Confucius said in "The Analects of Confucius for Politics":

I have five tenths, but I am determined to learn. Stand at 30, don't be confused at 40, know your destiny at 50, listen at 60, and walk at 70 without overstepping the bounds.

"Standing at 30" is Confucius' self-evaluation of his life at the age of 30.

In this sentence, "standing up" at the age of 30, as well as "not confused", "knowing the destiny", "listening to the ear" and "following the heart without overstepping the moment" all refer to a certain state or realm that should be reached at the corresponding age.

Confucius said, "If you don't learn manners, you can't stand."

Therefore, the ancient "thirty-year-old" is standing on the "ceremony". Simply put, it is to establish inner moral beliefs and external behavior norms.

Times are changing. Today, two thousand years later, we follow the old adage "Stand at thirty". What should we stand for?

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Establish values

Strengthen your heart, don't swing from side to side.

Hegel once put forward the theory of "righteousness, opposition and combination", which corresponds to the three stages of life.

Before I was a teenager, I felt that everything was beautiful, and this was a "positive" stage. When I step into the society in my twenties, the ideal and gap are getting farther and farther, and troubles, pressures and setbacks follow one after another ... Limited knowledge and immature thoughts will rebound if I can't give a reasonable answer to the question, which is the "anti-"stage. By the age of 30, with the growth of age and the deepening of experience, he gradually formed his own thoughts and values, and his views on the world and life became more and more reasonable, comprehensive and objective. This is the stage of "combination".

At the age of 30, at this stage of "integration", we must first "stand up" internally, establish our own values, strengthen our hearts, have our own value judgments and choices, and don't swing from side to side.

What kind of life we choose and what kind of road we take always have choices and likes and dislikes;

There will always be certain standards for what is in favor of, against and against.

This standard also comes from values.

At the age of 30, you can't be as ignorant as a teenager, and you can't be as vacillating as a teenager around 20. This is the so-called value orientation:

Treating the country and society is "nothing to do with yourself", "family affairs, state affairs and everything in the world, and everything is concerned", or "every man is responsible for the rise and fall of the country"?

Should we pursue wealth, honor and status, realize our dreams vigorously, or live a simple and comfortable life?

When dealing with love and marriage, will you care about each other through thick and thin, will you treat Qi Mei with mutual respect, or will you not miss those who died in the past?

A person's values determine a person's value orientation, which in turn determines a person's way of thinking and behavior.

No matter how you treat the society, yourself and your family, what you do comes from the values that were originally formed.

Therefore, if you want to get something for nothing in life, you must be firm in your heart around the age of 30 and don't swing from side to side.

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Establish a sense of responsibility

Face it calmly and take responsibility bravely.

Mao Mu once said: "To make a person show his true nature, it is the most effective way to ask him to bear a responsibility."

In today's society, whether it is a staff member at work or a husband in the family, a responsible man and a responsible man, they all have their own aura.

Wang Xiaobo said in Thirty:

"Thirty-year-old shoulders are no longer a person's, but a man's responsibility. There are old people, wives and children. "

Song Hongan, who appeared on the list of "Good People in Guizhou" last year, is such a "standing" person.

In 2002, Song Hongan's wife was pregnant with twins, one of whom died during the fifth month of pregnancy, and the other was diagnosed with cerebral palsy because of fetal death toxin infection and dystocia.

On the one hand, Song Hongan, who works in the media, has to take care of his elderly parents, on the other hand, he has to comfort his wife about the loss of her child and the pain of her child's disability, and take good care of this disabled infant son.

At the same time, Song Hongan did his job well.

This god-like man has withstood all the pressures, buried all the pains and injuries in his heart, and propped up a sky for his parents, wife and children with his sunshine, optimism, responsibility and responsibility.

Song Hongan often laughs at himself, saying that his life motto is "half-hearted":

Filial piety, loyalty, love, friendship and faith.

That's what he said and did. This sentence should also be the motto of everyone's life.

A man who brings home the bacon is a man with indomitable spirit. In fact, the shadow of a 30-year-old man is responsibility:

Let the children see the most beautiful morning glow,

Let his wife see the warmest sunshine at noon,

Let parents see the reddest sunset on the horizon,

Let yourself see the way you want to go.

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Set the direction of life

Make a firm choice and don't forget your initiative.

Some people say that the hardest road in life is the heart, and it is very difficult for Do not forget your initiative mind, and it is even more difficult to stick to the original heart.

Buddha said, "It doesn't matter where we come from, what matters is where we are going."

Buddha said: "The most important thing in life is not where to stand, but where to go. As long as you don't lose your way, you will never lose yourself. "

What is the direction of life?

There is a famous saying in Homer's epic Odyssey:

"Nothing is more unbearable than wandering aimlessly."

The so-called direction of life is the ideal and goal of life, deciding what to do, where to go and how to get there.

Wang Anshi was clever since childhood and never forgets anything. Since childhood, I have traveled around with my father as an official, witnessed the hardships of the people's lives, and made the ambition of "changing the world and changing customs" when I was thirty, and insisted on "reforming the law" and ruled the world all my life.

Xu Xiake is determined to travel around the world. After more than 30 years of arduous trekking, he traveled all over the country with one foot. "What people can't reach, what people don't know" has finally become everyone.

The road to dreams is always full of thorns and bumps, and fatigue and confusion are inevitable. Some people choose to compromise with reality and go with the flow;

Some people get lost on the road and hesitate to move forward;

But there are also some people who will keep Do not forget your initiative mind and continue to move in their inner direction.

Wang Guozhen said that since he chose a distant place, he only cared about hardships.

Thirty years old is a watershed in life. At this age, we must establish our own life development direction and firm a life path.

There is such a couplet on Mount Tai: "The sea ends, the sky is the shore, the mountain climbs to the top, and I am the peak."

This is the ancient people's admiration for mountains and rivers. This sentence is not to conquer mountains and rivers, but to pursue self-improvement. Climb to the top of the mountain, and you are another peak on the top.

Life is like this. One mountain after another you have to climb is yourself.

Du Jiaer said: "Life is an endless desire, which keeps rising and becoming greater and nobler."

At the age of 30, there are infinite possibilities in the future.

At this mature age, only by "establishing" responsibility, direction and values can we live a good life.

The beginning of life. Nature is good. Don't look at others. Just look at people.