to wear a set of invisible armor to prevent concealed weapons from hurting people. People don't attack me, I don't attack; If people attack me, I will attack. There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people.
5. Examine personality. To cooperate with a person or have economic exchanges, we must first examine a person's character. People with reliable personalities generally don't make much difference. When you associate with Han, Dong, Li, Jianjun and others again, have you considered their abilities and conduct?
1. Parents and children are parents' flesh and blood. As the only boy in the family, my brother is the hope of my parents. How can parents not worry when their son is in trouble? For more than ten days, parents have been unhappy, spent all their savings and even borrowed money to help their children tide over the difficulties. The elderly parents begged their daughter to help their son through the difficulties.
2. Sisters. After all, we are sisters. Blood is thicker than water. Everyone has cash to get cash, and they have to help without cash loans. The four sisters went into battle together to lend a helping hand.
3. wife Husband and wife are United, and their profits are broken! In an emergency, nothing is more important than his partner who fights side by side. We share joys and sorrows. Rich people never forget to marry their wives. Thank you for cherishing your partner.
1. Fu Gang: Your sister showed me your speech in the secret garden. I have an idea, I don't know if it's right. For your reference only.
1, father represents career, and we should have a close relationship with him. Mother represents money, and we should get along well with our mother.
Get close to your sister and give you better advice and cooperation.
3, deal with different people, so as to form a complete society, so that you can better understand the society.
Don't ignore the bad side of human nature, which can reduce your loss.
5, major investment and other matters must be discussed with friends and relatives around you, three heads are better than one Zhuge Liang.
6. Talking about something more doesn't show your ignorance. You have the final say, just like some successful leaders, they don't know everything. He listened to the suggestions of people around him and finally made a decision. That's it. I hope these will help you grow up in the future. Your future is still bright, but you have to see the road under your feet!
2. Brothers and sisters: Things have happened, and we learn from them. This is the greatest wealth and gain. In view of this matter, I have thought about it from many aspects, and I have also given targeted education to my two children. I hope we can all grow from it. After all, life has a long way to go. Each of us has limited abilities. Some roads need to be taken by yourself, and some customs need to be broken by yourself. No one can replace them, especially the road of spiritual growth.
I regard this matter as farmyard manure, which, although a little smelly, can nourish people's growth. Mr. Wang is kind, simple, vain and eager for quick success, which we also have. He sacrificed his reputation and showed us his human weakness. He has contributed to our future growth and maturity.
3. Family: I believe you can get through this. Wish you all the best. Parents and we all love and care about you.