2. Being jealous of others won't add any benefits to yourself. Envy of others does not reduce their achievements.
3. Fate is half in God's hands, and the other half in your own hands. Success is to win the other half in God's hands with half in your own hands.
4. Gratitude for regret means gratitude for the gift of life; Thanks for regret, the road ahead will be more solid; Thank you for your regret, so there won't be too many regrets in the future.
Marriage is like picking up shells. Don't pick up the biggest and most beautiful ones, but pick up your favorite ones. If you find them, don't go to the seaside again.
6. No matter how tall a person is, he sometimes needs to stand on tiptoe, no matter how short, he sometimes needs to bend over.
7. When you are happy, you should think that this happiness is not eternal. When you are in pain, you should think that this pain is not eternal.
8. Only by knowing yourself, surrendering yourself and changing yourself can we change others.
9. Even if the whole world says I'm beautiful, but you say I'm not beautiful, then I'm not beautiful.
10. If you can let everything go with her, you are a free man in this world.
1 1. Happiness is not stifled by fatal mistakes, but crushed by small mistakes again and again. Mistakes are temporary regrets, and misses are eternal regrets.
12. Never waste a minute thinking about people you don't like.
13. How many people will say the same thing when they leave this world? The world is really helpless and desolate!
14. No one loves me more than you. I miss you very much these days.
15. In your most painful time, there are birds singing happily outside the window; When you are happiest, someone is suffering from illness and struggling with death.
16. No one can forget, nothing can't be put down, and nothing is worth remembering.
17. Who is the concert without an audience for? What is the need to continue?
18. Take your complaints out in the sun every day, and you won't be short of calcium.
19. The world is a big stage, the company is a small stage, the family is the backstage, life is a series, and we are the protagonists.
20. If you put it down, you will have no worries.
2 1. Everyone has five balls that keep spinning: work, health, family, friends and soul. Work is a rubber ball, which will rebound when it falls; The other four are all glass balls. If you drop them on the ground, they will break.
22. Gratitude for regret means gratitude for the gift of life; Thanks for regret, the road ahead will be more solid; Thank you for your regret, so there won't be too many regrets in the future.
23. The furthest distance in the world is not the distance between life and death, but the second I went online, but you went offline.
24. When you give advice to others, it is useless if you don't consider others' self-esteem.
25. What should be abandoned is helplessness, what should not be abandoned is incompetence, what should not be abandoned is ignorance, and what should not be abandoned is persistence.
26. Forgiving others means leaving room for manoeuvre in your mind.
27. Everyone has a life, but not everyone knows life and even cherishes it. Life is a punishment for people who don't understand life.
28. Beautiful women are pleasing to the eye, and mature women are pleasing to the eye.
29. Please speak out your dissatisfaction and grievances with sympathy and gentleness, and others will accept them easily.
30. Being jealous of others won't add any benefits to yourself. Envy of others does not reduce their achievements.
3 1. There is no need to look back and see who cursed you. If a mad dog bites you, do you have to get down and bite back?
32. When you persuade others, no matter how good it is, if you don't consider others' self-esteem.
33. To learn to forgive is to learn to obey your own heart and forgive the implication.
34. People are always tolerant of strangers and critical of familiar people.
35. You can't be the happiest yourself, but you must be the truest yourself.
36. Seeing the departure of time, we wake up one month and fly over an ocean of time. We are often hurt in love.
37. Suddenly find yourself so useless. If you make me unhappy, I'm not happy. You make me cry, and I cry. But you never made me laugh.
Adversity makes you smart, but it doesn't make you rich.
40. Of all the oral and handwritten sentences, the saddest thing is that it could have been.
Only by changing attitude can we change the height of life.
For those who think too much, the only way to save themselves is to simply and rudely force themselves to accept the reality and omit the detour from dream to reality. When the reality is really in front of them, they are happy to find that things are not so bad-congratulations on entering the no choice mode.
Along the way, every season is incomplete, and every story has dark wounds. Emotion is false, reality is true, and time is obviously gone. It's really not easy to sober yourself up. What you want may not belong to you, but what you get may not be what you expect. The weather is beautiful, and people have fortunes. How do you look at life? Life responds to you.
When you are tired, don't lament too much. You should know that you are tired before you know how to be strong and cherish. If you have a kind heart, you have nothing to worry about; If you are kind, there will be no hateful people; If the heart is simple, the world is empty. Be a good person, have a good attitude and a stable dream; To do good, God knows what to learn from ghosts and gods. If you don't doubt, the world is not cold. No, the end of the world is not far. The sky is warm if you don't hate it. If you don't talk, the world will be peaceful.
Success is when you wake up, no matter where you are, no matter how old you are, you quickly bounce out of bed, because you can't wait to do what you love, believe and have the talent to do. This job is greater and more sacred than you personally. You can't wait to get up and jump into its arms.
Soft-hearted people often like to decorate with hard things, which is why so many blue flame diamonds are treasured by women. But people with strong hearts like to play weak roles, so there will be lingering skirts. So, don't just look at the surface. A soft girl who looks weak may have a roaring uncle in her heart. And that woman with her waist crossed and her mouth full of rude words is full of soft sadness.
We put off a lot of things until tomorrow, not because we can't do it today, not because we are not free today, but because of our long-established habit of procrastination. We always think that nothing will happen in just one night, but many regrets will be formed tomorrow, and "the past is no longer" has become an eternal law.
The biggest problem in life is to care too much about what others think of you. But does anyone really care about you? There are only three kinds of people in this world, those who love you, those who hate you and those who don't care about you. It is impossible for everyone to be nice to you, but as long as one person is willing to be nice to you, you have to be responsible for the other party. This is the meaning of our life. In order to love the person you love, you must love back, which is a kind of responsibility and luck.
Those who hit monsters should be careful not to become monsters. When you stare at the abyss from a distance, the abyss also stares at you.
A rational heart is like a sharp knife. This is called bleeding on the user's hand.
In life, sometimes you should indulge yourself and don't put chains on yourself. Laugh until the clouds open and the sun rises, and cry until the sky is dark. Love is carried away, and hate is painful. Drink until you are drunk, and quit. Sing until it resounds through the sky and is silent. Go to the ends of the earth and sit still. Crazy is arrogant, humble is penniless.
In life, it's really hard to find someone who loves you, loves you, respects each other, loves you innocently and never gives up. If you are lucky enough to be such a person, please cherish what you have in front of you.
Tell ta boldly if you love someone, or watch others bravely love ta.
No industry is easy to make money. Can't earn money, earn knowledge; Can't earn knowledge, earn experience; Can't earn experience, earn experience! Only by changing your attitude first can you change the height of life.
We should not be too happy or too sad about something. One of the reasons is that everything is changing. Another reason is that our judgment of what is good and what is bad is illusory. So, almost everyone has been sad about something, but it turned out to be a great good thing in the end.
All changes are accompanied by pain. There are thousands of life stories, each with a different version. Looking back, there will always be feelings when the lights are dim. When marriage meets, it always leaves warmth. Happy in every scenery, relieved in every look back, happy in the present, not changing the scenery for anyone, not missing the music of your own life.
It is better to change yourself than to complain about others. You can't change others, you can only change yourself.
Don't waste your energy expecting to change others. The only thing you can do is to change yourself. When you want to change others, have you ever thought that others need to change?
Don't waste time expecting others to be different.
Author: Onado
The only thing that can change is you.
Look at your life honestly and write down the names of the people you want to change now, your colleagues, your life partners, your family, your friends, your boss and a bank manager. Then, look back on your life and think about how many times you have to multiply to calculate the total number of people you want to change.
Think about how many hours, days, weeks and months you have spent in your life trying to change others for this, only to get disappointment and sadness. Because no one has changed, no one has been changed as you expected. If you add up these days, it may be several years. Have you ever wasted precious time in your life to change someone?
The only thing that can change is yourself! Let's see what happens when we join this popular pastime with the same interest as others.
Think of a person who has overwhelmed you recently, close your eyes and recall the scene at that time, feel that you have returned to that time, recall your place and all the details, recall your feelings at that moment, and relive the feelings you once had, even if you didn't notice the change at that time.
Remember that situation and pay attention to the changes in your body: feel the tension and tightness it brings to you, probably in your stomach, your neck and shoulders, your forehead, your mouth and around your eyes. Check your breathing. Is it relaxed or tight and shallow?
Don't judge yourself by what you see, just write them down. Ask yourself: Is this a pleasant feeling? Can it nourish me? Is it good for my health? Does it make me feel open or shrinking, warm or cold, hard or soft? Would I want my good friend to feel the same way?
Go through that situation again and see how you hurt yourself when you ask others to change.
You hurt others, too. You embarrassed them. Then the other side began to resist. Even if they know that you are right, they will fight to the end to protect their dignity and face. Asking them to give in is asking them to play the role of children, being told that you know more than them, that you know exactly what they need or what they should do, and I will never allow this to happen.
Experience tells you that the more you try to change others, the more others resist you, which forms a vicious circle, and then both of you feel worse.
So, trying to change others is like hitting your head against the wall.
Anyway, ask yourself, is it really my responsibility to change others? Respect them like this? What kind of answer will you get?
Your mind will make a reasonable explanation: it's for their own good: they can't see the bad effects of their own problems on themselves and others: that's why they can make progress, and so on.
But your intuition, your feelings, knew something was wrong. Who are you to judge others? Do you feel superior? Are you perfect yourself?
Behind the conflict is the injured self.
Let's look at these facts:
This man has his own unconscious reasons for becoming what he is now. Perhaps their unconscious behavior angered you, but that kind of reaction belongs to you, coming from your unsatisfied need to be loved, respected and accepted, or unrealistic expectations.
Look at the list you want from others to make you happy. Is it all related to your need to be loved, accepted and respected?
They are your own needs, but you unrealistically want others to understand and satisfy them. The fact is that others can't meet your needs. Is it really their job to meet your needs?
They have their own unconscious reasons, not personal reasons. You don't know their life experiences, how they were treated when they were young, what unconscious beliefs they carried, how they protected themselves from harm, and learned to hide their love needs with tough armor.
You can continue to blame them and project your unrealistic expectations on them, hoping that they will become people who are not them. Or, you can use more wisdom in this situation.
Behind the conflict with others is the injured self.
As long as you understand this, you will have a chance to see yourself clearly and ask yourself: Why should I insist on changing this person?
If you are honest with yourself, you will see that behind all your rationalization, there is a wounded self telling others that you ignore me, don't respect me, don't like me, don't love me and don't accept me. Something like that.
This is a self who can't feel love, appreciate and be accepted behind our conflicts with others. If you can recognize yourself, you can also recognize others. And consciousness is a panacea to solve all conflicts.
What does this mean? When we feel that we are not respected and accepted, we will take drastic or negative revenge, whether it is direct verbal abuse or indirect sabotage. Revenge creates a vicious circle of conflict, which often gets out of control.
If you can understand why you react to others and what you expect them to change, then you will know what kind of responsibility you have to take for yourself and you will get a more favorable choice.
Give yourself more respect and appreciation as a start, because if you really appreciate and accept yourself, can other people's reactions to you still affect you? Do you still need to rely so much on others' obedience to affirm yourself? Think deeply.
If you realize that your inner unconsciousness leads to your reaction to others, and you are eager to be recognized, accepted and loved, then there will be a power within you to stop this self-struggle. You realize that the revenge made by your injured self is actually childish and ridiculous. Knowing this can reassure you. You put it down! This understanding also makes you humble and makes you return to yourself, body and mind.
Go back to yourself and give you a chance to see how people are driven by their own unconscious. What kind of life and experience constitute how they were treated as children; What kind of faith they carry to themselves and their strong desire for love.
By connecting with your own desire and pain for acceptance, you can connect with the other person's desire and pain for acceptance, which opens the way for a brand-new communication quality.
If you can't change others, change your sentence sharing.
If you can't change others, you can change your own judgment. If you want to change things, you must first change yourself. Only by changing yourself can we change the world.
2. To change yourself is to change your shortcomings, and to change yourself is to change your backward side! Facing the future life, we should have the courage and determination to change ourselves. With these, our life will always be full of vitality!
Be true to yourself and don't change yourself for anyone. If you can't accept the worst me, then you don't deserve the best me. ...
Two years ago, I wouldn't believe that I was trying to change my face and do something I didn't care about. The change was just to better stand by and meet better people.
I love you not because of who you are, but because you happen to be my type. I want to marry you, not because you are from there, but because you are you. I love you, you don't need to change yourself. You always say you are thinner, you know, I just like your slimness. A lot of love is unreasonable, but we have been in love for a while, so please cherish me and ourselves! If one day, I no longer love each other, I will live well until I meet the right person again!
6. For you, I tried to change myself in the direction you want, and as a result, I lost my soul; For you, I actively face the reality and seriously give you the life you want, but my running pace can't keep up with your imagination; For you, I have hurt myself countless times, and countless desperate hearts have turned you into inertia pain in my heart ... I don't want to struggle any more, I really want to stop, just to touch the wound and give myself a little warmth.
7. Changing yourself for one person is actually meaningless to that person.
8. Changing yourself does not mean losing yourself, giving up the principle of being a man and changing your advantages. Only by removing your own bad things can you keep it better. Only when you know what is constant can you find out what you need to change.
9. Nature is a great school for cultivating the mind. Don't forget my favorite proverb: "Nature is always beautiful." [France] Rodin's Rodin's Art Theory, p. 73.
10. Study hard for China! A pack of China cigarettes is a lot of money.
1 1. Change your laziness, get rid of your bad habits, and slowly you will find that your changes have made life much smoother. Good morning!
12. If things have come true and you can't change them, then you should learn to be patient and wait until the time is right to create success.
13. Life is actually a process of choice. If a person chooses to succeed every time, what he gets will be failure forever.
14. The body is your own, health is your own, and discomfort is also your own. Don't eat whatever you want.
15. People who don't work hard are not qualified to ask the world to give you anything.
16. The years are neither short nor short. Although you never know the accident or who will come first tomorrow, everything is worth paying and waiting for the flowers to bloom.
17. I believe that God is testing me, and I will definitely redouble my efforts.
18. Our love had an accident, and I am trying to save it.
19. Many times, when the world around us and the surrounding environment are not satisfactory, many people tend to take a confrontational or passive attitude, which can only lead to more loss and retrogression.
20. As long as you can stick to lofty ideals and have the will to never stop until you reach your goal, you can generate amazing power.
If you can't change others, just change your own words. As long as you are a person who tries to change yourself, there will be no regrets in our life!
22. Changing ideas, habits and lifestyles will often create infinite scenery!
We used to do a lot of things impulsively, but now we don't, not because we don't want to do anything, but because we start to be afraid. The more you grow up, the more fragile and cautious you are. Perhaps, at that time, we all lost our courage.
24. Changing yourself will be painful, but not changing yourself will be bitter.
25. I have been working hard for that aimless result.
26. Youth is capital, but any effort is worthless.
27. People who can make good use of their time can master the direction of their own efforts.
28. As long as you work hard enough, nothing is impossible to change.
29. I only try to bloom when the gentle moon comes out.
30. Life is beautiful only when it comes out, and it is not brilliant when it comes out; Life has no beginning once and for all, and there is no irreversible end. Even if everything is lost, there is no reason to despair as long as there is breath. We may not be able to change the environment, but we can change ourselves; You can't change the past, but you can grasp the present; You can't do everything smoothly, but you can do everything wholeheartedly; You can't choose your appearance, but you can show your smile.
3 1. If you can't change the world, change yourself.
32. The poor will be stingy, and being stingy will benefit the poor. Rich people will be generous, and generosity will make money.
33. The strong are not necessarily the winners, but the winners must be the strong.
34. Men and women, you should all have a good life. Try to be happy.
35. I have tried, but I can only be fulfilled by fate.
36. Determination is the beginning of success.
The harder you work, the better your luck will be. Luck is always hidden in your efforts.
38. Women, like flowers, should strive to bloom gracefully and wither gracefully.
39. The starting point of life is not so important, but where you can finally reach. There are too many people smiling at you in this world. There are too few people who really tolerate you. How I wish someone could tell me that you don't have to change yourself, I just need to get used to you.
40. Don't ask others to change for you, because you are not qualified to ask others, all you can do is change yourself!