? I've been reading a record of Satya's treatment recently. This book is divided into two parts. The first part is the record of Satya's handling of family cases, with the dialogue on the left and the analysis and interpretation of the dialogue on the right. The second part is an overview of Satya's theory and belief system.
Many analyses in the book have helped me a lot, and today's excerpts are as follows:
1. In family therapy, the therapist should first establish a safe and credible treatment atmosphere. Therapists should pay attention to the sitting posture of their families. What was the situation then? How is everyone's position allocated? Who will speak first when answering questions? Who doesn't talk? How much respect do they have for each other? Do family members feel safe when expressing their thoughts?
2. The therapist's humor is a way to downplay the seriousness of the problem, and laughter is also a powerful lubricant to promote the relationship between people.
One of the consequences of anger is that people become blind, and anger makes us lose our correct observation ability. Everyone has anger, but in well-functioning and dysfunctional families, people deal with anger in different ways.
Therapists should establish relationships with each member of the family, personalize each member, make them feel safe and trust each other, and listen to everyone's opinions carefully, which is helpful to cultivate a positive sense of self-worth.
Some family members are very observant and know a lot of things at home, which can be used as a breakthrough to interview.
6. When people can't have intimate contact directly, they will use fighting to express it. Parents can openly express their feelings in daily life and set an example for their children.
7. Anger is a reaction to injury. All the precautions turned into anger, and no one told his true feelings. Hurt always comes with anger. Anger is the most common way to protect self-esteem. It is more difficult to express my injury than to express my anger.