Baidu Encyclopedia's explanation: refers to a person's mental state when he is absorbed in something or an activity.
From the perspective of the five elements, there are often children who are punished, killed, broken and rushed to the sun column in the time bureau, and their innate thinking mode is easily disturbed and disturbed. If they can overcome this interference, their anti-interference ability will be stronger than that of ordinary people, and many celebrities have these structures. The five elements are a complex system and cannot be generalized. What I said may be wrong, for reference only.
Usually, what we think about in life is concentration, that is, not making small moves, looking very focused, doing what we are told, finishing what we do, and so on.
In fact, in addition to the way we think of concentration, there are many children who have different ways of concentration.
For example, some children seem to play around and be careless, but it is in this state that children will concentrate and learn things.
For example, Xiaoshi, the second child of my family, gives people the feeling of looking east and west in class and feeling touched east and west. It seems that the teacher didn't listen to the knowledge points, but after class you ask him: What did the teacher say? He can answer one by one. When I was helping him with his homework, I told him seriously that his old man played with rubber in his left hand and cards in his right hand. I really want to slap him. I stopped and asked him, What did Dad just say? He said: simple, 1: what what 2: what what?
But sometimes, I am very strict with him and let him look at me with his little hand on his back. Seriously, study should look like study. This result is not in the state. He also said very grievance, Dad, why are you so fierce? It seems that I misunderstood his so-called carelessness.
Today's children are serious and focused far beyond our imagination. Can you reply to the barrage, listen to songs and write at the same time at an early age? And so on to complete different content.
In our company, some colleagues wear earplugs and read books while working. If they are quiet, they can't concentrate on thinking without these stimuli.
Some people think most easily when they are exercising. For example, I listen to books most efficiently while driving and running.
Some children especially like to turn pens when they are studying. When he turns a pen, he moves his hand. His hand is connected with his heart, and his heart is connected with his brain. In fact, his mind is working rapidly. The faster his hand turns, the more flexible his brain becomes. Such a child is likely to have a punishment structure. Children with punishment bureaus often have the ability to multitask, and they always do something irrelevant when doing one thing. For example, an article that was widely circulated on the Internet some time ago: Look at a child's eraser and you will know whether the child is serious in class.
Others, when they are extremely focused, will close their eyes and stay there, feeling trance, while in others' eyes, they may seem to be dozing off and not paying attention.
Only when you are sick will you feel sorry for each other. If you don't have these qualities, it's not easy to understand. Observe and experience more in life. The five elements originate from life. Teacher Wen told us to take life as our teacher.
Toys at home are also an important factor affecting children's concentration. There are too many toys in our house, and there is no place to put them, so we are reluctant to throw them away. So we took a room to put toys and let them play in the room when they wanted to play, but I later found a phenomenon through observation: toy A didn't play for a few minutes, but was attracted by toy B, playing with toy B and toy C made a sound.
Buy some big storage boxes and put away the toys. Each child only keeps his favorite toys. When they are really tired of playing, they will change to another one, as fresh and focused as playing with new toys.
When children play with a single toy, do parents play with it? In other words, when the child didn't ask the adults to play with him, did we play with the child?
I wanted to play with him before, but playing with him made the children unhappy. Later, I consulted many parenting books and learned the truth. In fact, children want to solve their own problems like adults. When they don't feel the need for help, adults will feel incompetent. Montessori said: Adults just need to watch quietly.
Finally I can understand that when I play with his toys, it is his home. Another phenomenon is that if adults play better than children and adults win every time, children will feel great frustration.
Children will not find adults to play with. When the child is playing, if the child does not say no, that is to say, the child still wants to play or is still playing, we should not interrupt him. Interrupting children is a common problem in our family [covering face] [covering face] [covering face]. There are three children in my family, not to mention the interruption between them. There are two old people and grandparents at home.
There is a phenomenon that we should pay special attention to: grandparents help their children by pouring water and cutting fruits from time to time to show their love for them. They are busy before and after [covering their faces], and sometimes they say: come and drink water, sometimes they say: come and eat fruit, and sometimes they say: neither too hot nor too cold, and they will constantly interrupt the children's attention.
Let's be clear: it's not that the elderly are bad, just because of their cognitive level. They think this is the best way to love children.
So, how to cultivate concentration?
From the perspective of modern parenting education system theory:
As a special quality and ability, concentration needs to be acquired through training. There are many methods, such as: using the power of positive goals to cultivate interest in the quality of concentration, having confidence in the quality of concentration, being good at eliminating external interference, being good at eliminating internal interference, dealing with the relationship between study and rest with a clear rhythm, having a quiet space, cleaning up the brain, training all the senses, not staying on the difficult points, biofeedback technology, etc., all of which are basically effective as long as they persist.
From the ancient theory of Yin-Yang and Five Elements:
You can also provide two relatively simple suggestions. First, allow children to think, and parents learn to wait appropriately. Let him go over his ideas, and then you can point them out, or let the children find them themselves. The advantage of this is that the child's thinking is coherent, not broken. This is a process in which the god of food seals the seal.
Second, children are not allowed to think for the time being. First of all, they should fully accept their parents' opinions and do as their parents say. Children will gradually digest and form their own thoughts in the process of doing it. This is a way to completely return the food injury to India, and ancient masters often take their disciples in this way. This is usually a process in which injured officials are biased.
According to my own parenting experience:
Linking passive concentration with active concentration makes passive things simple, interesting and fun. For example, if a child wears clothes, I will compete with him to dress faster and then deliberately lose to him. Sometimes I am faster than him, but I wear my clothes backwards, [covering my face] [covering my face]. For example, I brushed my teeth with him and ended up brushing my nose [covering my face] [covering my face] [covering my face] and so on.
Most of the above are external factors that affect children's concentration, so what are the internal factors? There is a famous saying in western psychology: the best love for children is that parents love each other.
Parents' attitude towards the world, children will learn, especially when children are young, has the characteristics of absorbing the mind, can be fully absorbed, and all children can feel it. Parents are dedicated and active, and their children are not bad. Conversely, children's attitude towards their parents is also their attitude towards the world. Don't let the children worry about themselves, let them move forward wholeheartedly. Don't burden your child with thoughts, so that he can concentrate.
But the love between parents also has a very complete theoretical basis in the knowledge system of Yin-Yang and Five Elements.
Because children are two people, half is your family system; Half is your wife's family system. Children not only inherit your strengths and weaknesses, but also your wife's strengths and weaknesses. Who is better than the specific inheritance? It depends on the inheritance of the five elements of blood.
Then, since the child belongs to both of you, in his inner world, his body needs to be integrated, and these originally mutually exclusive genes need to be fused together. If the integration is good, it is his skill; If the integration is not good, it will form contradictions, conflicts and entanglements of internal personality. ...
Therefore, in order to cure the problem of inattention, I personally think that the family atmosphere, especially the relationship between parents is very important. The harmony of family relations is the most important thing for children to feel at ease.
Of course, parents know their children best. All views in this article are for reference only. The same prescription, different people have different curative effects, not to mention my armchair strategist. What suits you is the best. As Professor Li Shanyou always said: Everything I said is wrong.